Dear Rick: Do I Take A Job In Atlanta?

#DearRick

I am a long time listener to the show and I love you guys! So, here is my dilemma. I’ve been in a whirlwind relationship for the past year and a half. I do have to admit we move a little too fast. We went from dating to moving in together to having a baby.
Here is my problem. Right before the holidays my boyfriend and I both lost our jobs. I’ve had problems finding employment, so I decided to move to Atlanta. I have several job prospects. My boyfriend on the other is refusing to move. Do I stay to keep the family together or do I pack up me, my baby and take the job in Atlanta.
Would you take a job in another state knowing your partner will not be moving with you?
Would you take a job in another state knowing it could break up your family?
 

 My answer:  In today's economy, jobs are hard to come by even for skilled & experienced employees. If you've tried everything to find full-time employment in your city and you have job prospects elsewhere, you should move where you have better job prospects. People relocate to larger cities all the time for job prospects, so I don't understand his issue. He's unemployed, so he's NOT bringing in income, his wife has several job prospects in Atlanta and he would rather remain broke in his city. If he cares for her, he'll ride with her. He needs to follow her to Atlanta and keep the family together. Sacrifices have to be made in times of need. Some cities have stronger job markets than others.

I Got You

People say they got you, and forget about you.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) January 28, 2016

How many times have you or I heard this statement? Thousands, I'm sure. People say they got you, and forget about you. You're on good terms with someone so you feel you can count on them in need (vice versa). Some people mean well when they say they "got you", but people are human; they'll fail you sometimes. The same way people will fail you, is the same way you'll fail people sometimes. I feel people shouldn't say they got you if they don't mean it, because there will come a time where you will be tested on that statement. Anyone can say they "got you", the test is proving it. When your friend calls you at midnight asking for prayer on a big decision they're faced with, do you oblige or go to bed and have them call you tomorrow? Or what about when your spouse is home sick, but you and your friends are hitting the city on Friday night? Unless you can back it up, it's probably best if you don't say "I got you."

I Got That Fire: Twitter Style

I'm posting a collection of the realest tweets I've ever written. I tell it like it is, give encouragement & inspiration, and post my RHOA thoughts.

God is the last thing on people's minds when they're blessed, but the first thing on their minds when they're praying for a miracle.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) January 16, 2016

People say they got you, and forget about you.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) January 28, 2016

When you know your worth, you'll stop giving people discounts.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) January 28, 2016

What's with some women taking pride in not knowing how to cook? Most young women do this, but some older women do too.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) January 26, 2016

If someone walks out of your life, they didn't belong there anyway.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) January 26, 2016

I remember Church's Chicken was located on Lake Bradford Rd. in Tallahassee. $5 for 8-piece mixed, $1.99 for a 3 piece snack. #Memories.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) January 26, 2016

You may forget how you treat people, but God doesn't.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) January 26, 2016

Some things you get through, not get over.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) January 25, 2016

Not everyone will sail with you. They have to get their own life jacket while supplies last.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) January 25, 2016

Men & Women: Stop asking for unconditional love if you have prerequisites attached before you choose to love somebody.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) January 25, 2016

Arizona vs. Denver in the Super Bowl? The SB is going to be garbage.😴

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) January 25, 2016

If a man's confidence comes through having sex, how was his confidence before he became sexually active?

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) January 24, 2016

If couples can get along only when they're inside each other, that's not a relationship.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) January 24, 2016

Preachers of L.A., Detroit, and now Atlanta? Preachers of Detroit was political-based, so I'm looking forward to how Atlanta's shaping up.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) January 24, 2016

Born-again virgin? There's no such thing because once you've been sexually active, that's it. You can't regain your virginity.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) January 24, 2016

Sometimes, you need to have your guard up when meeting new people. You don't know what they're about yet.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) January 23, 2016

There's value in keeping quiet sometimes.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) January 23, 2016

What's meant for you is yours.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) January 23, 2016

People love talking about how much "discernment" they have. If you have discernment, who are you trying to convince by talking about it?

