Bonus Material

It takes two to tango, but someone doesn't have to dance.

Nip It In The Bud

You're not supposed to have issues early on in marriage. If you're having problems before and during the engagement, they will likely get worse over the course of your marriage.

Ending A Relationship

At what point do you end a relationship? People who ask this question already know the answer. I have 3 giveaways of when it's time to exit stage left: 1. When you've done all you can to salvage it. In that case, let him/her go. No sense in looking crazy. 2. When you have to ask that question, it's that time. 3. The point of no return. For many people, the point of no return comes sooner rather than later.

Short & Sweet

Shout Out to all the parents who let their kid(s) rip & run in public, then catch feelings when other adults check their kid(s). Well, if you did your job as a parent, no one else would have to. That Part.

This Is The Mess I Don't Like

According to many black women, black men are deadbeats, down low, losers, thugs, lazy, uneducated, etc.What does that make her if she laying down with these men? We all make mistakes yes, but to make the same mistake over and over again; something's wrong.  These same women are having babies by these men and have the nerve to pass over stand-up brothers. When these women are done wrong, they want to look for a good man all of a sudden but by that time, that stand-up guy has moved on to a woman that will appreciate him for who he is, not what he has. 

5 Random Thoughts

1. Everybody has their cup out but didn't chip in. Simply put, you have your hand out but aren't willing to contribute to the outcome.

2. Are women trading their cooch on the New York Stock Exchange? You would think so with how they value it. "I have that good good to make a man never stray"

3. Chris Bosh scored a major victory in his custody battle with his baby mama. This cat claims Texas as an official residence instead of Florida because if he claimed Florida, he would have to fork out $30K a month for the next 15 years for his kid's child support.

4.I'm tired of men and women thinking they are entitled to this, that and the third. Get up, get out and make your own way in this world. You can legitimately need help but no one will give you a helping hand. At least when you make it, you can say you did it on your own.

5. Look out for #1 because no one else will (except God).

The Friend Zone

A woman puts a man in the friend zone, gets with Mr.Wrong and he dogs her out all kinds of crazy, comes to her senses and tries to look up Mr.Friend Zone only to realize he's moved on with someone else. This woman doesn't realize she's prepared him for the next woman. She's looking crazy because she missed out on what could be a beautiful relationship. The issue I see with women who put men in the friend zone is some women want to keep him as a back-up. When their current relationship isn't so hot, she comes to him for advice on their relationship. Her male friend knows the ins & outs of their relationship and this could be his chance to move in for the kill (there are some men who sit on the sidelines waiting for a chance to get in the game). Putting a man in the friend zone could be good or bad, depending on how you look at it. If a man gets in the friend zone, it's because she wasn't attracted to him in the first place, and if the other guy dogs her out, she just wants the other guy to comfort her and rebuild her ego. They also get put in the friend zone as a safety net or emergency jump off, typically the dude in the friend zone is the one they depend on, can call up and cry on their shoulder, will get out the bed and drive across town to see about you; he knows all your issues and gives you good advice, and comes through for you; hes reliable. Now if that doesn't sound like a good man for her, I don't know what does. She doesn't have to be attracted to him, but he displays the other attributes that make him a great catch. These attributes are the same ones women seek in a potential mate. Mr. Friend Zone could be the best thing for her but she would never know because she put him in just that, the FRIEND ZONE.