Return Of Richard's Gospel

During my hiatus from writing, the time off gave me time to reflect and refocus. The best bloggers will tell you that periodically you should step away from writing to clear your mind, and to get new inspiration. Never mind that I have other topics in the vault that I haven't covered, but this new material should ensure that I'm writing 6-7 days a week. When I started my hiatus, some people felt some kind of way about my absence. When people are upset about you not writing, that's when you know your material is good. I had another week to go before I came back, but I decided to make my return to writing today. With that said, my mind is renewed & I'm ready to continue exposing the foolishness I see around me. I don't know if I've mentioned this before, but if I haven't, here goes: I met someone on Facebook and we got to chatting about random topics, so I told her about my blog website, and she wanted the link so I gave it to her, and I look forward to her checking it out. It's so good to get back to blogging. I've missed writing daily commentaries, but the absence was necessary because I felt myself getting burned out. With anything I do, I step away for a little bit if I'm feeling burned out, so I can recharge and get right back in it. All I have to say is watch out: I still have stuff in my brain vault to write about, but now I have new material to work with, so y'all are gonna feel me on this. I'm a versatile writer: I can do commentaries, write songs, poetry, stories, etc. I've been praying that God shows me how to monetize my blog, and I'm researching ways to make that happen. With his guidance, I'll make my dream come true. In closing, I look forward to getting back to doing what I do best, which is sharing Richard's Gospel.

Wife vs. Wifey: Mrs. VonnSuga Cooper

Let's get right into it. 

"THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN WIFE AND "WIFEY"...

Stole this from Facebook.....

A young lady on twitter asked me whats the difference between being a wife and being a "wifey". I started to laugh but I had to realize that many women today honestly dont know what separates the two, let alone the true definition of being a wife anymore. Most sistas just wanna get married, but not many wanna be a wife. I see so many women bragging about how shes some guys "wifey" which in my opinion is a low standard for any woman. So I will compare and contrast the difference between wife and "wifey".

A WIFE...

• never has to compete with other women because she is the only woman her man is seeing, "talking to", and interested in. She knows this from his actions. Not just his words.

• The wife knows her mans family and friends. She usually has her mans parents or guardians blessings. Along with his friends. If her lifelong partner's friends and family dont approve of her chances are she isnt going to be his wife.

• A man treats his wife with the utmost respect. Never cheats on her, or lies to her, or treat her like a jumpoff, a "main" or his "wifey".

• The wife usually sees a side of her partner that no one else sees. She knows her man inside and out. His darkest thoughts, secrets, etc. There are no mysteries. No cloudy areas. Everything is in the open.

• The wife is the woman who a man chooses to spend the rest of his life with. She gets the marriage proposal, the ring, and everything that man has to offer her for a lifetime.

A "WIFEY"...

• Is the woman who a man spends all of his time with. Usually been with for a long time. Maybe even live with. But isnt married or engaged. Ever thought why? Keep reading...

• Men know whether he is going to marry a woman in the early stages of the relationship. It takes us men no time to see if a woman is going to be around for a while...or a lifetime.

• The "wifey" also has met SOME of his family, and SOME of his friends. Sometimes the "wifey" may receive the mans family and friends blessings, but its usually over ruled by him...in the end.

• The "wifey" is equivalent to the "main". Meaning the one who he likes or cares about the most out of the women he deals with. The "wifey" is rarely the only one. Just in HER mind she is. But she dont know the TRUTH. Men are NEVER 100% faithful to a "wifey". Heres why...

• The "wifey" is the woman who he may spend years with. In his heart he knows he wont marry her though. He'll keep her around until the woman who he feels in his heart he WILL marry comes into his vision, then its curtains for the "wifey". A man is going to be faithful or dedicated to the "wifey" for so long before he starts roaming. He will eventually break up with the "wifey" and go be with the woman who he will make his WIFE.

So ladies...please stop bragging about how you're his "wifey", all that means is your his TEMPORARY wife until the PERMANENT wife comes along. Then its back to the drawing board for you. Dont be stupid. If you dont have a ring on your finger then your just his girlfriend. "Wifey" is a very low standard to claim."

Mrs. Cooper just preached.🙌⛪️

Are Men Really Powerless?

Let some men tell it, they can't avoid "the trap". The trap is when a man lays down with a woman, gets her pregnant and she puts him up for child support. He wants to spew how the woman is responsible & he didn't sign up for parenthood. Sorry to break it to these guys, but when you lay down with a woman, you consent to parenthood whether you like it or not.

The following comment is from a Facebook group post discussing single parenthood:

Women have control over their wombs, we all know this. However, a woman isn't forcing a man to phukk her, he makes that decision on his own. It's comedy to me how some men are ok with laying up with a woman, but they don't want the baby that comes with it. This isn't Let's Make A Deal. If you lay down with a woman, you agree to parenthood whether you like it or not. If some men weren't such coochie hounds, then there would be no OOW births, but today's men can't seem to think beyond their lower head, then want to bellyache about child support, baby mama drama, this and that. Sometimes, I feel like I'm the only dude that's not moved by action. Let these men tell it: Cooch has a stronghold on their lives that they can't seem to fight the temptation to have sex with a woman just because she offers.

Some men need to understand one thing: You're man enough to lay down with her, be man enough to take whatever comes.

Women: Same thing. Clink clink lock down. Stop telling these dudes you want to have their baby. Smh

Fussing & Tripping=Love & Loyalty?

