Parents Behind Bars

It seems like today's children go through so much. From bullying to divorce, today's kids are under a lot of stress. One of the toughest things for any child is seeing their parent(s) locked up. It's said that the family serves time with their offender because of missed milestones like graduation, kids' athletic events, etc. No child should have to experience a parent or loved one incarcerated; that must be hard on that child because (s)he looks up to them. That brings me to this question: Should children see their parent(s) in jail? I say yes, and let me explain why: Regardless of what that parent did(n't) do, that's still the child's father or mother. I believe seeing a parent in jail serves as a reminder of what happens if you make the wrong choices; you end up behind bars just like your loved one. You have some people who say "You want to see your kids, stay out of prison. I understand both points because some children are impressionable, and if they see mom or dad locked up, they get locked up so they can be like their mother and/or father.  

This was stated so eloquently by Denise Stay Positive:

Why do we try to shield our children from the choices we made?  If we decided to have children with an ex con -- male or female -- why shield them from that part of their life??? Parenting means we explain circumstances to them and position them in a way that those behaviors aren't repeated with them.  It's just life and children need to know about real life.  Mystery, suspense and hiding reality only makes children bitter.

In other words, seeing a parent behind bars is a learning tool because there are consequences, good or bad for the choices we make in life.

Strawberry Letter: I Know I've Lost My Mind

I Know I've Lost My Mind: Strawberry Letter

This Strawberry Letter is something else. Here is a young woman with a seemingly good man, they're vibing (but not without some rough patches here and there), but she's lusting after another man. I'm no relationship expert, but if someone's already in a relationship and they're lusting after another person, it's a matter of time before that lust turns into physicality. She mentions that she's prayed hard to get rid of these lustful feelings, but to no avail. Obviously she's not praying hard enough because usually when you pray for God to release you from something, he does it on the spot. In being released from something, she has to be careful NOT to put herself in compromising positions. Has she told her husband she still thinks about another man? Probably not, because he would be livid, and with good reason. No man would be ok with his wife lusting after another man. The thing is, this other man is married and so is she. If she chooses to act on her lustful feelings, she could mess up two marriages: Hers & His. The best thing for her to do is keep her feelings on the low, because of the repercussions. What someone doesn't know, won't hurt them. Then again, this woman and the married man could be trying to reconnect somewhere down the line, and they're looking for an opportunity to make it happen. If she has a good man, why is she having feelings for another married man? Maybe she regrets marrying her current man, and wants to see what could be. Too late, she chose the man she's with so she might as well drop those feelings.

I AM NOT A FATHER: Tina DeVeaux

  Every single mother who feels she deserves to be honored on Father's Day for playing both roles NEEDS to read this (I know many of them won't, but I'm still going to share):

Tina DeVeaux

I AM NOT A FATHER...

I was blessed to like, love, date, marry and burry an amazing man for nearly 14 years who blessed me with 3 extraordinary children. I AM their mother. I am NOT their father.

Similar to Rachel Dolezal, I lack the authentic experience of growing up as a boy and transitioning into manhood and fatherhood.

I lack the experience of the neurological and hormonal cues that translate into fatherly nurturing.

I lack the male experience of teaching a boy to swing from ropes, fight, cook meat, camp and date.

I lack the tone of voice that instills a fatherly fear in every child within ear range.

I lack the stature of a man that calls things into order simply with his presence.

I lack the pride and maturity that a man experiences the first day he learns he will be a father.

I lack the ability to provide and protect as a man and instill the discipline that only a father can authentically instill.

I lack the ability to challenge, provoke, and enforce the tools and exercises that a father brings.

I lack the physical, emotional, social and spiritual contribution and commitment of a father that gets handed down to his children.

I AM NOT A FATHER. I AM A MOTHER. I AM AN EXTRAORDINARY MOTHER who has trusted God to make up the difference, leaned on the wisdom of great fathers and worked overtime as a woman to attempt to fill in the gaps!

Happy Father's Day to the men in my life who have shared your stories, given me advice, corrected my approach, shared with my children, been an example and toughened me up when all I wanted to do was cry and let go.

I WOULD NOT DARE ATTEMPT TO STEAL YOUR DAY!! YOU ARE EXTRAORDINARY! ENJOY YOUR DAY, YOU DESERVE IT!! ‪#‎Salute‬

Question From A Friend

I got this post from someone's Facebook page, and I think it sheds light as to what's happening in Black America, and society as a whole.