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) January 20, 2016

Some people look good, but they aren't a good look.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) January 20, 2016

You can't compete with what you don't compare to.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) January 20, 2016

Stop being blinded by good sex and get to know someone for who they really are.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) January 20, 2016

How can Jada protest the lack of black actors in the Oscars when most black actors aren't invited to the Oscars?

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) January 19, 2016

True Talk 101

If a man's confidence comes through having sex, how was his confidence before he became sexually active?

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) January 24, 2016

If couples can get along only when they're inside each other, that's not a relationship.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) January 24, 2016

Born-Again Virginity

Born-again virgin? There's no such thing because once you've been sexually active, that's it. You can't regain your virginity.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) January 24, 2016

Me & one of my FB friends had a little debate based on this tweet, so I'll post the conversation here.

Robin Butler If you can be made new in the spirit, I'm sure you can be a born again virgin. Now the way some people try to use it, no. But to be born again, that's everything.
Unlike · Reply · 1 · January 23 at 10:21pm
Richard Hudson
Richard Hudson I'm not buying the whole born-again virgin thing, because for one thing you decided to throw away your precious jewel and now all of a sudden you realize your worth and want to save yourself? It's bananas to me.
Unlike · Reply · 1 · January 23 at 10:25pm
Robin Butler
Robin Butler We were all sinners at 1 point. But God saw fit to save you. You think that's bananas?.....
Unlike · Reply · 1 · January 23 at 11:17pm
Richard Hudson
Richard Hudson Yes, all have sinned and fallen short, I get that. Before you got saved, you were sexually active and now that you got saved, all of a sudden you want to save yourself for the right one. Why? What could you have to give someone that you haven't already given away? That's what I'm referring to.
Like · Reply · January 24 at 7:56am
Robin Butler
Robin Butler You holding grudges. Stop. They can give the same thing. Just bc a person has had sex doesn't mean they have ever had intimacy. They just exchanged bodily fluids. Sex is so much more than what people think sometimes. But all in all, it's nothing wrong with turning over a new life. In fact, you should encourage the change so more would do it.
Like · Reply · January 24 at 12:02pm
Richard Hudson
Richard Hudson I'm not holding grudges, I'm telling it like it is. So you mean to tell me a virgin and someone who's been sexually active can give the same thing? Negative, and you know it. I support anyone trying to change. If more folks were open to change, the world would be better off.
Like · Reply · January 24 at 12:23pm
Robin Butler
Robin Butler Yes that is what I'm telling you. In the spiritual sense, yes they can. If you are still thinking world then yes you are correct they can't. It depends on Your mind frame tho, not theirs. That's the trick. 

Stop Asking For Unconditional Love

Men & Women: Stop asking for unconditional love if you have prerequisites attached before you choose to love somebody.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) January 25, 2016

People are funny when they talk about unconditional love because I know they're full of crap. With the proper exception of Jesus' help, NO ONE can love unconditionally. They may do well for a moment, but many people's tolerance for foolishness is very low, as it should be. Nobody should have time to keep giving people chance after chance when you don't see improvement; that's bananas. Men and women should stop asking for unconditional love if they have prerequisites attached before they love someone. Both genders are guilty of this. Men are like: I want my woman to be perfect before I give her my love. She can't have attitude, must be a great cook, this, that and the other.
Nothing wrong with having standards, BUT...do some men possess most or all of what they require in a woman? Women are like: I want a man to love me at my worst, or he won't get my best. LOL! Ok then. This is the mindset of some men & women. If you're going to love someone, love them unconditionally. You can't put conditions on love for your spouse. You must love your (wo)man even though at times you may not receive that love back. You must be able to love that (wo)man even if they piss you off sometimes. If you can't do that, the best thing to do is stay single. Nobody should be expected to love someone unconditionally if that person isn't willing to return the favor.

Open Up With Caution

These tweets deal with how people shouldn't be so quick to open up to everyone. The reason why I say you shouldn't open up to everyone is that there are people who are ready to use your details against you.

Sometimes, you need to have your guard up when meeting new people. You don't know what they're about yet.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) January 23, 2016

There's value in keeping quiet sometimes.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) January 23, 2016