There are some women who really adhere to this foolishness. Well, sensible, well to do men aren't bypassing the difficult women and going to the easy-going ones. I've lost compassion for men who complain about their difficult women. You picked her, so you must have saw something in her that you liked, so cut the crap. I'm going to cut & paste a few comments from this thread:

Zwena Thomas: But why u gotta be so difficult to deal with tho? Cant u just be normal? Smh...too much to put up with, ill pass if i was a guy

Khrystle: She's making normal behavior out to be something extraordinary because somewhere along the way she was told that women should not be emotional, worry, get angry, feel sad, feel uncertain, want attention, or just be human. She's talking about being human and men often have these same feelings but they express it differently. She believes she's difficult because someone who probably wasn't worth her time or really didn't give a damn told her she was. It's funny how the messages we receive shape the opinions we have of ourselves.

Nathan Bruce: This is the reason why most women like this are cronicly single. The fact that she had to explain her flaw is a testament to that.

Mary Stieff: We misconstrue some things to be flaws when they are natural human feelings and emotions.  If you show emotion, you're too emotional.  If you show hardly any, then your trying to be a man.  Indecisiveness is a flaw because some of these men are real confused as to what they want.  It won't necessarily be both ways.  Usually, one or the other.

Jerome: Having flaws is human Mary Stieff & Khrystle Nichole, that's one thing, not having the humility or character to address and modify them are totally different, there should never be anything excessively difficult and incorrigible about a woman, NOTHING!!

Michael Moultrie: Life is too much a battle in the streets and in the corporate world to come home and put up with somebody who is supposed to be my other half. Dudes can have that type of woman.

Conclusion: Bragging about being difficult to love is not a good look, for men or women. People with this mindset weed themselves out of the dating pool, as they should. 

Dying For Respect

Respect is so important to people that you can lose your life for it.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) March 29, 2015

Respect is so important to people that you can lose your life for it. You don't believe me? Get into it with somebody & they say something crazy to you, you'll be ready to get street real fast. In a way that's understandable because for some people, respect is all they have. They have nothing else in their lives but their respect, so they're doing all they can to hold onto that. In the inner-city, the slightest infraction can end in death. These young brothers are quick to shoot you for disrespecting them, which is why a lot of senseless murders happen in the black community, because of pride. Everyone has something to prove; nobody wants to be disrespected and I understand that. You're not supposed to let people disrespect you, because if a person can get away with disrespecting you, they'll keep pushing the envelope. At some point, people need to value themselves enough to where they won't stand for shade from ANYONE. I have a motto that's served me well for years: People don't have to like or love me, but they will respect me, and vice versa. 

She's Not About That Life

Strawberry Letter | Steve Harvey in the Morning on WDAS

You have women who can't get committment from their men to save their lives, and she pulls this. The next time I read a Facebook post about how men have committment issues, I'm showcasing this Strawberry Letter along with my response. People must realize that women & men have committment issues. Let the world tell it; men are afraid of committment. Looking at this letter, I can't tell because if all the men she's dated were so "good", why is she shook by marriage? Lots of reasons: She's not ready for marriage, she's afraid of failing as a wife, she has some maturing to do, etc. Marriage is nothing to be played with. You're making vows to that (wo)man and God to be there for each other in sickness & health, rich & poor, etc. Best case scenario, she's not ready for marriage and decides to take time to figure out who she is and what she wants. She won't be a statistic as an unwed mother because she followed her discernment. She won't waste years with someone who's not right for her.

Worst case scenario, she gets married and has children with the wrong person. Years later, she realizes she married the wrong man. The end result is a lengthy custody battle, divorce & alimony, child support payments, etc. Most of all, she'd be another baby mama & there's far too many OOW mothers in the black community. She wants marriage & children, but when the opportunity presents itself, she chickens out and calls the wedding off two days before the ceremony. I don't blame her parents and friends for being agitated towards her, because I'm sure they've told her many times to make up her mind. She needs to make up her mind: Either she's about that married life, or she's not. No sense in wasting her & the other men's time. If she had good discernment, she would know who's the right man for her and she'd have no hesitation about marriage. She must be a top-notch woman if she's been engaged 18 times. Some women are lucky to make it to engagement. My hope is that she learns to be sure of her desire for marriage.

Empty Promises

Strawberry Letter | Steve Harvey in the Morning on WDAS

This is a classic case of the tables turning: She had his back when he was down, and now that he's come up, he's acting brand new. The more I read these Strawberry Letters, the more confirmation I get that the only person I can put stock in is God. Unlike people, God doesn't act brand new with us, although we act brand new with him. You all know what I'm talking about: We get in a bind (through no fault of our own, or by our doing) and ask God to deliver us. He delivers us, and we get to showing our behinds like we pulled ourselves out of our mess. Correction: GOD pulled us out of our mess, because if it wasn't for him, we would still be in the same predicament, or worse. Back to the story, she has every right to feel some sort of way. How anyone could act brand new toward the person who helped them come up is beyond me. He should be ashamed of himself because if she brought up how she had his back, he would be in his feelings. She's answered her question of what she needs to do: LET HIM GO. Couples are supposed to have each other's back.

When you're in a relationship with someone, you're supposed to bear one another's burdens (within reason). It goes along with the phrase: "One person struggles, we all struggle." When one person is weary in a relationship, the other one feels the effects indirectly. If she can't count on him to be there for her in her struggle, she shouldn't be with him. She sounds like a good-hearted woman, so she has her answer. She can continue dating this guy, and it's more of the same behavior, or...she can know her worth and find someone who will appreciate her, because it sounds like he doesn't.