Monogamy seems to be a lost art in relationships, many people rip and run from one person to the next in hopes of finding "The One". I'm all for finding Mr(s) Right, but you shouldn't have to date a bunch of people in order to find the right person. Use discernment. If you don't get good vibes about a person, cut them loose and move on. No sense in forcing something to work when some relationships just aren't meant to be. Nowadays, it's common for people to be in a relationship and have someone on the side. Wowwww....so you're that greedy to where you want your cake and eat it too? The game must have changed over the years. Relationships must be like sports, have your star players and if they slack in their game, call for a substitution. Call me crazy, but if (or when) I get with a woman, I'm in it for LIFE. It's me and her and I'll expect the same committment in return from her. No other woman will have my eye but the Misses. We need to go back to the old school where a man and woman got together and it was real love. No creeping, just one man and woman for life. Many people aren't willing to settle down so they want to see what else is out there. For them, being tied down to one person is not a good look. To flip the script, why get into a relationship without the intent of staying with the same man or woman til death do you part? Nowadays, you have married couples that have another man or woman on the side. Shakes Head at the sorry state of relationships.
Its really disheartening for those of us who want just one person in life. For me, my only options are to be with one man or to be single. I can't even fathom running with this one or that one as a single woman. Sure I could, but who could I expect to respect me? How could I respect myself? I don't even understand how people accept being the side dish instead of the entree. I also don't get how the entree "settles" for being treated as less.
ReplyDeleteIm at the age that im now lookin to settle.....it seems like its a role reversal...most women i meet nowadays use the term im doin me as a way of saying i like seeing who i want when i want...so its harder for a brotha than it once was
ReplyDeleteI agree! Its a sad sad thing. This subject has bothered me for a long time. I just don't understand.
ReplyDeleteSharen-It's like that for many of us looking for a relationship. You don't know if the person you meet wants to be with you or wants to use you as a trial, to see what else is out there. I'm all about the entree, forget the side dish. The entree is way better than the side dish. Chill-You already know you have my full support in finding Ms.Right. Don't settle for any of these sackchasers because many of them aren't about nothing. Unfortunately that "I'm doing me" mentality is all too prevalent. She can do her right by herself or with these low self-esteem brothers. I think it's always been harder for a brotha in terms of finding a quality mate. You have to sift through the garbage in order to find that precious diamond.
ReplyDeleteNicki-You and me both Either commit to one person or keep your butt single. Not that hard.