Inappropriate Stepdaughter

It should be understood there are some things you just don't know, and walking around in your bra & panties is one of them. If an underage child lives with their parents, I'm sure his/her parents told them to put some clothes on when they walk around the house. It's a respect thing. This morning's Strawberry Letter is about a spoiled 19-year old stepdaughter who is feeling herself to where she parades around the home in her bra & panties. The father is 45, and has 3 other children. The stepfather doesn't know if he should back off or confront the stepdaughter via the wife. As the head of household, this guy needs to put his foot down. Tell her to stop being so fast in walking around in her undergarments. If the stepdaughter gets mad, so what? Notice how this child won't pull that with her mother, but he's let her get away with that for so long, that he can't reign her in. No man should have to remove himself from any place in the household. He wants Steve to "watch out" how he talks about his daughter, but he called her a NASTY behind. 

Let me address an ugly TRUTH that people turn a blind eye to. He's LUSTing after his step daughter. TRUTH be told, he's already had SEX with her in his mind, so he's probably not far from SEXING her. The words we speak are very powerful. When he referred to her as nasty, he's speaking that into existence for his stepdaughter- that's why it casually rolls off his mouth. Whther he likes it or not, that's the TRUTH. Out of four children, why does the majority think he spoils THIS one? Her behavior didn't start yesterday. Why does she feel comfortable strutting around the house with next to nothing on and with total disregard for the next person's feeling?. Why doesn't she ACT like this when your wife is present? He should've addressed this inappropriate behavior with his WIFE. His eyes and mind have already humped her daughter and it's a short matter of time before you attempt the physical act. That's the TRUTH. I guess it slipped his mind not to mention the gender of your other children. You should also want to "give your life for" all your children, not just the 19 year old as you singled out. He's not slick.

These N***** Aren't Loyal

You had to know I was going to flip it on the men, right? Right. What's good for one, is good for the other. Ever since this term "These Hoes Aren't Loyal" gone viral, people have taken that statement and ran with it. Personally, I'm sick of that term because some people run it into the hole. Since some men love spouting how women aren't loyal, neither are they. A man meets a respectable woman who's compatible with him, they get married but...he's been cheating on his woman long before marriage. She never found out, which is the strange part. How can you be married to someone for years, and not know they're creeping? Many women have very good discernment, so they know what's up in their relationship. If something's not right, a woman will investigate because her discernment won't allow her to be made a fool of. I'm getting tired of some men saying how "hoes" aren't loyal, when men cheat just as much as, if not more than women.

Just like hoes aren't loyal, neither are some men. One good woman isn't enough for some men, he's got to have a bevy of women. If a man can't appreciate one good woman, something's wrong. When I think of men dogging women, I think of a little boy who hasn't grown up. He doesn't realize the value of a good woman because he hasn't had suitable examples. It's well known if a man doesn't have a stand-up mother, he's not going to hold women in high regard. If a doggish man is lucky to get a good woman, he'll dog her out so bad that she'll become a part of the Angry Black Sisterhood. You'll encounter them on social media or in real life: They're trademark statements are "F a black man, black men aren't spit, this, that and the third". Sadly, the doggish men give good men a bad name because when a good man encounters a jaded woman, he has to pay for another man's sins. Not many men will tolerate a jaded woman, as he shouldn't. It's not his fault you (the woman) were dogged out. If he wasn't loyal, whose fault is it? Hers, because she had to know he was no good before she met him. A good woman cannot make a disloyal man be loyal. Before a man shoots off how women aren't loyal, he should ask himself the same question.

