Be A Woman: By Trina Rogers

Trina BabyTee Rogers

Wednesday

Woman came from man. Not the other way around. Women have always been the backbone of the man's struggle, in one way or another, positive or negative. She can mold his imagination, shape his strengths, enlighten his desires and illuminate his destiny. She can also dismantle his hope, eradicate his character, extinguish his passion and annihilate his future. What does it mean to be "HIS" woman? What is her part in this evolutionary journey that is "two becoming one"? It is complex in its simplicity and simple in its complexity. Meaning its hard if you make it that way!

THE SIMPLE--Women hold the key to life in their bodies, this is true. Yet the body is controlled by the mind. So in essence, the mind is what holds the key to life. Clear thinking, goal-oriented, positive attitudes and a servant-filled heart create the power in women to maintain healthy relationships, long-lasting marriages and well-educated, well-rounded future generations. Let the "MAN" be the man. He has been doing it longer than women have attempted to do it (on their own, don't need no man, etc.). And frankly, they are damn good at it! Love him for being a man to you, for you, because of you. He can and will take care of everything you want and need. LET HIM! He has been trained to do it since birth. ACKNOWLEDGE HIM! He wants to protect you, provide for you and profess his love for you! HONOR HIM! Giving him his rightful place in this world as your King can only benefit everyone around him, including you!

THE COMPLEX-Women refuse to stay in their place and act like women. Character is revealed not when others are around, but when you are alone. Being over-bearing, controlling, domineering, and abusive in public doesn't make you right or appealing to anyone. Especially men! Be alone with yourself once in a while and replay the behavior that was displayed when you were rejected by someone. How bad did it hurt? Tell the truth! Lying to yourself is worse than lying to someone you love. During a time of solitude, women need to examine themselves and learn who they are and what qualities they possess that they wouldn't be attracted to. Get rid of them! Be honest, loving, caring, humble, reassuring to yourself first. Allow the healing process from the past to subside completely and begin again. You weren't made to do it all. You can't! It's not a rewarding position to be in. Women were made to be loved by a man. Why would any man want to love you when you act more masculine than him? Behaving like the woman you are destined to be, one adored by a man, is the most exhilarating feeling in the universe. A man will recognize this as well. Let go of all the bad advice, girl-talk, male-bashing and derogatory and demeaning ideals you have been brain-washed with and do the simplest thing you can ever do. Shut up, sit down, cross your legs (for once), sit up straight, smile and simply be a woman! His woman!

My View: I have no words for this because it was that good. Everything written is synonymous with what I believe. Let's just say that some women need to print this out and paste it in their car, on the refrigerator and in their bedroom on the dresser; basically anywhere where they can read it so it can embed in their system.

One Size Fits All

Is the way men & women approach each other based on dress, appearance and the way she carries herself? Or do I feel men & women have a one size fits all mindset when it comes to getting to know the opposite sex? Men and women are different so what may work for one, won't work for another. You can't use the same approach for every person because you're setting yourself up for disappointment. Each person has a different set of expectations (as they should) for how they want to be treated. For example, a brother from the inner city of Miami could not approach Michelle Obama sideways; No, he would have to tailor his approach according to how she carries herself. If the woman looked like Nicki Minaj, he would get farther because he could identify with her background (grew up in the hood, hard life, etc.). Some men do have a one size fits all approach when it comes to women; they believe all women are the same. Women are the same according to gender but different in terms of personality, life experience, etc. Men tailor their approach according to the kind of woman they want. If he wants a freak, he'll talk dirty to her because that's what she responds to. If it's a high class woman like Michelle Obama, he comes at her in a different way. You can't use the same approach for all women. You can have a professional woman who has her stuff together and some men will come at her sideways; that's because some men don't respect themselves so it can't be expected for them to respect anyone else.

Yes Black Women, we SHOULD apologize to Black Men.......let me tell you ...

Here's a video from a very intelligent sister. Black women like her are a hot commodity among men because she's smart, respectful and tells it like it is. She doesn't powder anyone's behind. When you're wrong, you're wrong, it doesn't matter if you're a man or woman.

Notice To Men

Nojma Reflects

22 hours ago

Brothers! Forget what the body is like, you better see what the MIND is like! You get enchanted by a nice physical build when the mental has caution tape wrapped around the corners, because the mind is so unstable it has been CONDEMNED, just no good! Restoration must take place for that mental womb to have any value. BBD (Bel Biv Devoe) told you don't trust a big butt and a smile. Your Sis is telling you don't trust a big butt, a smile, or whatever else you like, because the outer package might be pleasing, but the inside has been CORRUPTED. Mess around and have your seed held hostage in a vindictive, trifling ass, evil ass woman. The Black Man is viewed as a no good ain't nothing man and THAT is why all types of injustice and madness can be done to you without a second thought. What is a woman's FIRST threat? To put you on child support or throw you in jail. Women are victims because this system enables us to be. A woman could go in with a sob story, and before you've been served with paperwork you've been tried and convicted for whatever "she" said. The womb should be the safest place for a child, but the womb has now become a "war room" and our children are casualties of war, thanks to all these "Bitter Mama Generals" we have running around here.

