Jun 28, 2015

Strawberry Letter | Steve Harvey in the Morning on WDAS: My Wife Does Too Much


These tit-for-tat letters are doing the most because they always start off like this: Wife cheats on husband, husband asks for divorce and wife wants to work it out. Or...husband cheats on his wife with his wife's mother or sister, wife goes berserk and all of a sudden his conscience eats at him so he wants to make it right with his wife. The common denominator in this letter is that BOTH of them cheated. Yes, BOTH are guilty of the same indiscretion so there's no need for either of them to be upset with each other. Yes, the husband cheated first and he was at fault, but the wife sunk to his level because she did the same thing out of spite. Because he cheated on his wife, she wanted him to hurt like she hurts. Just because one spouse cheats, it doesn't give the other spouse a pass to do the same, because (s)he's no better than their (wo)man. Someone has to be the better person and do one of two things: Try & get past the hurt or cut the relationship loose. Everyone that's read my stance on these Strawberry Letters knows my stance so I don't need to reiterate it. Once infidelity happens, it's tough to regain that trust because you can never look at him/her the same way. As a matter of fact, some people take cheating so seriously that if you cheat once, you're gone. No apologies, nothing. It's going to take God, and possibly counseling for them to get over their hurt because after all, both of them did each other foul so it's hard to say who's at fault because again, even though the husband cheated first, the wife was no better because she committed the same transgression.
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Jun 27, 2015

My Tweets on same-sex marriage

I will not apologize for standing up for righteousness. Feel how you want, and I'll feel how I want.


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Jun 26, 2015

Friday Gospel






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Jun 25, 2015

My Top 5

My blogs are usually 15-20 lines of commentary on various subjects, but I'm keeping today's entry short. I'm going to post my Top 5 tweets






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Jun 24, 2015

Parents Behind Bars

It seems like today's children go through so much. From bullying to divorce, today's kids are under a lot of stress. One of the toughest things for any child is seeing their parent(s) locked up. It's said that the family serves time with their offender because of missed milestones like graduation, kids' athletic events, etc. No child should have to experience a parent or loved one incarcerated; that must be hard on that child because (s)he looks up to them. That brings me to this question: Should children see their parent(s) in jail? I say yes, and let me explain why: Regardless of what that parent did(n't) do, that's still the child's father or mother. I believe seeing a parent in jail serves as a reminder of what happens if you make the wrong choices; you end up behind bars just like your loved one. You have some people who say "You want to see your kids, stay out of prison. I understand both points because some children are impressionable, and if they see mom or dad locked up, they get locked up so they can be like their mother and/or father.  

This was stated so eloquently by Denise Stay Positive:

Why do we try to shield our children from the choices we made?  If we decided to have children with an ex con -- male or female -- why shield them from that part of their life??? Parenting means we explain circumstances to them and position them in a way that those behaviors aren't repeated with them.  It's just life and children need to know about real life.  Mystery, suspense and hiding reality only makes children bitter.

In other words, seeing a parent behind bars is a learning tool because there are consequences, good or bad for the choices we make in life.
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Jun 23, 2015

Strawberry Letter: I Know I've Lost My Mind


This Strawberry Letter is something else. Here is a young woman with a seemingly good man, they're vibing (but not without some rough patches here and there), but she's lusting after another man. I'm no relationship expert, but if someone's already in a relationship and they're lusting after another person, it's a matter of time before that lust turns into physicality. She mentions that she's prayed hard to get rid of these lustful feelings, but to no avail. Obviously she's not praying hard enough because usually when you pray for God to release you from something, he does it on the spot. In being released from something, she has to be careful NOT to put herself in compromising positions. Has she told her husband she still thinks about another man? Probably not, because he would be livid, and with good reason. No man would be ok with his wife lusting after another man. The thing is, this other man is married and so is she. If she chooses to act on her lustful feelings, she could mess up two marriages: Hers & His. The best thing for her to do is keep her feelings on the low, because of the repercussions. What someone doesn't know, won't hurt them. Then again, this woman and the married man could be trying to reconnect somewhere down the line, and they're looking for an opportunity to make it happen. If she has a good man, why is she having feelings for another married man? Maybe she regrets marrying her current man, and wants to see what could be. Too late, she chose the man she's with so she might as well drop those feelings.
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Jun 22, 2015

I AM NOT A FATHER: Tina DeVeaux

  Every single mother who feels she deserves to be honored on Father's Day for playing both roles NEEDS to read this (I know many of them won't, but I'm still going to share):

Tina DeVeaux
I AM NOT A FATHER...

I was blessed to like, love, date, marry and burry an amazing man for nearly 14 years who blessed me with 3 extraordinary children. I AM their mother. I am NOT their father.

Similar to Rachel Dolezal, I lack the authentic experience of growing up as a boy and transitioning into manhood and fatherhood.

I lack the experience of the neurological and hormonal cues that translate into fatherly nurturing.

I lack the male experience of teaching a boy to swing from ropes, fight, cook meat, camp and date.

I lack the tone of voice that instills a fatherly fear in every child within ear range.

I lack the stature of a man that calls things into order simply with his presence.

I lack the pride and maturity that a man experiences the first day he learns he will be a father.

I lack the ability to provide and protect as a man and instill the discipline that only a father can authentically instill.

I lack the ability to challenge, provoke, and enforce the tools and exercises that a father brings.

I lack the physical, emotional, social and spiritual contribution and commitment of a father that gets handed down to his children.

I AM NOT A FATHER. I AM A MOTHER. I AM AN EXTRAORDINARY MOTHER who has trusted God to make up the difference, leaned on the wisdom of great fathers and worked overtime as a woman to attempt to fill in the gaps!

Happy Father's Day to the men in my life who have shared your stories, given me advice, corrected my approach, shared with my children, been an example and toughened me up when all I wanted to do was cry and let go.

I WOULD NOT DARE ATTEMPT TO STEAL YOUR DAY!! YOU ARE EXTRAORDINARY! ENJOY YOUR DAY, YOU DESERVE IT!! ‪#‎Salute‬
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