Mar 31, 2016

Thursday Wisdom





Mar 29, 2016

Tuesday Gospel





Mar 28, 2016

RHOA Reunion Pt. 2 Review

Yesterday's Pt. 2 of the RHOA reunion was all over the place because it touched on various situations that have taken place over the season: From Phaedra dealing with Apollo going to prison to Cynthia & Peter's marital drama, last night's show didn't disappoint with shade. First things first, I feel bad that Phaedra struggled to explain to her children why blatant masturbation was going on while the kids were seeing their father; that's something no child should have to deal with, but nonsense like that goes on in prison. Next, Peter & Cynthia's marital woes. Anyone who's watched the season can see that Peter and Cynthia have ran their course. I don't care how they try to butter it up, their marriage is toast. Cynthia seems to have checked out of the marriage and when one partner checks out, it's a sure sign that a relationship is done. Yes, Peter apologized but it doesn't erase the damage that's been done. I like what Cynthia said in their first discussion: There's a reason why there's divorce, sometimes you can't always work things out and it's true.
 Infidelity should NOT be overlooked in marriage because that's the ultimate trust violation. Peter wasn't thinking about Cynthia when he felt some woman up at his bar, so all of a sudden he wants to fight for his marriage; this clown is something else. Last but not least, the Miami drama was revisited. Anyone with good working eyes can see that Kenya was looking out for her & the other ladies' safety. Glen was out of line for getting buck with Kandi while she was pregnant, and then he was carrying out like some gangster. Had Glen not acted like a ghetto fool, maybe Kenya wouldn't have booted him from the pool party. Even Glen's own aunt Tammy tried to get him out of there and he pushed her with enough force to knock her unconscious. Nothing anyone can say can make me change my mind, Glen was all the way foul for his conduct, but those hens are too blinded by their disdain for Kenya to realize that Kenya had their safety in mind when she asked Glen to leave.

Mar 25, 2016

Friday Real Talk








Mar 24, 2016

Let Me Out (Of My Marriage)

I understand going through pre-marital counseling prior to marriage because you should know what marriage entails before you say I do, but now you have to go through mandatory counseling to get out of a marriage? That's crazy because most people's minds are already made up to get a divorce, and the courts should let them out easy. There's a reason why some people cite irreconcilable differences as grounds for divorce, because not all marriages can be fixed. Forcing a couple to work on their marriage when one person wants out is going to breed resentment because the person who wants out is going to feel trapped. People have different tolerance levels, some can deal with a lot before they've had enough, others have zero tolerance.

Mar 23, 2016

Random Thinking

These are thoughts that came to me yesterday & today.





Mar 22, 2016

Ep. 3: Let The Truth Be Told

It's time for another episode of Let The Truth Be Told.




Mar 21, 2016

RHOA Reunion Pt. 1: Reading Is Fundamental

Yesterday's RHOA Reunion Pt. 1 was called Reading Is Fundamental because cast members were reading each other left & right. One time for Ms. Taryn Hairston-Lee (Twirl Nation Facebook group member) for this list of reads:

To Porsha from Kenya: You were married for 16 months, and you were locked out of his house for most of that time, girl bye.
To Porsha from Kenya: Your husband didn't want to impregnate you, we saw you begging him for a baby.
To Porsha from Cynthia: When I find out that my husband filed for divorce from me on fb, then maybe you could talk about my husband.
To Porsha from Kandi: Yeah, I have a Kandi coated clique, and they do more than pull hair.
To Porsha from Kandi: Y’all outside talking about a song that I wrote for Demetria, she out sings you when she's hoarse.
To Porsha from Kandi: Yeah, it's better when you get it from the tap, and not from the implant.
To Sheree’ from Kenya: At least I have a crown to dust off, unlike your child support checks.
To Phaedra from Kenya: You were so focused on me, you should've been focusing on Gayla St. Julien.
To Phaedra from Kenya: When I'm with someone who steals the identities of Delta Airlines retirees and misappropriates their pension checks, then maybe you could come for me. Until then, drive by.

Mar 18, 2016

Strawberry Letter: You Can't Have Children, I'm Gone


To a man, having children is everything because he gets to pass on his wisdom to his children. Teaching his son how to shoot a gun, throw his first pitch, watch sports; those things mean the world to men when his wife bares his children. When a man's wife can't produce children, it makes him feel some kind of way because he's thinking something's wrong with him or her. We live in a fallen world so there's no guarantees in life. I'm not going to come down on this man because he has every right to feel the way he does. They're established in their careers so they were ready to have children. Fast forward to the surgery. Yeah, he was there for her during the surgery, so how else is she expecting him to feel? She can't give him what he wants, so if he's feeling some kind of way, there's no telling how she's feeling. There are no guarantees in life. She needs to have a real conversation with him. He needs to know how she felt going through her situation and how his abandonment made her feel. He left her, who's to say he won't leave her this time should another trial come? Is she sure it was her inability to have children? Was there a possibility she could've died? Did he father any children interim? Is she satisfied with his answers? She shouldn't move in together. Review the vows and his response to the question, and she should go slow.