My View: She Better Say That! She put all the men on blast and rightfully so. Too many men are mesmerized by a big butt and smile, then wonder why they get jammed up. Men HAVE to learn how to look deeper other than a woman's curves and smile. Yes, looks matter (as they should, to a degree; everyone wants someone that's nice to look at), but the heart is what matters. Is she family oriented, can she carry intelligent conversation, etc. Those are the questions men need to ask instead of focusing on her derriere. The prettiest women can be the most vindictive because they know how to use their looks to get what they want. Look at the system, a woman can get a man hemmed up JUST on what she said. That's not right, but it happens. The outer package might be pleasing, but the inside has been defiled. When God is truly first, you see things through his eyes before making major decisions! Men can only blame themselves when they forget that or are ignorant to his commandments and word! Making decisions based on lust has, and will always be stupid; yet, some men choose to look at the outer rather than inner. Men should have the ability to look at both. Our people once were disciplined enough to be proficient mind, body, and soul. Yes, men are visual but that's no excuse NOT to do his due diligence on that woman because even though she may have curves and a nice smile, her character could be foul.

Financial Stability

Nojma Reflects

22 hours ago

Healing the Black Family 104:

In this financial climate do we as women have UNREALISTIC financial expectations when it comes to men? I'm going to say that some of us do...yes. Now should a man have a job? Of course, you can't maintain a family without some type of income, but does that mean that he won't need our help contributing to the household? A wife is a HELPMEET, that means we HELP our husband. The reality is, it will take two incomes in order to maintain our households, and what we have to realize is that, our contributing to the upkeep of our household doesn't take anything away from HIM being a man, it's actually US as women keeping our duty and being a helpmeet to HIM. I would also like to point out, that if you as a woman make more money that your man....it by no means makes him LESS than a man, and it definitely doesn't make you MORE than a woman. It only becomes a problem when YOU think because you make more money YOU have the right to belittle him.

MY View: There's nothing wrong with wanting financial stability. In this economy, people should be trying to stack as much money as possible which will allow them to live comfortably. I want to live comfortable; who wants to struggle in life? You're worried about how this or that bill will be paid? Finances are one of the top reasons why many relationships fail. To not expect someone to be financially stable is unrealistic. The problem comes into play where some women make $$$ their sole qualification in choosing a mate. He has to make $100K a year, have a fat 401k & IRA, etc. Those things are good but they won't keep her warm at night or protect her when she's in a dangerous situation. I like the last sentence "It becomes a problem when YOU think because you make more money YOU have the right to belittle him." Some women do believe that if they're making more money than their man, they run the relationship. Weak men allow this to happen. That's the thing, there's an indirect understanding that the person who makes the most has more say-so in the relationship. That's true in some, but not all cases because you have relationships where the woman makes more than her man and she still reveres him; she knows he keeps the family together and doesn't undermine his godly authority in the home. It's not like it was back in the day, where the woman stayed home and took care of the kids while the husband worked to keep a roof over their heads. You need TWO incomes in order to sustain a family. Depending on where a couple resides, they each have to make $80K annually just to maintain because some cities have high costs of living. Most men don't mind if their woman makes more than them, as long as she doesn't throw it in his face every time an argument breaks out. Let's be honest, some women who are in an argument with their man; the first thing they throw out is their annual salary. "I make more than you such and such".

Women Don't Complete Men

I'm all for revering a good woman but this guy takes it to another level. He's dependent on a woman to complete him when that shouldn't be the case. A man should be complete within himself before he THINKS about a relationship. This is why the statement "You complete me" bothers me a little because it's like you can't be happy unless you have someone in your life. I feel that someone should COMPLIMENT, not COMPLETE you. Obviously he doesn't know the Bible so let me break it down: God made Adam a HELPMATE for him. Men complete women, not the other way around. The fetus starts off as a female, then grows all the missing parts before development, so when a baby is born a male it is complete. When the baby is born a female, it's considered incomplete. MEN complete WOMEN, men are already complete. She's supposed to be submissive, that's why God made Adam the head. Man was given dominion over all the earth and everything in it; everything is subject to man...the earth, animals and yes, even the woman. Even though she is the helpmeet, she's subject to her man. That's what people don't understand when they make statements like the ones in the text screenshot. That's what trips me out about some men, they put women on a pedestal that AREN'T interested in them. They do all this wining & dining and still don't get any in return. A man is already complete; the woman who comes into his life compliments what he already brings to the table. Flipping the script, MEN & WOMEN should be as whole as possible so that when they come together, each person is bringing 100% to the table. When two people bring 100% to the table, you have a power couple.

What's Important To You?

The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider Freeways, but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.

We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom.

We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.

We've learned how to make a living, but not a life. We've added years to life not life to years. We've been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We've done larger things, but not better things.

We've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We've conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We've learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.

These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete.

Remember to spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever.

Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.

Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn't cost a cent.

Remember, to say, 'I love you' to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.

Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again.

Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.

And always remember, life is not measured by the number of breaths we take but by those moments that take our breath away.

Things in this life that matter are so much more simple than we make them. It doesn't take a scholar to understand how to love someone, make yourself happy, or follow your dreams. All it takes is making everything you do meaningful to a purpose--you have to decide what that purpose is. I have mine!