Friendship

As you get older, you find out you don't need a lot of friends. You really need a few friends at most, and if you're super-selective you're content with one or two close friends. Besides, it's not possible to have lots of friends. You can be friendly with everyone, but it's not possible to be friends with everybody because of the different personalities people share. It gets my goat when people say they have lots of friends because it instantly triggers my lying meter. It's better to have a few close friends than lots of associates. Everybody doesn't deserve a spot in your life, that's the reality. Only a privileged few make it to friend status and that's ok. You control who you allow into your life. If you want to attract good people in your life, be the person you want to attract. People I've thought were friends really weren't friends, they were acquaintances. How is it possible to keep up with the "many" friends one has? Social Media & Technology. People I thought were friends turned out to be acquaintances, or associates at best. Most people fit into two categories: Acquaintance Or Associate.

Relationship Entitlement Pt. 2

This is Part 2 on my previous discussion of Relationship Entitlement. A lot of men complain about spending $200 or so on a date with a woman only to find out the relationship is going nowhere. That's bonkers to me because common sense should signal if you're involved with someone, you don't mind spending money on them because they are your MAN or WOMAN. They have earned the right to be in your life. The idea of spending money to buy someone's affection is ludicrous. This is how I feel: If a man CHOOSES to drop $200 or more on a date with a woman and gets nothing in return, he has NO RIGHT to complain because he threw away money on a woman that wasn't feeling him. Going on a date is like trying on clothes in a dressing room at a department store; you see if (s)he is a good fit for you and if so, you go through with the purchase. That's a sucker move to spend money on a man or woman and the relationship goes nowhere. A woman IS NOT obligated to give up the coochie just because a man shells out $400+ on a date with her. Some women will do that, but they're few and far between. This problem can easily be solved if men would stop checking for these princessy, entitled women. If a man is meeting a woman for the first time and she's expecting to be wined & dined but feels as if she doesn't have to reciprocate, EXIT STAGE LEFT. A lot of men don't understand this principle because they're looking at being rewarded with sex. The problem is some women have an entitlement mentality which stems from their fathers pumping their heads up with this craziness; "Beware of men who say you have to bring something to the table. A man is supposed to take care of you this, that and the third" When some women run up on discerned men that see right through their princess mindset, they can't handle it because they're used to having their butts powdered. The only woman that's worthy of my money is a woman that has Mrs. and Hudson in her name. Otherwise, if I want to get to know a woman, great conversation we will have. It's free & doesn't cost anything. Just like women have an entitlement complex, men are catching up as well because most men measure their future woman by their mother; they want a woman that has the qualities of their mom. I can understand wanting someone with the qualities of your parents, but people need to realize the individuality that a potential significant other can bring.

Random Thought

Everybody talking about what they gonna do for 2013 and they already failed before the year got underway. Example: Mothers talking about leaving the club life behind but when New Year's celebrations are taking place at a local nightclub, they the first ones there. And don't get me started on these folks talking about New Year, New Me. That only applies if you're ACTUALLY putting it into action. More like new year, same foolishness & drama from last year. That Part.

Do You

I've never understood the rationale behind trying to impress others when 9 times out of 10, they aren't worried about you and/or aren't worth impressing. What happened to individuality? It seems like more people want to be sheep than ride solo and if that's what they want, that's on them. I've never been concerned with impressing people that mean nothing to me. Are they putting food on my table, clothes on my back, paying my bills and signing my check? Negative. I will never concern myself with the opinions of others unless they mean well and see a better way for me to go in order to reach my destination faster.

God Knows Best

Why do people think they know better than God? I've never understood that. True, he gives us free will but he also gave us a brain to use. You have to weigh the pros and cons of everything you do and if the cons outweigh the pros, DON'T DO IT. God will let us think we can do a better job than him. It's when we get jammed up that we realize that God knows best, after all. This is a continual lesson I'm learning everyday. What I may think is good for me may not be what God thinks is best for me.

On Your Level

Read the following letter posted by Nojma Reflects. It was too good NOT to share:

To all the women that say they can’t find a man on their level, what exactly is this “level” that you speak of? What if your “level” isn't appealing to some men, especially if you like to talk about your” haves” and his “have nots”, your independence and his dependency on you? I mean did you ever stop and think that “your” level might be BENEATH his? Sometimes I wonder what type of mirror we as women view ourselves in. Maybe it’s the kind that gives us an optical illusion, you know if you go a fair or a carnival and you go into the house of mirrors, and what is being reflected is not reality? Kind of like that.

Another misconception is that men are intimidated by “successful” women. First of all what is your definition of success? There is nothing wrong with being proud of your accomplishments, and what you acquire in life. However some women equate success with degrees, nice cars and houses and assume that having those things automatically make them a “good woman”. If that is the case, then why are women able to prosper professionally but suffer personally? Sometimes we as women don’t realize how arrogant some of us have become, and we interpret OUR arrogance as THEIR insecurities or intimidation. What man wouldn't want his woman to have the best in life and be able to GIVE that to her?

So maybe, just maybe.. it’s not so much that you can’t find a man on your level, you just might be suffering from “delusions of grandeur” placing yourself on a “level” that you don’t or haven’t qualified yourself to be on. Sometimes our levels are really superficial and why would a deep Man (mental giant) swim in shallow water?

