Thursday Message: Blessings Don't Come With Sin

It's a curse. You won't enjoy that "blessing" because you did wrong to get it. God's blessings come with no sorrow.

 

Today's Thought: Peace

 

The older I get, the more I understand this statement. I don't see how some people go through life having enemies, but more power to them (I guess). For me, it's peace over everything. Y'all can have enemies, I'll take peace of mind anyday. Moving freely with no worries of who's out to get me, it's a blessing that most drama-filled people will never understand.

How Could A Mother Forget Her Kid For 3 Hours: Nikki Brooks

Repost by Nikki Brooks

Question:

- HOW ON EARTH COULD A MOTHER FORGET HER KID FOR 3 HOURS?!?!?

ANSWER:

You forget and can neglect in a plethora of ways…

ADD 

ADHD

Executive Dysfunction

Exhaustion

Depression

Medication

Stress 

Trauma 

Anxiety

Depression

High functioning Learning or social differences 

Literally brain fogs…..

I know it makes us angry but also, this idea that mothering is easy peasy is false.

This is why the government gotta stay out of our uterus.  Parenting is not a job for everyone. And it’s legit terrifying. 

And this idea that everyone can prevent pregnancies doesn’t take a bunch of stuff into account (ie emotional and financial abuse, religious abuse, etc) 

And yes…not only do some people not need kids - they don’t want them because it’s hard. It’s tough. And you can do things like forget your kids in a car. 

She wasn't lying when she said that parenting isn't a job for everyone because it's not. The evidence is how many children are abused/neglected at the hands of their "parents". I don't know how I feel about a parent forgetting their kid for 3 hours, but it happens. It's been stories where kids were left in hot cars for minutes or up to/more than an hour; if the kid is lucky enough to survive being left in a hot car for a while, they can only cool themselves through panting, and ice cold water. Based on the examples given, I can see how some mothers forget their kid(s) for 3 hours, but...wouldn't something click after a while to let you know your child is probably waiting for you? I'm not a parent, but I can imagine that parenting is a tough job. My parents went through a LOT raising me, so I know parenting is nothing to play with. Parenting doesn't come with an instruction book, so adults parent by trial & error and hope their child(ren) turn out good.

Protect The Black Woman

Do black men have a duty to protect black women? That depends on who you ask. Some say yes, others say no (I'll get into that later), some will say they protect the black women in their lives. You'll get three different answers based on who you ask. The original post had a lot of valid points from all sides, but for me: I'm leaning towards protecting the black women in my life: aunt, nieces, etc. They're women I'm close to so why wouldn't I protect them? If I made friends with a black woman and we became very close, then she can expect me to have her back & vice versa, but if I protect a random black woman out of the goodness of my heart, who's to say she'll appreciate it? I don't know. I think that's why a lot of brothers feel the way they do about protecting black women because for so long, many black women have dogged black men & now they expect protection? Not how this works. On the flip side: Black women have stood up for black men when they're being knocked off by police, during slavery, etc. so I do support protecting black women when the situation calls for it. Most men will have no problem protecting black women if they're appreciated for it & don't return to the dangerous situation. Take domestic abuse for example: A man is beating his woman & another brother steps in to give that man the business. In some cases, the woman will jump on the man that tried to help her. It happens. The other man is thinking he did right (which he did), and he's confused at why she's jumping on him for protecting her. He's jaded & the next time he sees a black woman in danger, he minds his business. Why should he risk his life for someone who won't be grateful?

Loyalty Is Given

It’s not a drought on loyalty, people choose who they’re loyal to (as they should). Everyone doesn’t & won’t appreciate loyalty so should you give it to the wrong people? No. If you’re loyal to the wrong people, they’ll take you for granted because they think you’ll always be there. Aht Aht…there’s so much disloyalty someone can take before they cut you off for good, and then…your well-being will no longer be their concern. 

Do As I Say, Not As I Do

Old-school black parents are good for saying "Do As I Say, Not As I Do". That doesn't cut it anymore because kids will do the opposite, and they get mad at what their kids emulate. Kids see everything, even when parents don't think they do. If parents want to raise responsible children, set the right example & they'll follow. I also understand that kids will do what they want no matter what good foundation parents give them, but most children...will follow the good example their parents set. 

The Meaning Of Let Him Use You