People Are Not Who They Say They Are

Excerpt from Joel Osteen’s Rule Your Day:

“God sees what we can’t see. He knows what we don’t, so wouldn’t it make sense to go to Him? People aren’t who they say they are. They show you the side they want you to see, but God sees the big picture. Don’t get caught up in the physical appearance because you may be getting involved with the devil.”

This!💯💪🏾People could save themselves a lot of trouble if they practiced discernment. I’m getting better in discernment that the slightest discomfort, I’m gone. ✌🏾 

Generosity

Being generous doesn't mean allowing yourself to be used. Sometimes, saying no is necessary because if people realize you’re too generous, they can use you if you let them. I’m generous to a degree, but if I feel taken advantage of, I have no problem pulling back. Nobody’s obligated to do for anyone, so if someone goes out of their way for a person, the least that person could do is appreciate it.

Throwback Thursday: Fake Love

Some people don't care about you or love you, but they want to stay connected to you because they love the benefits, so they do the minimum: A call or text from time to time. "What's good? Everything straight?" They're trying to maintain that fake connection so they'll have a way in when they need you. When you've caught on to their games & cut them loose, they say you're acting brand new. No, I know how this movie ends. Pay attention or you'll be the star of the show every time and wonder why you keep going through the same foolishness. 

Discipline Leads To Strength

Repost: Credit to Jason Nichols (Facebook User)

Good morning,

The Torah, the Bible, the Qur’an and other religious texts (that I’m less familiar with) were trying to teach men an important lesson that is often misinterpreted.  They all have explicit warnings about powerful men falling for women to their ultimate detriment.  Whether it’s David or Sampson, many interpret this in a sexist way, where it’s supposedly saying ‘watch out for women’ or ‘you can’t trust women.’

What it is actually saying is that a sexually undisciplined man is ultimately a weak one. He’ll betray his friends, his nation, and sabotage himself.  He can be the strongest physically but will ultimately open himself to lose battles. He’s easily distracted and manipulated.  

A man who is willing walk away from sexual opportunities is incredibly powerful.  He doesn’t need validation. He doesn’t need quick thrills to distract him from his pain. He is patient as he seeks deeper, long term love rather than short term affection. He probably loves and values himself.

Rather than do the hard work of mastering self control, we’ve blamed women when shallow sexual pursuits lead to trouble and drama. The Torah/Bible/Qur’an warned us, but we decided to reinterpret it so that we had less responsibility.  

Discipline leads to strength. A disciplined athlete eats right, trains hard, and avoids things that may interfere with his/her goals. A disciplined student studies hard and forgoes parties. They win in the long run.

A sexually disciplined man finds deeper connections, is harder to control, and isn’t constantly seeking validation.

Young men should realize it’s not how many women like you, or want to sleep with you, or say you’re a good lover that makes you a strong man. It’s actually how little you need to hear those things and still value yourself that shows your strength. 

My view: This brother is on point with everything. Sexual irresponsibility has led to the downfall of influential men. High-profile men see an attractive woman & lose their senses, not realizing those women are interested in his status, not him. As soon as he loses his influence, those women are gone. Discipline is required to become one’s best version of themselves.

Men Who Gossip

 Pulled From The Archives:

This goes out to these so-called men: Contrary to popular belief, men gossip just as much, if not more than women. These dudes are the same ones that sit down to pee. What happened to men that weren't afraid to bring it directly to you instead of getting on some gossip foolishness? Men that gossip about other men are not men, they're women. In that case, they might as well invest in skinny jeans and women's clothing because their man card should be revoked. Am I the only REAL MAN in existence that doesn't get on that gossipy, girl behavior? I have an issue with you, I'll bring it to you in your face. Some of these men need to go to a strip club and slide down poles.

Today’s Thought

Repost, but still true for me

The more I observe, the more I understand why I’ve never been a people person because most of y’all are flaw. If some of you aren’t doing snake mess, then it’s being phony & I don’t & won’t associate with fakes, 🐀 & snitches. 

Hiring Help

You can't make this up. Hiring housekeepers & chefs to do what you should be doing yourself. Has society beome so lazy that we rather hire help than do our own housework? It's craziness to me, but to each their own. I'm too old school to hire a chef or housekeeper, I'd rather do it myself because it's MY home. Coming up, my parents made me do chores because I needed to learn responsibility. I had a stake in living in the home, so I had to help maintain it. I'm glad because now that I'm grown, it's second nature for me to clean my home & cook my meals whenever necessary. Even if I can afford to hire a housekeeper or chef, I wouldn't. Why pay someone to do what you should be doing for free, in YOUR home. Modern conveniences have made us lazy because as soon as we get money, we lose our work ethic. Some of us hire housekeepers instead of getting off our butts and cleaning OUR home. That will never be me.