Pastor Jamal Bryant: These Hoes Ain't Loyal

The above mentioned statement has Pastor Jamal Bryant in hot water. I've listened to the message on The Word network and liked the overall premise. As soon as Pastor Bryant said "these hoes ain't loyal", people caught feelings. In a way I understand why because you don't expect to hear that kind of language from a pastor. Most churchgoers expect pastors to be dignified in their sermons, but sometimes you have to tell it like it is. That's what I feel Pastor Bryant did, he kept it a little too real. When you have a platform, you're free to say what you wish even if it will offend some people. If it doesn't apply, let it fly. We have too many pastors that are afraid to tell it like it is because they don't want the congregation to leave. If something (s)he says struck a nerve, it was for a reason. Truth is like medicine: Once you get past the bitter taste, it will benefit you. Every pastor has their own style, and I get that. Joel Osteen is more of the encouraging motivational preacher kind, Creflo Dollar has a teaching style of preaching, etc. There are times to keep it real, and there are times to offer encouragement & hope. When I think about it, he's telling the truth. Hoes aren't loyal, they're not supposed to be. Hoes are for EVERYBODY. Some men get upset when they see their side chick sexing another dude, but he should've remembered she was a ho. Noooooo...he wanted to hit, which he did, and now he wants exclusive rights to her. Fellas, if a woman is loose, you can't claim a ho as your own. There's a reason she's a ho, she doesn't want to be tied down to one man. The sooner some men learn this, the better off they will be.

Enough Is Enough Pt. 2

Enough Is Enough for men not taking care of business.

Enough Is Enough of women trying to be men and vice versa.

Enough Is Enough of men co-signing women just to gain their approval. Last time I checked, that's simp territory.

Enough Is Enough when men think that getting booty is a rite of passage.

Enough Is Enough for a lack of revival in America. We have hurting people, many of which are hanging by a thread. If they don't get a touch from God, they will end it all.

Enough Is Enough when children can't safely play in some neighborhoods because of random rounds of gunfire.

Enough Is Enough of this student loan crisis. How can people expect students to pay back loans when they can't find suitable employment? That's dumb.

Enough Is Enough of false reports saying the unemployment rate has fallen or remained stagnant. Anybody with the ability to dig deeper knows the actual unemployment rate among various groups is 2-3 times higher.

Enough Is Enough for employers complaining about the lack of skilled employees. You pay skilled employees according to their skillset and education, period.

Enough Is Enough for men gossiping like women. A man addresses another man face to face, not talk behind his back. I've never seen so many catty men in my life.

Enough Is Enough for millions of people being in debt. My ultimate goal is to become debt free so I can build wealth and give. This comes from being strategic in the moves I make.

Enough Is Enough when (wo)men try and crawl back into their ex's lives, because they "realize" they messed up. Why does it take losing a good (wo)man to realize you had a good thing going?

Enough Is Enough for every show being a reality show. If regular people can get rich & famous by cutting up on national TV, maybe I need to write my own reality show.

Enough Is Enough

Enough Is Enough for unemployment being 3x the national average for persons with disabilities, blacks, etc.

Enough Is Enough for bullying in schools. If parents can't control their child(ren), they don't need to be in public schools with civilized children.

Enough Is Enough for corporate greed. How much more $$$ do corporate executives need? They already make 20x more than their employees, and in some cases hundreds of times more.

Enough Is Enough for Americans going overseas to help fight hunger and poverty, when we have those same issues in the United States.

Enough Is Enough for this dark & light skin war. Last time I checked, dark and light skinned blacks have the same struggle.

Enough Is Enough for men sexting random women just because she looks good.

Enough Is Enough for some (wo)men demanding a (wo)man bring 100% when (s)he doesn't even have a fraction of what (s)he requires.

ENOUGH IS ENOUGH of this child support hustle.

Enough Is Enough for churches becoming social clubs. A lot of so-called Christians won't make Heaven with that foolishness.

Enough Is Enough for black on black murders.

Enough Is Enough for teachers sexing their underage students. Can't (s)he get someone their own age?

Enough Is Enough for a lack of a cure for autism. How many people must continue to be affected by autism before something is done?

Enough Is Enough for men who claim to be providers, but their wife makes more money than him. A provider is a leader financially, spiritually, etc.

