The Blessing In Being Unwanted

"That's why no one wants you." That's supposed to be a bad thing because? Sometimes, it's a blessing to be unwanted by certain people.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) May 19, 2015

Everyone has heard this notorious shaming tactic from time to time. Some people really think they're supposed to hurt one's feelings when they say this garbage, which some folks may be slighted by this statement. The majority of people would shrug it off because for one, some people are single by choice. They don't need someone to define them. If someone comes into their life, good. If not, that's cool too. They were fine before that person, and they'll be fine after them. I'll go one better: They'll be fine if no one wants to be in their life! The main folks who utter this statement are those that no one would want anyway. I find it hilarious that people think everyone's hard up for a significant other. I've mentioned this in a few previous blogs: A significant other enhances what's already there. They aren't responsible for completing you, you're supposed to already be whole. At the same time, some folks would take the "That's why no one wants you" statement to heart. Some folks self-esteem is low that they think something's wrong with them if someone told them that. If anything, there's a lot more wrong with the offender than the victim, so for those who are slighted by that statement, know your worth and don't let anyone make you feel bad for being single. It's better to be single than alone in a relationship. In other words, you can be with someone and still be alone. What do I mean by that? You and this person live together, but you two barely communicate. Y'all know nothing about each other, but everything's lovely according to y'all (side eye). Sometimes, being unwanted is a blessing because you avoid drama. When the wrong people want you, it's only a matter of time before something goes wrong. 

Growing Apart From Those Who Don't Grow

You will grow apart from those who don't grow.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) May 16, 2015

You will grow apart from those who don't grow. Why is that? Because if you & your associate, friend, acquaintance, significant other, etc are going in opposite directions, there's no chance for a successful relationship. In order to have unity, both parties must be on one accord. That's not to say they will co-sign each other on everything, but their similarities should far outweigh their differences. Trying to grow together with someone you have little in common with is like swimming against the current: You're strong enough to do it, but why would you? You're wasting your energy, and eventually you'll become weary. The older someone gets, the more meaningful their relationships should be. Nobody should waste time trying to grow with those who are growing apart; I know I don't. I used to force some relationships to work because I didn't want to be alone, but as I got older I've learned to embrace my solitude. I don't have many friends, but the ones I do have are true riders. We can go days, weeks or months without talking, and come together like it's nothing. At my current stage, I have no problem growing apart from those who don't grow.
I don't know why some people are scared to grow apart. It's like they're scared to be alone so they force some relationships to work that are temporary. Listen, not everyone is meant to be in your life forever. Some people come into your life for a season & a lifetime. It's important to know the difference, so let me break it down: Seasonal folks are those you hit it off with immediately. You feel like you've known them your whole life, and it's so far so good. You think these people are with you for the long haul until you two discover you're more different than alike. Your outlooks aren't the same, nor is your life trajectory. Through no fault of each other, the relationship comes to an end. Lifetime folks are those people who you hit it off with immediately, but with one difference: These are people who have your back from start to finish. They don't want anything from you, just your friendship & loyalty. You know these people are for you because you can't go a day without chatting with them. You rejoice & grieve with them. You two have the same trajectory & outlook on life. If you're smart, you'll grow together with those who are growing.

Foolish Woman Vs. Wise Woman

Foolish women look at a man's ride, smart women look at a man's drive.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) May 17, 2015

Foolish women look at a man's ride; smart women look at a man's drive. If I asked a woman what's the first thing she looks for in a man, she would tell me that he has to have a nice car. In her mind, she can tell a lot about a man by the kind of car he drives. He could be well to do, but he's not into luxury items. Because some women can't see past the outer, they assume he's broke; he has no hustle & won't give him the time of day. The guy with the Rolls Royce would get looks from all the women because to them, the Rolls Royce signals success. Some women like to see tangible evidence of men with their stuff together. Going back to the other guy, he has the same good job as the man with the Rolls Royce, but he believes in living below his means. He feels that he will attract the wrong women if he decides to upgrade, so he dumbs down his prosperity. When you're getting to know someone, you have to give them doses of you because not everyone can handle everything that comes with you. At the same time, if you're blessed, there's nothing wrong with voicing it, as long as it's to inspire someone. Use discernment in who you allow to be in your life, and you should be fine. The wise woman sees a man hustling for a better way and wants to be with him. She believes in him so much that she wants to be instrumental in his success. That's the woman that will sit on the mountain with him because she saw his grind, and elevated it.

