Tighten Up Fellas: By Mark J. Cooper

Fellas:

You will understand that there's only one woman that can help you and your business plan for your life to flourish... and until you actually find the woman that was custom made for you, you will never feel the need to be a womanizer again, for she will fulfill your every desire.

And Until that time comes... you'll likely continue to deal with heartache and incompleteness.

... don't be mad, be wise.

Wisdom For Men: Mark J. Cooper

This week is dedicated to one of the wisest brothers I chat with on Facebook, Mark J. Cooper. For a week, I'm posting words of wisdom from this man here. Without further ado, let's get into today's message:

A man should never follow a woman's plan if he is supposed to be a leader within that relationship. While she may have good ideas to implement into his leadership plan... she can never be the leader.

Otherwise it is her who is the leader and she will still hold you accountable for the plan's failure if you follow behind her plan. If she has a problem with you leading then you have a contentious woman and you should reevaluate your relationship for it will be short lived.

...don't be mad, be wise.

Glutton For Punishment

So many times I've heard women say, "I can't leave him because the sex is so good.", and my response is always the same: Well, go ahead and enjoy the good sex that comes with being mistreated. Good sex should never be a reason for anyone to stay in a bad relationship, but the reason why some people do is because they don't know their worth. They think with the other head instead of the one attached to their shoulders. I'm grateful everyday that I don't put sex on a pedestal that I stay in a bad relationship. No sex is that good to me to where I will tolerate foul treatment from any woman. Sorry, but my worth won't allow it. If other people choose that for themselves, that's their decision; if they like it, I love it. I hate to see people hurting because they would rather enjoy the good sex in a bad relationship. As with everything else, it comes down to choice. Would you rather enjoy good sex from the right person or good sex from Satan's spawn? If you're smart, you choose #1. I have to be honest: Some people are gluttons for punishment if they would stay in a bad relationship just because they enjoy the "sex." In that case, they have no right to complain about being mistreated because they allow themselves to be dogged.

Advancing Black Americans

I got this from a mutual friend's Facebook page:

First off, I'm targeting the media who does a good job of painting blacks in a bad light. I would order proper representation of blacks in all sectors: Media & entertainment. Next, I'd clean up all black neighborhoods of violence & drugs; get rid of all gangsters, dope boys and those who stand on the corner doing nothing. Honestly, it's a dead giveaway that a neighborhood is rough if there's frequent police presence, you see the same guys standing on the corner from sun up to sun down, gunfire, the only black businesses are low-income stores, etc. No low-income housing because residents would have paid on the job training programs specifically designed for them to make enough money to move out of the hood. All black communities would have their own schools teaching our history & culture, our own colleges & universities, etc. What blacks have to travel miles to another part of the city for, they would have right in their own neighborhood.

Did I Miss It Or What?

Strawberry Letter | Steve Harvey in the Morning on WDAS

When I read this Strawberry Letter, at first I thought the husband was being jealous, but now his gripe is legit. Why would his wife get bent out of shape because her husband was mad that another man spoke to his wife in a disrespectful manner (he states the man who spoke was smiling with his boys.)? That's a dead giveaway that there's more to the story than she's letting on. No wife would get that upset over her man checking a perceived offense, so to me she could have something going on. I, and others have mentioned in Facebook groups that men can see things women can't. In a perfect world, a man can speak to a married woman & think nothing of it, but because some men have ulterior motives when speaking to married women, you really can't put anything past folks nowadays. Her husband was right to be upset because he saw a perceived offense against his wife, and he handled it accordingly. A man's job is to protect his turf at all costs. If someone is entering his territory, the husband is within his right to eliminate any & all threats. I don't see anything wrong with the husband's reaction, because if another woman spoke to him in a flirtatious manner, best believe his wife would lose her mind. She raised a red flag for getting upset with her man that he checked the disrespect as he saw fit, because unless something's going on between this other man and the married woman, she shouldn't be mad at her husband for protecting what's his. In conclusion, I side with the husband because like a lot of husband, he knows a man's true intentions. What she saw as a simple hello, he saw something more than that.

Video: Little Girl Goes In On Father

The following video is of a little girl letting loose on her deadbeat father for choosing a woman over her. First off, any parent who puts their mate over their child(ren) is foul. The child was there before that (wo)man, so why should the child(ren) be on the backburner? Mess is crazy to me. You can tell this little girl is hurting because she is GOING IN. A lot of people are coming down on this girl, but who cares? This little girl has every right to vent, but from what she says: She's accepted the fact that her father will never be around, so her venting was a release. This video is symbolic of what many children went through/are going through; parents who either aren't in their child(ren)'s lives, or who choose a (wo)man over them. The thing is: These are the type of people who go on to do great things in life. They take their pain and turn it into victory because they knew what it's like to be without, they know what hurt is like so they turn it around and help others going through the same thing. It's like this: Kids know what's up. Kids are a lot smarter than parents give them credit for. A mother doesn't have to talk bad about her child's father, that child already knows. The sad thing is this girl has tried reaching out to her father with no success. If her dad doesn't care enough to have a relationship with his daughter, then it's for the best he's not around. Yes, I said it: Sometimes, a father's absence is a blessing because that's less drama for the mother and her kid(s) to deal with. Even if her father does come around, this little girl and him are strangers; they have no relationship. Sad to say, this little girl has gotten accustomed to not having her father around, so it's "Out Of Sight, Out Of Mind." The only thing a deadbeat father can teach their child is what NOT to do. Watch how dad comes around years after she's successful and wants a relationship, but by then it's going to be too late. It's too late to want a relationship with an adult child. That adult child has their own life to live. 

Little Girl Goes In On Deadbeat Father

Grown Women Wearing Hello Kitty

If you're a grown woman wearing Hello Kitty, you should be ashamed of yourself. Last time I checked, adolescent girls wore Hello Kitty.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) June 3, 2015

The dumbest thing I can witness is grown women wearing Hello Kitty. You're over 21 and sporting Hello Kitty paraphernaila that's designed for teenage girls? Some of these women should be ashamed of themselves for not growing up. She may be mature, but when I see a woman wearing Hello Kitty, I can't help but think she's trying to relive her youth. I would expect young girls to wear Hello Kitty, because it was designed for them! I get that Hello Kitty is a very popular brand, but if a woman is 30-something and rocking Hello Kitty, she needs to get her life and fast. For the life of me, I will never understand how a grown woman can rock Hello Kitty. Maybe it's her decision, and she could probably care less what others think since they aren't buying her wardrobe. *Shrug*