Question From A Friend

Do you think it's un-natural or abnormal for a man or woman, but ESP a man, to be alone when God says He made a helpmate suitable for him? So, if he hasn't found that helpmate, doesn't that mean he (the man) is disconnected from God in some way or is controlled by his own ego?

 

This was my response: Good question. Yes & No. Most men, like women want to spend the rest of their lives with that special person, so why would a man or woman reject the person God sends in their life? Especially if they help him/her be the best person possible. Then again, some people don't want a relationship & that's fine. Depending on their calling, it may be best if (s)he stays single, so they can devote their life to their calling. I don't think God will punish someone if they choose to stay single. Many men (like women) make a conscious decision to remain single, because most men have low tolerance for BS (same as women). Depending on the woman, some men will work with a woman to help her be her best. Most times, if she's not on point like he is (being on point varies for each person), it's game over.

 

 Follow-Up Question: That's ego though, isn't it? In other words when God presents the person, and our EGO says, he's not perfect, she's not perfect, aren't we using our selfish desires and thwarting our blessing? Aren't people making mate selection too hard?

 

My Response:

It is ego, but most men won't admit it. People require of others what they lack in themselves. If your man or woman was perfect, how would that work out?

I think some people make mate selection harder than necessary. Ask God for discernment in choosing the right mate, and he won't let you get jammed up with the wrong person.

Looking at today's world with divorce, domestic abuse, etc., many folks are like "forget this, if this is what relationships are like, I want no part of it."



Complain About Your Boss? You're Fired.

Man Fired After Facebook Post

 

Stories like this seem to be more commonplace: Man complains about his boss, and he gets fired. When will people learn? You cannot complain about your company and/or manager without repercussions. He complained on FACEBOOK, one of the top social networking sites on the web. He should've known there were spies. His so-called "friend" snitched to his boss, and this guy was terminated. Every company has a social networking presence: Company employees to senior executives all have Facebook accounts, so it behooves employees to watch what they post. Never post anything that could come back to haunt you. Don't people realize that many co-workers strategically send friend requests to co-workers in order to jam them up? A co-worker adds a few colleagues to their Facebook friend list, these "friends" rarely, if ever post on their wall, but they are sitting on the low waiting for you to slip up, so they can run to their manager about what you said about the company. Next thing you know, you're in the big boss's office looking crazy trying to explain yourself. I'm sorry, but I won't give anyone information to use against me. That's why I'm VERY CAREFUL about what I post online. If I can't stand behind what I say offline, I don't say it on the book. Matter of fact, co-workers SHOULD NOT be Facebook friends because you can't trust anybody. Co-workers who have each other on their friend lists get my goat. In my head, I'm thinking: How lame is that? You guys can't meet anyone outside of work so you resort to friending each other on Facebook.

 

 

 

Doing Right With No Compensation

The man in the picture is Charles Ramsey. He was in the news for rescuing 3 women who were kidnapped and forced into sexual exploitation for 10 YEARS. These women were raped multiple times and forced to do God knows what. I'm just glad these women made it out alive, although they may need psychological therapy to heal from this ordeal. I don't know of any woman who has gone through what these women did, and NOT underwent therapy. He was offered a reward and turned it down, because he wanted the reward money to go to the rescued women. His heart was in the right place, but here's a comment from Katina Person (Facebook friend) who, told it like it was:

 

"Everyone is praising this dude because he said to give the reward money to the girls. WHATEVER! If there is reward money and if he doesn't take it for himself, he's a fool. Those girls are going to get paid. Period. Look at that Dugard girl or whatever her name is. They found her. She was on People, giving interviews day and night. She got paid for ALL of that. They are going to get book deals, maybe a reality show, who knows? Depending on the agent they get, and how they play it. But what is he going to get? Talking about he has a job. That's for NOW. In this economy, we all know jobs are guaranteed. He's in OH too? I hope he has someone like me in his life, talking sense to him, lol."

 

I share her sentiment, because if you're offered reward money for a noble deed, YOU TAKE IT. Say thank you, and move on. His heart was in the right place, and I can respect that, but sometimes you need compensation for the good you do. I believe he just wanted to make sure that after all they had been through him getting a reward shouldn't be the focus. Often, our hearts are in the right place but our brain needs to get in the right place too!

 

 





Ride Or Die Woman By Kim Ward

Kim Ward (a Facebook friend) wrote a very powerful post in the No More Nonsense Facebook Group. It was so well-written, I had to share! Here It Is.

 

Men tell us that they want a ride-or-die chick. They want a woman that is committed and one that won't head for the hills when times get rough. We are critical of a woman that don't stand by their man- even after he has lost the third job in as many months or after he has been unemployed for the past 2...3...4 years. We tell her that times are hard. "Things are rough for a Black man." We guilt trip her and tell her that a lot of it is her fault and we tell her that men need a woman that is ride-or-die.
As a woman, you don't want to be one of "those" women. You know the type. The woman who talks too much. The nag. The type of woman your man hears his friends talk about in the barbershop. You have a "good" thing and you proudly ride shotgun as your man steers your relationship... over a cliff. You are ride-or-die.
At what point is it okay for your "ride" to end? Is it after you find out that he got Shanekanaynay pregnant? Or is it after you are tagged in a picture that shows your man "getting it in" at a party full of twerking women when you thought he was watching the game over his boy's house? Do you ride-or-die your way to the clinic for the third time this year because stuff down there is just not right?
Some women feel that ride-or-die means turning in their drivers license and giving up the right to plat their own course. That couldn't be any further from the truth. You should only be ride-or-die for a man that is willing to ride-or-die with you.