QFAF (Question From A Friend): True or False: The black community imitates the black church in that when the head is removed (The MAN) from the household/church, the followers (The WOMEN) run out of control...this is the plan of the New World Order.

False in the greater sense...that the black community as a whole, doesn't not reflect the Christian church at all. If it did, we wouldn't have a fraction of the issues we're facing. We need to stop playing church because we'll go and cut up, but there's no redeeming power in just going to the building and then Monday-Saturday, just doing whatever you want to do. It's about becoming more spiritual by developing a personal relationship with our Creator, and not just go through the motions or being religious; there's a huge difference between the two. And when the New World Order is fully implemented, the religious and non-religious folk alike will wish they did have a personal relationship with God, and of course before dying which will probably occur prior to the NWO, which still has a way to go because Christians all over the world are impeding it's full implementation, but the signs are there, we're just getting bits and pieces of it here and there, but they're slowly turning up the heat the way you'd boil a frog. Before you realize it, you're cooked! If you don't really know HIM, now is the time, before it's too late.

My View: I think this post is spot on because men are the head, and if the head's not right, it trickles down to the rest of the family. Satan knows this, which is why he's attacking manhood full force. From this gay agenda to absentee fathers, men are under attack. Manhood is under attack because many people realize that a powerful, educated man is dangerous. He can do damage with his mind, and that's what most people fear. I'm not going to get into single moms wishing themselves Happy Father's Day, because we know that would be a long post. I'll address that some other time.

Charleston Black Church Massacre: Is The Shooter's Family Victims?

When those 9 victims died at the hands of Dylann Roof in Charleston, people had every right to side-eye the judge when he said "There are victims in Dylann Roof's family" Ummmm....I don't see how Roof's family can be victims when those 9 people died at Dylann's hands. The only victims are the families of those 9 people who died in that church massacre. Dylann's family is not a victim, so let's cut the crap with saying "There are victims in this young man's family." It's stupid...seriously. One more thing, any racial progress that was made, might further divide this country even more. Now, whites will feel uncomfortable visiting a black church, and blacks will automatically assume ALL white people are prejudice scum (Personally, I don't believe that, but I can't say the same for other blacks). Ferguson, Baltimore, and now the Charleston church massacre. I hate what he did, but I don't hate him. I just feel more sympathy for the victims' families than I do for the shooter's. I hate to see innocent folks suffer.

ZING!

Your life will get better when you realize it's better to be alone than chase people who don't really care about you.

— Law of Attraction (@TheLOAWorld) June 19, 2015

When people try to push you down, don’t worry—God hears them. They’re putting you in a position to be blessed in a greater way.

— Joel Osteen (@JoelOsteen) June 19, 2015

This tweet is my thoughts on the Charleston Church Shooting

They're preying while we're praying.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) June 19, 2015

You need people around that believe in your dreams! The others can bounce. Surround yourself with believers.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) June 19, 2015

I pray that God exposes all that needs to be exposed. Too much undercover foolishness going on.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) June 18, 2015

Outside beauty means nothing if your insides are toxic.

— cyrene tankard (@cyrenelovette) June 17, 2015

The government can mandate sexual perversion in public schools, but they ban prayer. It's no wonder why society is in the moral toilet.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) June 16, 2015

Good Shall Prevail: Jeannine Carswell

All of my Facebook friends are dropping fire so much that I may have to promote their content on my blog all year. Jeannine is one of my closest Facebook friends, who I've known for years on a previous social networking site before Facebook. Here is what she has to say about the Charleston Church Shooting:

Jeannine Carswell

So I just got home and am now able to watch the coverage of this horrendous Church Shooting. Apparently, it's true that this was a racially motivated incident. And you know what I have to say about that?? OBAMA.

All of these incidences kicked up 1000 notches AFTER Obama became President. Him being Black has truly sent all these closet racists into a complete and utter FRENZY. They are panicked and full of hatred and acting out! It's time to quite BSing about this! All these police shootings, and now these church killings, etc....this certainly is NOT all a coincidence. There is a difference between being Diplomatic and being in Denial. We are truly reliving the 1960's here and this is not a joke, not something to be blown off, and NOT at all something to repeat! This story is absolutely disgusting to me.

But we must remember - there is ALWAYS a push-back from those who are Evil, before the Good actually prevail and change occurs. History tells us this. So it's plain and it's clear...that it is truly time for us younger generations (of ALL races) to "grab the torch" from those before us and see this f*cking fight through to the end. NO PAIN, NO GAIN RIGHT? Don't let lives lost be in vain. The corruption must stop, and it will!