The Road Of Least Resistance

 

It's a given there will be SOME resistance in a relationship but how much is too much? According to some women, a man is supposed to love her at her worst, when she's not returning the favor. Nobody has time for that! If one person is doing all the giving and receiving, there's a problem.

I Don't Know Why Some Women Think That A Man Will Put up with any kind of nonsense. The average man operates on a 3 strike rule. The woman gets out of order 3 times before he leaves. I, on the other hand have zero tolerance when it comes to relationships. If I see a woman is about drama upon first encounter, she will be left behind. What do I look like wasting her & my time. No ma'am. My peace of mind is far more valuable than loving a woman at her worst. This isn't like back in the day, where old-school couples understood COMMITTMENT. In today's world, people are quick to toss you over miniscule reasons, and you can't blame them. Everyone's tolerance level is different. Some people have a high and low tolerance for attitude, agression & hostility. Ladies must remember it's the guy who asks the question, NOT YOU! Unless you want to pop the question yourselves; In that case, have at it. Get back to me with a report of how it worked out for you. A man will always travel the road of least resistance. I know for me, this picture is a no-brainer. I'm going with the woman who will play her position and I play mine. I'm about building a legacy and you can't do that with someone that's not on the same page. THAT PART!

2 Kinds Of Interest

Marvelous Marina Woods

women::: there are two kinds of interest from a man.
#1 simple interest - calling, texting, spending time, talking, dating, etc.
#2 special interest - may look just like simple interest in some cases, but special interest has a couple of additional components. a- sacrifice. a man with special interest may sacrifice his own free time to spend with you. he may sacrifice, and call you even though he is a self described "anti - talk on the phone person".

b- goal or principle. whereas a man with simple interest may continue to show you interest, a man with special interest demonstrates his interest with a goal in mind. he dates you with a goal of marriage as the stated end. simple interest men often date a woman and speak about marriage with the ol’ "maybe one day" line. the special interest man sees you as ‘A WIFE’ and uses contact with you to determine if you are ‘HIS WIFE’.

90% of ya’ll that are getting the simple interest man. His interest is copyable, and can be applied to any woman, anywhere. the simple interest guy IS NOT trying to sacrifice, and tailor his contact with you for your benefit. he says "why go through all of that, I can just pick someone else".

 

My View: This makes sense. The level of interest a man has in a woman determines how far he will go to make something happen. If a man really wants to be with a woman, he will move heaven & earth to make it happen, and she will respond in favor. If there's little or no interest, a man will come up with every excuse in the book not to spend time with the woman. In that case, she can't be upset because in so many words, he's telling her she's not worthy of his time. You can't force someone to be with you, they have to make that decision themselves. Let's be honest, a good man is hard to find. Even more difficult for a woman is to find a good man that will sacrifice his time to be with her. THOSE men aren't to be trifled with.

 



What Are You Worth?

Marvelous Marina Woods
WHAT ARE YOU WORTH?
Seeing that marriage is what dating Christians ultimately seek, why not make marriage the centerpiece of dating, without all the ties? In the Bible, exclusivity before marriage was granted with a price. When Jacob told Laban that he wanted to marry his daughter Rachel, they agreed on a price before she was set-aside for him. Today, with our boyfriend and girlfriend culture, exclusivity costs nothing and is given freely therefore it means next to nothing, especially to men. It is Biblical for a man to collect his savings, buy a diamond and offer it to a woman as a sacrifice and a promise to marry her. No matter what our society says, the Bible does NOT support the process of women setting themselves aside exclusively before a sacrificial offering has been made. Imagine Jacob asking Laban to marry Rachel without a sacrificial demonstration of his love. Jacob worked 7 years for the hand of Rachel. How much are you worth?

My View: Working 7 years to get your desired man/woman? Nobody has time for that. What people you know that are willing to put in that much work for someone who's probably not worth it? I rest my case. I could see putting in work for someone you're genuinely interested in but even that wears off fast. I understand you're supposed to take your time in relationships because we're talking about a lifetime committment; you're not supposed to rush into a relationship with the first person that has a pulse. As the old saying goes, all that glitters isn't gold. Most people focus on the external rather than the internal which is what gets people jammed up. Patience IS NOT a virtue for many folks, and in a way I can't blame them. Nobody should have to jump through hoops for someone, but at the same time you shouldn't rush into a relationship without doing your due diligence. You gotta find that balance between action and caution. If you have a good feeling about someone, full speed ahead. The slightest doubt you have about someone is for a reason, it's to let you know something's not right. Today, very few people are patient enough to take their time to get to know someone. If you told them how in the Bible, Jacob had to put in 7 years work before he could marry Rachel, most people would look at you with a screw face as to say: "7 years? You have to be kidding me. I'm not waiting that long. If (s)he can't recognize a good thing offtop, I'm not waiting around for them." Someone who knows their worth WILL NOT settle for the first person who comes along.

 

 



What You Don't/Won't Do

Nojma Reflects

22 hours ago

Keep saying what you don't do...at your own risk...

Keep saying:

"I don't submit"
"I don't support"
"I don't cook"
"I don't need you to do anything for me"
"I don't assist in building....you should already be fully built and operational when we meet"
"I don't________(fill in the blank)

I'm just saying.....the more you say "I don't".......it lessens your chance of saying "I do"....in regards to being a WIFE.

