Entrepreneurship

Many entrepreneurs started off with a dream; a dream of a better product, idea, improvement on a current product or service and turned it into reality. Entrepreneurship is one of the most rewarding experiences one can have because you took the necessary steps to bring your vision to pass. I like to see successful entrepreneurs do their thing because they give hope to aspiring entrepreneurs that if I can do it, so can you. All you need is a creative idea that no one has thought of and once you have an idea, write it down and apply for a patent. The patent is what seals the deal; it says that nobody can profit off your idea but YOU. I've always thought about what entrepreneurship would be like and I've come up with several creative ideas that no one has thought of. Many of my ideas are improvements on current services and products and others are fresh off my head. Several ideas are on the horizon and I want to wait for the right time (which usually comes fast) to submit my idea(s) to the proper company and start profiting. Self-employment brings financial freedom like no other, which is another reason why I want to be an entrepreneur. When or if I have a family, I want them to be straight for life. 

Unconditional Love

Unconditional love is a term that means to love someone regardless of their actions or beliefs. It is a concept comparable to true love, a term which is more frequently used to describe love between lovers. By contrast, unconditional love is frequently used to describe love between family members, comrades in arms and between others in highly committed relationships. It has also been used in religious context to describe God's love for mankind. In an ideal world, we would love unconditionally but because humans are flawed, we exercise conditional love. As long as people act right and do what we ask, they're alright with us but the minute people don't do our bidding, we have no use for them. Unconditional love separates the individual from her or his behaviors. The individual is loved unconditionally as a "perfect" child of the Higher Power. However, the individual may exhibit behaviors that are unacceptable in a particular situation. To begin with a simple example: one acquires a puppy. The puppy is cute, playful, and the owner's heart swells with love for this new family member. Then the puppy urinates on the floor. The owner does not stop loving the puppy, but needs to modify the behavior through training and education. Some secular authors make a distinction between unconditional love and conditional love. In conditional love: love is 'earned' on the basis of conscious or unconscious conditions being met by the lover, whereas in unconditional love, love is 'given freely' to the loved one 'no matter what'. Loving first. Conditional love requires some kind of finite exchange, whereas unconditional love is seen as infinite and measureless. Unconditional love should not be mistaken with unconditional dedication: unconditional dedication refers to an act of the will irrespective of feelings (e.g. a person may consider they have a duty to stay with a person); unconditional love is an act of the feelings irrespective of will.

What Is A Man/Woman

What is a man/woman? If I asked everybody this question, I would get different answers because everyone has their own definition of what it means to be a man/woman. One person may say a man is the epitome of protection, provision and strength/guidance. Another person may say a woman signifies grace, support, submissiveness and nurturing. There is no concrete definition on what it means to be a man or woman because as with everything else in life, there are variables. From a relationship standpoint, most people want their mates to exhibit common traits of their gender. No man wants a woman who tries to be the man and vice versa. I prefer my women feminine at all times but she knows when to handle business. Most women prefer men who exude strength, protection and provision.

Forgive & Forget

No matter who you are, we've all had to deal with forgiveness. It's inevitable that we will be hurt, are hurting and know someone who has been hurt. It's said that forgiveness is moreso for yourself than the other person, which is true. Forgiveness is to keep you free from bondage because holding grudges isn't a good look. Studies show that holding grudges causes all kinds of health ailments so from a health standpoint, forgiveness is beneficial. Forgiveness is one of, if not the hardest things to do because in a way, you have to release someone of the debt (wrongdoing) owed you. I see forgiveness as a green light for someone to keep fouling up intentionally with no remorse. At some point, people need to be chin-checked. Otherwise, forgetting someone's transgression defeats the purpose of having gone through that negative experience. There are times to forgive and forget, and there are times to forgive and confront. The wisdom lies in knowing which is necessary. Realistically, humans don't forget. I can forgive and remember what they did but forget wanting revenge. I will not be a fool and let someone repeat the past with me. Forgiving doesn't mean absolving them of the consequences of their actions, it means you won't allow them to live rent-free in your life. They're keeping it moving and you're holding a grudge. I do realize that some hurts are deep and those take time to get over.

Chasing After You

I'm not a fan of chasing after anyone to get them to be with you. If somebody doesn't want to be with you by choice, let them go. I don't understand how a person can chase after somebody, going through hoops just to get their affection. That's crazy to me, but it happens. We're grown (some of us at least) so the adult thing to do is move on. Find someone that wants to be with you for YOU. If I'm with a woman and she wants to walk out on me, that's her perogative. You won't catch me running her down and begging her to stay with me. I have too much pride for that. I think people need to be secure within themselves that they can live without a man or woman in their lives. This comes from loving yourself deeply and knowing what you want. It's usually a blessing if someone walks out on you because they show you who they really are; they could have character flaws that are one of your dealbreakers and if you stay with them, could you overlook their faults? When someone walks out of your life, it doesn't necessarily mean they're bad people, it means that their part in your story is done. Some people are meant to be in your life for a season, others are forever. Chasing after someone that's seasonal signals that you're holding onto something that's just not meant for you. That's how people miss out on their blessing because they don't know how to let go and accept the sometimes, inevitable losses of life.

Women Raising Boys

Can women raise boys into strong, responsible men? That's an interesting question that has varying answers. Some say no, others say yes. A woman can teach boys certain aspects about manhood such as respect/honor, responsibility, accountability but as far as imparting manly principles, she can't do it. How can a woman teach a boy about manhood and she's not a man? Just like a man can't teach a girl about being a woman. Too many young men raised by single mothers are exhibiting effeminate characteristics because they don't have a father in the home to show him the way. Even if a single mom is raising a boy, that child should have respectable male figures to show him the way. Strong women are rarely, if ever attracted to weak men and it makes sense because eventually she'll get tired of feeling like she's carrying the relationship so she'll want him to step up. This is why many women are frustrated because the thoroughbreds are the last of a dying breed; there's not many real men (one person's definition of a real man is different from the next) left. They are finding out quickly why men are important in the home. Women don't understand man principles, ways, things, perspectives. Therefore they can't impart manly wisdom to a boy. This isn't a knock on single moms because some mothers have raised strong, successful men but as far as manhood as a whole, women can't do the job.

Stop Being A People Pleaser

It's said that if you're born to stand out, stop trying to fit in. I live by this mantra because if everyone were the same, this world would be lame. An individual marches to the beat of their own drum; they start trends, not copy others' trends. It baffles me how people go to great lengths to fit in so they won't be seen as "different". Well, I would rather be different than a cookie-cutter version of the next person. True, we gravitate toward those we're compatible with but at the same time, people need to learn how to stay true to themselves. If someone doesn't like you for you, they aren't the right people you want in your life. I've never been and never will be a people-pleaser. It's not in my genetic makeup because inevitably people pleasers compromise their moral values just to fit in with the wrong crowd. Little do they realize that those who they're trying to fit in with don't really like them and yet people still want acceptance from the wrong crowd. I don't get that. If anything, one should seek acceptance from the right people who will enrich your life. Peer Pressure is a perfect example because during the pre-teen and adolescent years, youth want acceptance; they want to be in the in-crowd. Young people will go to extremes to fit in at the expense of individuality. If you don't do this, that and the third, we don't want/like you. That's called being phony because you're changing yourself in order to fit others' expectations of you. It's better to be hated for who you are, than loved for who you're not.