Mar 17, 2016

Situationship: Men Of Color

Pardon the expletives, I'm just reposting.

Men Of Color
15 hrs · 
SITUATIONSHIP: 
Stay in a woman’s life long enough for her to get used to you, and she’ll drop all standards. Ex-boyfriends or random dudes that have kept in contact over the years are the best at pulling off situationships because they sell their dick better than Timeshare companies. Miss Typical will think that her history with a guy protects her from being hurt. You forget to take into account that the reason you broke up with this dude or why you two never became official back then was because there was some incompatibility. You ignore that huge red flag because you are bored and tired of looking for love. You just want a familiar dick that won’t make your sleep number go up, and the ability to chill with someone you don’t have to worry about impressing.
These type of situationships work really well for the first month or two because it is exactly what you say it is. Do you know why this is? Because any man, no matter how fucked up he is, will be on his best behavior to insure that you don’t change your mind about the arrangement. However, after he’s fucked you several times and has gotten comfortable again, he can drop the act and be the asshole he is normally. That means he no longer comes running when you call, he doesn’t pick up on the first ring or respond back to your texts as fast as he used to, and he’s back to lying about where he’s going to be and why he can’t see you. He didn’t change up, he changed back! Every man knows when he’s hooked a woman because her temper becomes short and her behavior out of the ordinary. The moment you argue over something dumb, when you used to laugh it off—hooked. The moment when you call us late at night instead of waiting for our call—hooked. When you start suggesting we go out, when it was only supposed to be a non-serious chill and fuck relationship—hooked.
Miss Typical will drive herself crazy trying to treat a nigga that’s not her boyfriend like he is, and the man will just distance himself more and more because he wasn’t lying when he said he didn’t want anything serious (with her). These things end two ways, either the woman has had enough and cuts him off or the man gets a real girlfriend who forces him to cut her off. Either way, within a year Miss Typical will get a call from that same dude like, “We was having fun, til you started tripping. Let’s hang out like old times.” And then they are on again… repeating that basic ass cycle once more.

Mar 16, 2016

Wednesday Wisdom







Mar 15, 2016

Abort The Child or Keep The Baby?

WGCI 107.5 Radio
5 hrs ·

Love'em OR Leave'em:

Lisa is upset because her husband Donovan wants her to have an abortion. Donovan is concerned because they already have 2 kids and financially they're already stretched to their max because he's been laid off before. Lisa found out a month ago that she was pregnant, but she JUST told Donovan....and now if she was to go thru with the abortion, she's running out of time. She doesn't want to have the abortion but she's feeling the pressure!
Should she LOVE or LEAVE the baby???
 
Situations like this can destroy a marriage because she's torn between honoring her husband's wishes to abort the baby and keeping the child. This is why a couple should be financially stable before they bring children into the world. Children cost money from birth to 18, and if a couple isn't up to that responsibility, then maybe they should hold off on kids for now. My thought is: Why would they move forward with the decision to have children and they were stretched financially? That makes 0 sense. Maybe they went ahead with having children assuming the husband would be back to his previous financial status, I don't know. All I know is that the possibility of abortion is rough on a woman, let alone a man (provided he wants to keep the baby). Any woman who's had an abortion knows how haunting it is physically and mentally. Some women never get over having had an abortion, so for him to ask his wife to undergo a potentially devastating maneuver is crazy.
They should have taken precautions to prevent her pregnancy. He should've gotten a vasectomy and she should've gotten her tubes tied. Otherwise, pregnancy is always a possibility during sexual activity. If a couple doesn't want a baby, they shouldn't lay down with each other, period. I'm in a Facebook group and some people are putting it all on the man, which is insane to me because it takes two to make a baby. It's not the man or woman's fault, it's BOTH couple's fault for not taking the necessary precautions to prevent this from happening. It's funny how some people are ready to put it on the man, but some people forget that once a man ejaculates inside of a woman, that sperm travels through a woman's body, therefore starting the creation of a baby. To me, this is a lose-lose situation because if she keeps the baby, they'll struggle financially to raise that child (assuming they're still stretched financially) and the husband may resent his wife. If she aborts, she'll end up hating her husband for forcing her to go through with an abortion.


Mar 12, 2016

Episode 2: Let The Truth Be Told

Mar 11, 2016

Friday Gospel

Mar 10, 2016

Self-Employed? Not Hired.

