Jun 30, 2015

He Feels Stuck


When it comes to relationships, it's important to choose the right person or you'll have the same issue as this person. This woman and her man have been together for a little over a year, and they have a child together. Both of them work, but her gripe with him was that he acts like a child. Call me crazy, but a working man is far from a child because he's taking care of a family. Meanwhile, he's entitled to down time, especially after a long day of getting money for his family. He smokes, drinks, invites his friends over, all of which are to his wife's disapproval. My view is this: On days when his boys are over, maybe she could do something with her girlfriends: Have a ladies' day out where it's just her and the womenfolk kekeing about their men (chances are, some of her girlfriends are probably single, but that's another topic), going shopping & out for drinks; you know, stuff women do when they get together. A man is allowed to kick back as he sees fit, especially if he's a good provider for his family. The only way I can see where his kicking back could be an issue is if he throws away money on his leisure; and he and his woman start arguing. Other than that, it's nothing to be in your feelings over. In closing, maybe he could feel stuck with her. Maybe she's being too demanding for some reason, and he's starting to check out of the relationship. I don't see the issue here: He has a job, taking care of his, etc. What more does she want from him?
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Jun 29, 2015

Being Grateful: Shaana Hunter

Not many of us can say the same.

Shaana Hunter
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I may not see eye to eye most times with my parents but I'm extremely grateful for the upbringing of being a blessing when blessed. Sometimes I'm head strong in my beliefs but that's only due to wanting the BEST for anyone in my circle or who crosses my path. I was loved AND raised hard and strong. I cover because I've been covered. My love doesn't come easy but its even harder to let it go.
Love doesn't die. It's a moving energy. Just stay connected. It'll come back around and revive you.

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Jun 28, 2015

Strawberry Letter | Steve Harvey in the Morning on WDAS: My Wife Does Too Much


These tit-for-tat letters are doing the most because they always start off like this: Wife cheats on husband, husband asks for divorce and wife wants to work it out. Or...husband cheats on his wife with his wife's mother or sister, wife goes berserk and all of a sudden his conscience eats at him so he wants to make it right with his wife. The common denominator in this letter is that BOTH of them cheated. Yes, BOTH are guilty of the same indiscretion so there's no need for either of them to be upset with each other. Yes, the husband cheated first and he was at fault, but the wife sunk to his level because she did the same thing out of spite. Because he cheated on his wife, she wanted him to hurt like she hurts. Just because one spouse cheats, it doesn't give the other spouse a pass to do the same, because (s)he's no better than their (wo)man. Someone has to be the better person and do one of two things: Try & get past the hurt or cut the relationship loose. Everyone that's read my stance on these Strawberry Letters knows my stance so I don't need to reiterate it. Once infidelity happens, it's tough to regain that trust because you can never look at him/her the same way. As a matter of fact, some people take cheating so seriously that if you cheat once, you're gone. No apologies, nothing. It's going to take God, and possibly counseling for them to get over their hurt because after all, both of them did each other foul so it's hard to say who's at fault because again, even though the husband cheated first, the wife was no better because she committed the same transgression.
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Jun 27, 2015

My Tweets on same-sex marriage

I will not apologize for standing up for righteousness. Feel how you want, and I'll feel how I want.


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Jun 26, 2015

Friday Gospel






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Jun 25, 2015

My Top 5

My blogs are usually 15-20 lines of commentary on various subjects, but I'm keeping today's entry short. I'm going to post my Top 5 tweets






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Jun 24, 2015

Parents Behind Bars

It seems like today's children go through so much. From bullying to divorce, today's kids are under a lot of stress. One of the toughest things for any child is seeing their parent(s) locked up. It's said that the family serves time with their offender because of missed milestones like graduation, kids' athletic events, etc. No child should have to experience a parent or loved one incarcerated; that must be hard on that child because (s)he looks up to them. That brings me to this question: Should children see their parent(s) in jail? I say yes, and let me explain why: Regardless of what that parent did(n't) do, that's still the child's father or mother. I believe seeing a parent in jail serves as a reminder of what happens if you make the wrong choices; you end up behind bars just like your loved one. You have some people who say "You want to see your kids, stay out of prison. I understand both points because some children are impressionable, and if they see mom or dad locked up, they get locked up so they can be like their mother and/or father.  

This was stated so eloquently by Denise Stay Positive:

Why do we try to shield our children from the choices we made?  If we decided to have children with an ex con -- male or female -- why shield them from that part of their life??? Parenting means we explain circumstances to them and position them in a way that those behaviors aren't repeated with them.  It's just life and children need to know about real life.  Mystery, suspense and hiding reality only makes children bitter.

In other words, seeing a parent behind bars is a learning tool because there are consequences, good or bad for the choices we make in life.
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