 

 

My View: Like I stated in a previous blog commentary, what you won't do, someone else will. True, you have the right to say what you won't do, but someone also has the right to keep it moving on you and find someone who will. Choosing wisely is key. If you know someone's not up to snuff, why are you going to choose them? That's silly. You're willingly throwing yourself into the lion's den when you choose someone that's blunt in telling you they won't do this, that and the third for you. It's hard for me to feel bad for those who find themselves in these kinds of relationships. They told you what they weren't going to do and you didn't take them at their words. I'm reminded of a quote by Maya Angelou: When someone tells/shows you who they are, believe them. She wasn't lying because people will tell you who they are by their conduct, and it's up to you to decide if you can overlook that and try to build something with them, or you need to serve them their walking papers. Me, if someone shows me who they are, I believe them. Why wouldn't I? They let me know offtop how grimy they are so why would I fool with them? They could do me dirty and when I check them, they can say "You knew how I was before you met me." And you know what, they would be right because they showed me their true colors and I didn't listen. For every I Don't, there's an I Will. Just something for people to think about.

I Can't Stand Women Who Can't Stand Other Women!!!!

 

I got this video from a friend's Facebook page. She gives her $.02 on women not liking other women. She speaks REAL TALK so it behooves my viewers to listen closely to the words she says. A few things she says that caught my attention are "I get along better with men." Yes, we all gel better with certain people and that's okay. Statistically, 2% of the population will not like you for any or no reason. That's okay because not everyone is meant to be in your life. It's true some women get along better with men but that's because they've gotten to know them. Some women grew up around men so they haven't been exposed to fellow women. To say you can't stand someone of your gender when you haven't gotten to know them is flaw, to me. True, women have sound reasons for not liking other women and many of the reasons make sense: Cattiness is a big reason for many women not liking each other. A woman can't stand to see another woman looking or doing better than her; the first thing she says is "Oh, look at that heffer, she thinks she all that." Some women do think like this too! I like what she said about a man on a mission: The most important women in a man's life are his mother, aunts & niece(s). If his woman can't get along with his mother or aunt, then she won't be a good wife. It boils down to commonality. If a woman has more in common with men, that's her perogative. Maybe she genuinely feels comfortable around men because let's be honest, if she's in a dangerous situation, her male friends have no hesitation protecting her. Flipping the script, if two women are out enjoying themselves and they find themselves in a volatile situation, chances are those women don't have the street smarts to handle themselves and unless a man steps in, it won't bode well. Sometimes, women have legit reasons not to like each other but most of the time, women not liking each other boils down to jealousy: One woman looks and dresses better than the next, assumptions, etc.

Baltimore Ravens: Super Bowl Champions

 

Congratulations to the Baltimore Ravens for their Super Bowl win. Not even a power outage could help the 49'ers. Baltimore wanted it more, that's all. I really thought the game would be a blow out because at half time, the Ravens were up by 3 TD's so there was no way San Francisco was able to come back. I believe Baltimore would've beaten San Francisco like they stole something had the power outage not happened. But, the outage revived the 49'ers as they were able to come back from 3 TD's, but fell short of a SB win. I guess, this makes the first time San Francisco has lost in the Super Bowl. Congratulations to the 49'ers for a successful season, they will be remembered for mounting a huge comeback and even though they fell short by a field goal, they still deserve congratulations. Ray Lewis was talking about retirement after this season and now he can retire on a high note. Ray Lewis is the leader of the Ravens so I know he will be missed by the organization. He's one of my favorite players and it won't be the same seeing him in uniform. He deserves to retire because he's won a couple rings, made lots of money so he needs to kick back and enjoy himself. This was one of the best Super Bowls I've watched in a long time because it was a storybook ending to Ray Lewis's great career. Now that football season is over, it's time for me to focus on basketball. The final score was 34-31, Baltimore over San Francisco. Again, congrats to the 49'ers for making it this far.

Real Man=Going To Prison?

 

Like the pic states, if the men above are real n****s because they're in prison, what does that say for the upstanding brothers below? Are they not real men because they're making an honest living? You see where the above men are at. Sadly, some women are attracted to locked up men because they're "bad boys" She can have all the bad boys she wants. Those guys at the bottom are the real productive black men because they're going places in life. They are enjoying the fruits of their labor and most of all, they're free. They can come & go as they please with no boundaries, they're not locked down 23 hours a day with only an hour for recreation. No ma'am. I'm not casting judgment on the above guys because none of us are perfect. Everybody has made bad choices in life, some bad choices are severe enough to land you behind bars, but that doesn't mean the above guys can't straighten up once they are released. I just think it's trifling that bad boys are celebrated over respectable men. When a woman's done wrong by one of the above guys, all of a sudden she wants a good man. The issue is that no good man will give her a shot because in his mind, he's thinking "Back then she didn't want me, now I'm doing good, she wants me". Who can blame them? I'm a stand-up brother who's going places in life and I refuse to do anything that would jeopardize my journey. Besides, once the above guys are released, they've got the odds stacked against them as they re-enter society.