She's Not About That Life

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You have women who can't get committment from their men to save their lives, and she pulls this. The next time I read a Facebook post about how men have committment issues, I'm showcasing this Strawberry Letter along with my response. People must realize that women & men have committment issues. Let the world tell it; men are afraid of committment. Looking at this letter, I can't tell because if all the men she's dated were so "good", why is she shook by marriage? Lots of reasons: She's not ready for marriage, she's afraid of failing as a wife, she has some maturing to do, etc. Marriage is nothing to be played with. You're making vows to that (wo)man and God to be there for each other in sickness & health, rich & poor, etc. Best case scenario, she's not ready for marriage and decides to take time to figure out who she is and what she wants. She won't be a statistic as an unwed mother because she followed her discernment. She won't waste years with someone who's not right for her.

Worst case scenario, she gets married and has children with the wrong person. Years later, she realizes she married the wrong man. The end result is a lengthy custody battle, divorce & alimony, child support payments, etc. Most of all, she'd be another baby mama & there's far too many OOW mothers in the black community. She wants marriage & children, but when the opportunity presents itself, she chickens out and calls the wedding off two days before the ceremony. I don't blame her parents and friends for being agitated towards her, because I'm sure they've told her many times to make up her mind. She needs to make up her mind: Either she's about that married life, or she's not. No sense in wasting her & the other men's time. If she had good discernment, she would know who's the right man for her and she'd have no hesitation about marriage. She must be a top-notch woman if she's been engaged 18 times. Some women are lucky to make it to engagement. My hope is that she learns to be sure of her desire for marriage.

Empty Promises

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This is a classic case of the tables turning: She had his back when he was down, and now that he's come up, he's acting brand new. The more I read these Strawberry Letters, the more confirmation I get that the only person I can put stock in is God. Unlike people, God doesn't act brand new with us, although we act brand new with him. You all know what I'm talking about: We get in a bind (through no fault of our own, or by our doing) and ask God to deliver us. He delivers us, and we get to showing our behinds like we pulled ourselves out of our mess. Correction: GOD pulled us out of our mess, because if it wasn't for him, we would still be in the same predicament, or worse. Back to the story, she has every right to feel some sort of way. How anyone could act brand new toward the person who helped them come up is beyond me. He should be ashamed of himself because if she brought up how she had his back, he would be in his feelings. She's answered her question of what she needs to do: LET HIM GO. Couples are supposed to have each other's back.

When you're in a relationship with someone, you're supposed to bear one another's burdens (within reason). It goes along with the phrase: "One person struggles, we all struggle." When one person is weary in a relationship, the other one feels the effects indirectly. If she can't count on him to be there for her in her struggle, she shouldn't be with him. She sounds like a good-hearted woman, so she has her answer. She can continue dating this guy, and it's more of the same behavior, or...she can know her worth and find someone who will appreciate her, because it sounds like he doesn't.

Do It Yourself

The only one Ms. Robbie can trust to run the business is Tim, everyone else is iffy. That's why she has to be there daily. #SweetiePies

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) March 22, 2015

I've been a Sweetie Pie's fan since it's debut. Ms. Robbie Montgomery started Sweetie Pie's restaurant after her singing career ended because of a collapsed lung. As a business owner, no one will be as passionate about your business as you, so you have to be there daily. Sure, you can hire folks to help you run the business, but it's not the same as being an owner. The owner had a vision for their business, and they made it happen. Ms. Robbie has been running Sweetie Pie's for decades, and as she continues getting older, she hints around retirement. She deserves to relax because she's worked her whole life to get where she's at, and now it's time for her to enjoy her golden years. There's only one problem: She can't retire because management is at each other's throats, and the employees clown around a little too much for my taste. As an owner/operator, you should be able to trust your employees to do their jobs in your absence; after all, that's why they were hired, to do a job. The only one Ms. Robbie can trust to run the business is Tim, everyone else is iffy which explains why Ms. Robbie has to be there daily. Being her son, Tim is committed to the family business and has come up with great ideas for expanding the family business, including opening restaurants in different locations. I can't see Ms. Robbie leaving the restaurant in any of the other employees' hands, because they would destroy what Ms. Robbie worked so hard to build. Hopefully, Ms. Robbie can get away for a few weeks with no worries as to how her business is going, because she deserves a break.

Motivational Tweets

The difference between who you ARE and who you WANT TO BE is the work you put in.

— Michael Bjerke (@ImprovingMike) March 26, 2015

If your problem has a solution, do something about it. If your problem can't be solved, there is no need in worrying about it.

— Life Facts By Lemon (@lifeandlemon) March 26, 2015

There are so many people out there who will tell you that you can't. What you've got to do is, turn around and say "Watch me"

— ~Relation Sheep~ (@relatedship) March 26, 2015

Never look down on people because they have a way of coming up.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) March 25, 2015

What you see, isn't always what you get.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) March 24, 2015

There's two levels to being broke: Good and Bad Broke.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) March 24, 2015

Remember, you are more than a conqueror... HE IS STRONG IN YOU!

— Jay Haizlip (@jayhaizlip) March 24, 2015

Some women are forever saying men are dogs, but they fail to realize that if treated right, dogs are very loyal.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) March 22, 2015

The only people who call you arrogant are the people who are waiting for you to fail. - Dr. Goode #BREAKINGBARRIERS @dcdothan

— Marcus Tankard (@MarcusTankard) March 22, 2015

No obstacle is too big for you, no dream too great. You have the greatest force in the universe on the inside.

— Joel Osteen (@JoelOsteen) March 22, 2015

People care about what you say, not what you meant to say, so make sure you say what you actually mean.

— Charlamagne Tha God (@cthagod) March 21, 2015

A Prayer For Those Battling Addictions

I get daily prayers from CALLED Magzine, and I make it a point to read these prayers aloud because I like to speak positivity into the atmosphere. This prayer is for anyone battling addictions of any kind. I hope this prayer encourages you to continue fighting; here we go:

Father, we pray for those who are struggling with addictions (to drugs, alcohol, food, unhealthy relationships, shopping, sex, gambling, smoking, and anything that destroys their soul and body).

Please supernaturally break the chains of addiction, and strengthen their ability to overcome their battles, and please comfort the people who love them.

Is Being Broke A Good Thing?

There's levels to everything in life, and being broke is no different. When you hear the word broke, what's the first thing that comes to mind? You have no money, right? Right. Contrary to what a lot of folks think, there's two levels of being broke: You have your good broke and bad broke. The difference between good & bad broke is simple: Your bills are paid for the next few months, and you have little to nothing left over. Let these people tell it, you're broke because you have no money in your pocket. It boils down to priorities. What do you value most? What you value goes into how you handle finances. Bad broke is when you spend foolishly and you have no money when you need it. I don't know about anyone else, but I'd rather be broke from handling business first, than from balling out of control. The Bible says that we are to be good stewards of his money. God gives abundantly to those who are faithful with little. I used to believe that being broke was a bad thing, but as I got older,  I got a clearer understanding of the term broke. If you're going broke trying to fund a new endeavor, that's not a bad thing because the dividends you reap from that are endless. What you paid for, you'll get back 100fold, and you realize that it was worth it to be broke temporarily. Now if one is constantly broke, then their financial game needs to be stepped up. The only time being broke is acceptable is when you're trying to better yourself, because later on you'll reap the benefits of that sacrifice. You sacrifice temporary comfort for the greater good.

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