Relationship Entitlement Pt. 2

This is Part 2 on my previous discussion of Relationship Entitlement. A lot of men complain about spending $200 or so on a date with a woman only to find out the relationship is going nowhere. That's bonkers to me because common sense should signal if you're involved with someone, you don't mind spending money on them because they are your MAN or WOMAN. They have earned the right to be in your life. The idea of spending money to buy someone's affection is ludicrous. This is how I feel: If a man CHOOSES to drop $200 or more on a date with a woman and gets nothing in return, he has NO RIGHT to complain because he threw away money on a woman that wasn't feeling him. Going on a date is like trying on clothes in a dressing room at a department store; you see if (s)he is a good fit for you and if so, you go through with the purchase. That's a sucker move to spend money on a man or woman and the relationship goes nowhere. A woman IS NOT obligated to give up the coochie just because a man shells out $400+ on a date with her. Some women will do that, but they're few and far between. This problem can easily be solved if men would stop checking for these princessy, entitled women. If a man is meeting a woman for the first time and she's expecting to be wined & dined but feels as if she doesn't have to reciprocate, EXIT STAGE LEFT. A lot of men don't understand this principle because they're looking at being rewarded with sex. The problem is some women have an entitlement mentality which stems from their fathers pumping their heads up with this craziness; "Beware of men who say you have to bring something to the table. A man is supposed to take care of you this, that and the third" When some women run up on discerned men that see right through their princess mindset, they can't handle it because they're used to having their butts powdered. The only woman that's worthy of my money is a woman that has Mrs. and Hudson in her name. Otherwise, if I want to get to know a woman, great conversation we will have. It's free & doesn't cost anything. Just like women have an entitlement complex, men are catching up as well because most men measure their future woman by their mother; they want a woman that has the qualities of their mom. I can understand wanting someone with the qualities of your parents, but people need to realize the individuality that a potential significant other can bring.

Random Thought

Everybody talking about what they gonna do for 2013 and they already failed before the year got underway. Example: Mothers talking about leaving the club life behind but when New Year's celebrations are taking place at a local nightclub, they the first ones there. And don't get me started on these folks talking about New Year, New Me. That only applies if you're ACTUALLY putting it into action. More like new year, same foolishness & drama from last year. That Part.

Do You

I've never understood the rationale behind trying to impress others when 9 times out of 10, they aren't worried about you and/or aren't worth impressing. What happened to individuality? It seems like more people want to be sheep than ride solo and if that's what they want, that's on them. I've never been concerned with impressing people that mean nothing to me. Are they putting food on my table, clothes on my back, paying my bills and signing my check? Negative. I will never concern myself with the opinions of others unless they mean well and see a better way for me to go in order to reach my destination faster.

God Knows Best

Why do people think they know better than God? I've never understood that. True, he gives us free will but he also gave us a brain to use. You have to weigh the pros and cons of everything you do and if the cons outweigh the pros, DON'T DO IT. God will let us think we can do a better job than him. It's when we get jammed up that we realize that God knows best, after all. This is a continual lesson I'm learning everyday. What I may think is good for me may not be what God thinks is best for me.

On Your Level

Read the following letter posted by Nojma Reflects. It was too good NOT to share:

To all the women that say they can’t find a man on their level, what exactly is this “level” that you speak of? What if your “level” isn't appealing to some men, especially if you like to talk about your” haves” and his “have nots”, your independence and his dependency on you? I mean did you ever stop and think that “your” level might be BENEATH his? Sometimes I wonder what type of mirror we as women view ourselves in. Maybe it’s the kind that gives us an optical illusion, you know if you go a fair or a carnival and you go into the house of mirrors, and what is being reflected is not reality? Kind of like that.

Another misconception is that men are intimidated by “successful” women. First of all what is your definition of success? There is nothing wrong with being proud of your accomplishments, and what you acquire in life. However some women equate success with degrees, nice cars and houses and assume that having those things automatically make them a “good woman”. If that is the case, then why are women able to prosper professionally but suffer personally? Sometimes we as women don’t realize how arrogant some of us have become, and we interpret OUR arrogance as THEIR insecurities or intimidation. What man wouldn't want his woman to have the best in life and be able to GIVE that to her?

So maybe, just maybe.. it’s not so much that you can’t find a man on your level, you just might be suffering from “delusions of grandeur” placing yourself on a “level” that you don’t or haven’t qualified yourself to be on. Sometimes our levels are really superficial and why would a deep Man (mental giant) swim in shallow water?

My $.02 cents: I understand being proud of your accolades but what some women forget is that other women have her same or greater credentials; so what makes her so special that she has to rattle off having a Master's Degree, a nice car and home? Make it so bad, these women are quick to point out their haves and his have nots. Arrogant women will never be a good look in a man's eyes. Let's see how that degree and house/car will comfort you when you're going through rough times and need someone to talk to. It's not that some women can't find a man on their level, it's that many men don't like the product she's marketing so they choose not to invest. You almost never hear of a man boasting about his education or financial/social status, it's usually women because they feel like they have to compensate for some area that's lacking in their lives. If a man talks about his accomplishments, it's from a humble standpoint because he knows bragging is not the move; that's the fastest way to turn people off. Humility is respected over arrogance and until women learn this, they will be alone with nothing more than their housecats.

Simp Nation

It's comical how some black men claim to have standards but when T&A shows up to challenge them, they retreat as if they had no say-so AT ALL. These men are cowards because booty and breast have a hold on them to where they will sell their soul to get sex from a woman. These are the same men that are scared to engage women in debates because all a woman has to do is say "he hates women, he's gay, all women aren't like that; just the ones you hang around" and so on and he backs up. That works on weak men but for strong men that aren't afraid of belligerent women, she has to try a little harder. Black men will lose their morals over T&A, shakes head. These men will take any & everything from a woman just because she has curves and he doesn't want to lose that. Lucky for me and other likeminded men, T&A doesn't phase everybody. It's like you've seen one, you see them all *shrug* Deep down, most women laugh at these thirsty men because all she has to do is show some skin, and these men go buck wild, start salivating like dogs, etc.

She Wants That Thug Lovin'

It never ends with some women, does it? She wants a thug because he can "handle her" He'll handle her alright; in the form of two black eyes and a couple bruises. If she likes to be smacked around, who are we to judge? True, but the problem is thug loving women get hurt to the core so they come to their senses and realize they want a good man. Too late to ask for a good man after he went upside your head. Even if she was able to land a good man, he'd quickly get tired of her baggage; holding him responsible for the wrongs of her ex(es). So to all women who are in love with thugs: Since you want a thug so much, here's your icepack & crutches, plus gauze and some bandages and march right on over to Tyrone & Ray Ray. Don't think about coming back to the other side asking for a good man once he does you wrong. Too late, you should've gone for the stand-up guys who have their affairs in order.