Why do some employers have a problem with hiring self-employed folks? As long as their side business doesn't interfere with their full-time job, I say hire them. Gone are the days where you could retire from the same job you've worked at for 30+ years. If you ask me, some people are smart by having more than one income because what if they lose their job? If they have no other income coming in, they're out of gas. I think it's crazy that some employers expect you NOT to have no other income but theirs. It's like they want you to depend on them for your livelihood. Because most states have at-will employment clauses (you can be fired with(out) cause), it's almost like some employers want the control of being able to lay you off for any or no reason.

Mar 9, 2016

Thoughts For Today

Mar 8, 2016

Gumbo Tuesday

Today's blog message is Gumbo Tuesday, which will feature tweets from myself, and others I've shared on my post. As usual, when I post my best tweets they'll be a combination of real talk, encouragement and random thoughts from yours truly.

Mar 7, 2016

Blessing Or Lesson?

People will fall into two categories: Blessings Or Lessons. If someone is a blessing, they impact your life for the better. They help you be a better (wo)man, they're a shoulder to cry on, support your vision, etc. They want nothing more than to make your life better; it doesn't matter what you do (or don't do) for them. You have people who are lessons, those who you fall out with on bad terms. When the relationship ends, your head is held high because you know they've taught you how NOT to be. I don't think most people know the difference between blessings or lessons, and that gets folks in trouble. You can let the wrong people into your life and be taught a lesson, or you can use discernment to let the right people inside and those people end up being blessings. Most of the time, people know the difference between those people who are blessings and lessons, but there are times where it's not to easy to differentiate because people pretend well. Some people come into your life pretending to be blessings, but they're lessons & vice versa. As long as you use discernment, you'll be able to understand the difference between those you meet as being a blessing or lesson.

Mar 4, 2016

Strawberry Letter: Falling For A Friend

After all the action she gave her "friend" and after how close they've gotten, he turns around and proposes to his son’s mother after being diagnosed with cancer. He could have proposed to her, but he didn’t. Why? Her friend is enjoying the sex, and deep down she is too. Like many women, she equated sex with love. He doesn't love her enough to propose, that's why he proposed to someone else. She gives him loving even if he's marrying his son's mother.
If she thinks continuing to sleep with him and give him her body will make him fall in love with her, she needs to wise up. Men don’t equate sex with love; women do. All she's doing is giving him his cake and fork by allowing him to sex her down while sleeping with his fiancee. Good friends don't use each other.
Loving herself is more important than being a side dish. If she wants to remain his “friend” and support him through illness, then do so at a distance. The longer she lays with him, the harder it is for her to see who she really is to him. He may care for her, but doesn't love her. If he loved her or fell in love with her, he would've proven with ACTION. What does that tell her if he proposed to someone else? I'll Wait.

Mar 3, 2016

Spiritual & Natural Realm Thinking

Mar 2, 2016

Social Media Unfollowing/Unfriending

 Everyone with a social media account on Twitter likes to meet new people, correct? Right, if they're honest; myself included. I've been on FB since 2006 and Twitter since July 2013. Honestly, I like FB & Twitter and they are the only social media accounts I will ever have. My FB posts feature positive content because I believe we need more positivity in a world full of nonsense. At the same time, I will post real talk whenever it's laid upon my heart. Many of my FB posts have been turned into blogs. I have one question: Why do some people think you're supposed to roll over & die because they unfriended you or unfollowed you on social media? That's crazy. Some folks make this grand announcement of cleaning their friend list, unfollowing someone on Twitter, etc.
If you're going to unfriend someone, just DO IT; no need to make a PSA. I was unfriended by a former FB friend (she's no longer worth mentioning) because I stood firm in my position regarding marriage relationships. All that proved was I can stand firm in my position. Many people are scared to stand by their social media posts because they don't want to lose likes, followers on Twitter or FB friends. Me, not so much. I've never posted for likes or followers. Whatever I post on social media, I'll say the same thing offline. It so happens that people like my FB stats, so I'll keep posting inspiration, positivity and real talk. It's easy to stand by your comments when you're getting FB likes & Twitter followers, but are you tough enough to stand firm in your position when you're unfriended or unfollowed?
Shout out to Denisha Davis (FB friend) for this quote:

"When you speak the truth, that comes with deletion"

Mar 1, 2016

Parent(s) In Jail

My heart goes out to all children suffering from one or both parents locked up. They didn't ask for their mom and/or dad to do something that got them locked up. The kids are serving time with their parent(s) in jail, and it's worse when a boy has a father who's locked up, because studies show that a father who's not present in a boy's life has a much harder time in life. I feel mothers should allow their kids to see their dad behind bars, even if she doesn't want to. It's not about her, it's about the children. Sometimes, a mother has to do what's best for her child(ren), even if it makes her uncomfortable.

Tuesday Message: Walking Away From Toxic Relationships

Repost: Shanta Collins  When you fall out with a person They're so quick to  discredit you 🥴Now all of a sudden you hateful, broke, jea...