Hondo Solomon's Proverbs

These are a list of quotes from a Facebook friend of mine named Hondo Solomon. This brother is very intelligent. Here We Go:

"Side chicks always want to be upgraded at some point because the man is focused on his real family."
~ Hondo Solomon

"Housewives and concubines over side chicks."
~ Hondo Solomon

"The time a man spends absorbing NBA League Pass is the same time he could be spending learning to pass his wealth to his future generations."
~ Hondo Solomon

"The energy a woman spends on being a side chick could be spent learning how to be a proper housewife."
~ Hondo Solomon

Men have a prime growth range from 18 until they are near 60. This highlights one reason older men want younger women (who only have a prime range of 16 to their late 20s) so their family line may continue in earnest. There's no point in having one woman of the same age who only gave you two children and you wanted 20.
Men, go polygynous.
Ladies, hypergamy is in order.

Ladies, if you believe it's attractive to be opinionated because you are "grown" and "have a mind of your own," why do men first notice the quiet, demure, and dainty women standing next to you and want to wife them ASAP?

A man must keep his own private study area and sleeping quarters in the home. This is important for his mental maintenance and periodic solitude. When time is needed with the wives, he may go in unto them and/or vice versa.

This one is really good:

Side chick psychology is backward and upended, makes no sense and has no relation to reality. Thus, side chicks believe because a man has sex with them and gives them money, that he will eventually marry them.

Two important facts are overlooked by side chicks:

(1) You are a side chick and are there for sex and possible arm candy status.
(2) The man in question will never marry you...Because you are there for sex and possible arm candy status.
Shouts out to all the side chicks.
Stay in your lane.

Side chicks always want to be upgraded at some point because the man is focused on his real family.

The women who rail against polygyny the most, boasting they will never be a man's other woman, are the same ones who are presently a man's other woman.

I'm Coming Out

 

Diana Ross dropped this very song the year I was born, in 1980. It was to signal gays & lesbians coming out to the world. When I hear this song, I think of Jason Collins, the NBA player who announced he was gay to the entire nation. He got congratulatory calls from President Obama & his wife, and other influential people. The irony is Tim Tebow announcing his Christianity, and Tebow gets criticized. When Jason Collins came out, amens & hallelujahs. A picture is going around Facebook showing a picture of Tebow and Jason Collins. Jason Collins has a choir backing him singing praises, and Tebow has duct tape over his mouth, as the world is saying: Big deal. My issue is gays have no problem coming out, so why are some Christians shook? I touched on this in a previous blog, and it bears repeating: Some Christians are cowards. They keep their Christianity on the low to keep from being persecuted. Jesus was persecuted, so what makes you think Christians won't face the same? Today's world is living proof. The Bible does say if you deny me in front of man, he (God) will deny us (Christians) in front of his father. If you ask me, it's bonkers. If homosexuals can come out, what's Christians' excuse? One of my church's pastors delivered a powerful message on this very subject. To paraphrase yesterday's sermon, he said: Homosexuals have more guts than Christians because they have no shame in announcing their sexuality to the world, but some Christians don't come out because they don't want that persecution. I will admit, it's shameful that you can discuss everything but Jesus is the ONE thing you can't mention. Why? Because that name is powerful. One utterance of Jesus and people are shook. The world is threatened by the powerful name of Jesus so that's why they do everything in their power to stamp God out of every societal realm. You would think that Christians (God's chosen people) would represent for him, which many do. When it comes to taking a stand for Christianity, some Christians miss the mark because they co-sign foolery instead of checking it. There's an old adage and it rings true: If you're not part of the solution, you're part of the problem.

First 48 Making Miami Look Bad? Negative.

http://www.miaminewtimes.com/2013-03-28/news/uncle-luke-the-first-48-gives-black-miami-a-bad-rap/full/

 

I've been watching First 48 since it's inception. Each week, a different city is profiled. The show is about detectives working to solve a murder within the First 48 hours, hence the show title. Miami has been regularly featured on the murder series for a while now, and the episodes always take place in these neighborhoods: Overtown, Liberty City, and Little Haiti. Seldom will you have a First 48 episode take place in Miami Gardens (although there has been one show where a murder was profiled there). The bulk of Miami's violence can be traced to those 3 areas, so it makes sense to profile murders in those 3 neighborhoods. Let's be honest, do Overtown, Liberty City and Little Haiti residents object to their neighborhood being profiled? Negative. Having your city featured on First 48 is attaining superstardom, because outsiders know how hardcore your city is. The show does feature residents cooperating with the police to catch the murderer(s), so it must have a purpose. Luke makes good points, especially about the show doing nothing to show why inner-city blacks are shooting each other. It's not hard to figure out: Little or no education, poverty and hopelessness all contribute to black on black murder. Think about it, how many successful blacks go out and commit crimes? None, because there's too much to lose. Black Miami has been in trouble since the late 80's/early 90's, with drug gangs like Boobie Boys, Thomas Family and John Doe that wreaked havoc on the Miami streets. In closing, The First 48 does not make black Miami look bad. The show does a good job of showing what life is like for inner-city Miami residents.