"I would rather listen to my girl argue, fuss and nag every second of every day than to hush her. Telling her to "be quiet & stop complaining," huffing & puffing & rolling your eyes when she wants to express herself makes her cold. Dealing with her mouth is much easier than dealing with her silence..."-Michael McPherson Jr.
"Talk TO her not AT her! Regardless of if you think you're right, you still need to respect her as a woman and value how she feels. It's like she's begging to be heard, then when she speaks, you're listening with the intent to battle back rather than to comprehend."-Michael McPherson Jr.
Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and nagging wife.(Prov 21:19)
Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife.(Prov 21:9)
A quarrelsome wife is like the dripping of a leaky roof in a rainstorm.(Prov 21:17)
After reading this man's posts and the following scriptures, I have one thing to say: No real man wants a contentious wife. If the Bible speaks on valuing peace over arguing, why do some women insist on pushing the issue(s)? Let me be clear: Most men don't mind their woman voicing displeasure; it's the constant fighting that irks their nerves. The disconnect comes when some women don't feel heard, so according to them, they resort to nagging because that's the only way their man will hear them. Here's a few responses about this subject:
"His first post just sounds dumb to me. Who wants a nag, man or woman! Now in the second post I do agree with, and it's a 2 way street. It's called respect."-Aundrea Lott-Anderson
Me: There's a difference between voicing feelings when you're not happy & being argumentative, and that's where women get confused.
Ceci: Wait, so a woman is supposed to stay quiet and not voice her feelings if she isn't happy?
A woman is free to voice her feelings, but some women don't know how to pick their battles.. Most men don't have an issue with a woman voicing displeasure, but some women take it to another level and look for a reason to argue. If it's not one thing, it's another. It boils down to importance, what she considers important vs. his version of importance. If a man dismisses his woman's concerns, it means he doesn't consider it important enough for concern (either at that time or ever).
