Marriage is lovely. There's nothing like meeting the right person and making a commitment to them for life. Marriage can be bliss if you meet the right person, but it can also be hell if you meet the Devil's Dad or Satan's Mistress. There are articles highlighting couples that have been married in excess of 70+ years. That puts a smile on my face because only God can keep two people together that long. There's a black North Carolina couple that holds the longest marriage record to date; the man is 104 and the woman is 101. They've been married for 86 years! Other couples have made the news for being married 70+ years. Those couples give me hope because they can school most people on what it takes to have a successful marriage. Why wouldn't anyone want to take advice from a married couple that's been married 80 years or more? Matter of fact, when or if I get married, granted it will be with the PERFECT woman but I'll seek out wise counsel from marriage veterans. Nowadays, marriage is a joke (yes I said it) for the simple fact that people get divorce over BS. Your man/woman pissed you off so you're going to leave them. Granted, there should be clear-cut boundaries of what both parties won't accept in a marriage but to split up over miniscule matters just shows the couple didn't think it through careful enough. Either couples get married for the wrong reasons or they get married for "love." Sorry, but it takes a lot more than love to have a successful marriage. You have to accept your man/woman saying and/or doing things to upset you. If you're not willing to weather life's storms together, what's the point of getting married? Really. Some people aren't cut out for marriage because they aren't willing to do the work. If I'm going to get married, I'm in it to win it. I want to be down for my wife to the very end and hopefully she'll have my back just the same. Otherwise, I'll remain single and continue getting myself together, working on my goals (which I'm well on my way to achieving) so I can be on point for my mate, whoever she is. If I'm bringing 100%, she better be willing to do the same.
I did it once. I would say it was a big mistake but it was a lesson learned. I had a child and THOUGHT I had to be married but at least I was smart enough to get out of it early. Although not before child #2. I did learn that I was not IN LOVE and he was not my friend. A true marriage requires friendship. When you are friends you can accept faults. I mean how often do we get upset at our friends yet we are still friends. Love must be unconditional, but seeing how many of us don't live the LORD unconditionally then we don't know how to apply that towards man. I will firstget married again and he will be my friend before we are lovers. If he is not willing to cultivate that friendship, then he is NOT the one
ReplyDeleteYou and I are on the same page with this. If I can't see myself being friends with a woman, why take her on as a potential soulmate? If more people took the friendship approach to relationships, divorce would not be an issue.
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