Kenya Moore's Fake Marriage

FYI tweets I'm not sure james is really married! I smell a sham! No rings in wedding photos. Show me the marriage documents! @KenyaMoore

— Patti Stanger (@pattistanger) May 15, 2015

Two weeks ago, Kenya Moore went on Millionaire Matchmaker to find love. All was well, or so we thought. Her so-called boyfriend James Freeman is getting lit up on social media because led Kenya on. First off, these matchmaking shows are booboo because how many folks actually find love? A small percentage. Those matchmaking shows are rigged to where contestants fail at finding true love, so they can get their 15 minutes of fame. My thing is, why lead someone on? If you're married, admit it. The worst thing that could happen is the person leaves you because by right, they shouldn't be involved with a married man. James & Jamie used Kenya because she's a hot commodity. Since she's been an RHOA cast member since Season 5, her name is back in the spotlight, so irrelevant folks are trying to use Kenya to come up. If you're proud of being married, you should have no problem showcasing it to loved ones & friends. Notice how James had NO ring or marriage documents, which leads me to believe this fake marriage was a sham from the jump. I feel bad for Kenya because she was lied to, but obviously she's not bothered by it because according to Ms. Moore, God's got the right person for her. In conclusion: I'm sick of this; Haven't they humiliated this woman enough? What's really the problem they have with her? Nothing but jealousy because this is just too much. They need to leave this woman alone. Don't they see she will not fall nor fail? Damn, let it go because jealousy is an #UGLY trait..My goodness. 

140 Characters Of Realness

That $5 big box from Popeye's was everything I wanted it to be. Breast and leg, 1 biscuit and 2 sides. $5.38. Hope the itis doesn't hit me.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) May 14, 2015

Stop living for yourself and the praise of others and start living for Christ. (Galatians 1:10)

— Fannie Gouger (@Fanniehkg) May 13, 2015

A mistake is a great opportunity for learning and healing. There is always more for us to learn about ourselves.

— Law of Attraction (@TheLOAWorld) May 13, 2015

People who do you wrong will turn around and act like you did something to them.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) May 11, 2015

You change your life by changing your circle.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) May 11, 2015

If anyone else was crying and Walked off, NeNe would have rolled her eyes. Didn't Cynthia breakdown in tears last year? #Bye.

— ThePrettyAffectRHOA (@ThePrettyAffect) May 11, 2015

So Nene can say whatever she wants to ppl and then hide behind her abandonment issues #hypocrite #RHOAReunion #notfair

— denise jackson (@courtcorey) May 11, 2015

#Nene things that happened to you in your life does not give you an excuse to treat other people poorly. Stop. #RHOA

— Lisa Kirton (@iwanttodance) May 11, 2015

Nene needs to cut the crap with those fake tears. She'll be back to acting a black fool next season. She isn't slick.😒 #RHOAReunion

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) May 11, 2015

You can apologize over and over but if your actions don't change, the words become meaningless.

— Amazing Facts (@intrstng_facts) May 10, 2015

The Bulls fans celebrating like they won the championship. 😭😂

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) May 9, 2015

"You can never win when you're dirty"-Ironic of Nene to say that since she's been foul to everyone she came in touch with. #RHOAReunion

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) May 4, 2015

Think long, think wrong.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) May 3, 2015

The greatest pleasure in life is doing the things people say you couldn't do or had doubts about you doing! Never give up on yourself!

— Mind Of A Real Man (@RealMenTalk) May 2, 2015

It's funny how married couples want to bring up God when they're on the brink of divorce because one person is tired of being mistreated.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) May 1, 2015

Pressure Busts Pipes

When you're a private person, you should be cautious of who you open up to, because what you say can & will be used against you. The issue is when someone genuine comes along who wants to put you at ease, and you refuse to open up because you think they can't handle the results. That pressure builds up for so long until that pipe bursts, meaning you finally open up because they aren't going to let it go.

A Rose Is Still A Rose: Wonderful Watson

       

"A rose is still a rose." This was the response of a young lady in reference to a discussion regarding the loss of virginity correlated with public perception. I found her comment interesting because in her mind, her worth to her future husband will not be affected because of her sexual encounters prior to marriage.

I reminded her of this indisputable fact. Fresh roses are preferred over wilted ones. Compare the reactions of people who receive fresh roses compared to people who receive wilted ones. Yes, a rose is still a rose regardless of its condition.