Enough Is Enough for women not knowing their role. A woman is supposed to be a helpmate to her husband, not sit on her tail and do nothing while the husband works himself to the bone.

Enough Is Enough for general foolishness. People need to have some sense already.

Enough Is Enough for storefront churches in black neighborhoods, but none of them make a bit of difference in the hood.

Enough Is Enough for black neighborhoods being warzones. Shootings & murders, police sirens at 8pm nightly. Can I get some upper-middle class black communities please?

Enough Is Enough for this employer's market. It must be nice to make prospective employees jump through several hoops to compete for a job that you already had someone else in mind for from day one.

Enough Is Enough for a $15/hr minimum wage increase. Does anyone really think there will be a nationwide $15/hr minimum wage? No, because that would make the cost of everything else go up.



Most People Are Cool With You, Until You Pose A Threat

Most people are cool with you, until you pose a threat to them. You know what I'm talking about; you chill with these folks on a regular basis, and as soon as you show ambition, they get an attitude. Some people don't want better for themselves so they want to hold you back from going after what you want. These people feel like you're going to leave them behind (that may be what you have to do, if you want something out of life. At first glance, things are going great between you two; you do small talk, have a few things in common, etc. If you're like me, you don't want to entertain the thought of having someone who pretends to be in your corner, so you nip that in the bud. If you're going to be someone's cheerleader, you have their back through thick & thin. You can't be cool with someone out of convenience, you're either down with them or you're not. Being cool with someone until you pose a threat is equal to being phony. I can't & won't respect that. You have to watch everyone around you because you never know. That's where discernment comes into play: God will always show you who's for and against you, what you do with that revelation is on you. Let you and this person have an argument, and they unload on you. The thing is, you're caught off guard because you never saw it coming. Newsflash: When someone's upset, they show their true colors. They were waiting for a reason to pop off. There's an old saying that rings true: Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. You show people how to treat you by what you allow.



Can I Live With The Things I Dislike About You?

Before you get involved with someone, you should ask yourself this question: Can I live with the things I dislike about you? The answer to this question should determine how far you progress in your relationship with that person. Everybody that's in a relationship has things they dislike about their (wo)man, that's a given. Some people choose to love their (wo)man despite their shortcomings, others tolerate, and some people leave. Everyone has to do what's best for them, and I understand that. Little things like occassional sarcasm isn't so bad, but when the sarcasm is frequent and becomes hurtful, you're supposed to nip that in the bud. What you allow is what will continue. If someone's honest, they will be direct in their faults & will give you the option to stay or leave. If you stay, you're accepting the good & bad of someone. I respect people who are forthright about their shortcomings, because at some point you'll see their true colors.

How do you know what you dislike about someone unless you're in a relationship? If you're friends with someone, you're evaluating them as a potential partner. You observe them at their best and worst, and their worst tells you all you need to know. Can you love someone even if they're not being lovable back? I've said this before & I'll say it again, nobody can love unconditionally. I can see why some couples live together before marriage, because you don't really know someone like you think. You're not around them 24-7, so all you can do is go off of what they give you. When you're in tune with yourself, you develop discernment. Discernment allows you to see a person's true nature. If you have good vibes with someone, you feel a sense of calm around them. They've been honest with you about who they are from Day 1, and you respect them & vice versa. If something isn't right about a person, you get an uneasy feeling. That's your spirit telling you to exercise caution.

Some will change for the better or worse. Each person has to keep in mind they're not the person they're in love or lust with. No one's mind stays programmed the same way for long or forever.

 

I'll leave you with this: Eletha Owens Also, when you find out what you don't like about a person, you have two choices: stay or go. If you choose to stay, please keep in mind that a person is most likely to be set in their ways and aren't going to change anytime soon if at all. You can't make a person change, only that person will choose to change. That's why a lot of relationships/marriages fail.