My $.02 cents: I understand being proud of your accolades but what some women forget is that other women have her same or greater credentials; so what makes her so special that she has to rattle off having a Master's Degree, a nice car and home? Make it so bad, these women are quick to point out their haves and his have nots. Arrogant women will never be a good look in a man's eyes. Let's see how that degree and house/car will comfort you when you're going through rough times and need someone to talk to. It's not that some women can't find a man on their level, it's that many men don't like the product she's marketing so they choose not to invest. You almost never hear of a man boasting about his education or financial/social status, it's usually women because they feel like they have to compensate for some area that's lacking in their lives. If a man talks about his accomplishments, it's from a humble standpoint because he knows bragging is not the move; that's the fastest way to turn people off. Humility is respected over arrogance and until women learn this, they will be alone with nothing more than their housecats.

Simp Nation

It's comical how some black men claim to have standards but when T&A shows up to challenge them, they retreat as if they had no say-so AT ALL. These men are cowards because booty and breast have a hold on them to where they will sell their soul to get sex from a woman. These are the same men that are scared to engage women in debates because all a woman has to do is say "he hates women, he's gay, all women aren't like that; just the ones you hang around" and so on and he backs up. That works on weak men but for strong men that aren't afraid of belligerent women, she has to try a little harder. Black men will lose their morals over T&A, shakes head. These men will take any & everything from a woman just because she has curves and he doesn't want to lose that. Lucky for me and other likeminded men, T&A doesn't phase everybody. It's like you've seen one, you see them all *shrug* Deep down, most women laugh at these thirsty men because all she has to do is show some skin, and these men go buck wild, start salivating like dogs, etc.

She Wants That Thug Lovin'

It never ends with some women, does it? She wants a thug because he can "handle her" He'll handle her alright; in the form of two black eyes and a couple bruises. If she likes to be smacked around, who are we to judge? True, but the problem is thug loving women get hurt to the core so they come to their senses and realize they want a good man. Too late to ask for a good man after he went upside your head. Even if she was able to land a good man, he'd quickly get tired of her baggage; holding him responsible for the wrongs of her ex(es). So to all women who are in love with thugs: Since you want a thug so much, here's your icepack & crutches, plus gauze and some bandages and march right on over to Tyrone & Ray Ray. Don't think about coming back to the other side asking for a good man once he does you wrong. Too late, you should've gone for the stand-up guys who have their affairs in order.

Priorities

This is the same look I have on my face when people's priorities are out of order. These dudes will move heaven and earth for shoes but can't put that same energy into finding a job? Shakes Head, and they have the nerve to complain about being broke. What you value goes into how you handle business; remember that. For me, play comes after taking care of business. Even then, I may not want to have fun because I'm looking ahead to what I need to focus on next. Some people got life twisted. Besides, Jordan is re-releasing the SAME shoe! We need to do better. If not for ourselves, at least for the following generation because they are looking at US for guidance on how to handle business.

I Never Seen A Man Cry

Why is it easier for a man to open up to a woman? I've been thinking a lot about this subject and came up with an answer: Women have that nurturing nature that endears people to them so even the toughest of men will open up. Let a man show weakness in front of other men and it's like "What you crying for, man up, real men don't cry or show emotion, etc." I understand that men were raised to be tough & strong and I can respect that. A young man coming up, he's never seen his father shed tears or show any emotion so he grows up thinking being emotional is for the birds. It's understood that it's acceptable for a man to show emotion under the following circumstances: Loss Of A Loved One, walking his daughter down the aisle on her wedding day, seeing his baby born for the first time, etc. I feel like this, I'm one of the strongest men around so it would take A LOT for me to break down. A man holding it in is like a septic tank, keeping emotions/feelings bottled up creates a strong odor that can become unbearable.

Tit For Tat

After what number of dates should a woman offer to pay after she’s been out on a couple of dates with the same guy?

If he initiated the date, he should pay on the first two dates. Anything after that, they should go back & forth. If one person is doing all the giving and the other person is doing all the taking, that's NOT THE MOVE. That relationship is built on selfishness, like what you can do for me instead of what we can do for each other. That's the problem with relationships, one person wants to reap all the benefits without bringing nothing to the table. Relationships like that WILL NOT last because they are built on selfishness. Regardless of who initiated the date, to expect one person to put in all the work is ridiculous. The other person doing the receiving has nothing to bring to the table except their looks. For discerned men like myself, threatening not to give me sex isn't hurting me because unlike most men, I'm not thirsty. If a man is dropping $200 or more for dates on a woman he's probably not feeling, he's not very intelligent because who's to say if you spend $$$ on a woman, she'll be interested in you? You don't know. Ladies and Gentlemen, don't allow your mate to drive you broke.

Real Mother Daughter Porn Duo Interview / Jessica & Monica Sexxxton Perf...

When that fire & brimstone hits, Florida is FIRST IN LINE! Porn has been around since Biblical days. There are instances of incest mentioned in the Bible (Genesis 20:12, Exodus 6:20, 2 Samuel 13 to name a few). When I read this article on the internet, I couldn't do anything but shake my head. This country has sunk to a new low. Yes, the mother & daughter may not have close sexual contact (I doubt that) but the idea of a mom & daughter doing porn is sickening. You have some people who co-sign this behavior saying "What they do is their business, not yours" If you or anyone else co-signs this extreme ratchetness, you're just as guilty as they are. I guess these two bring a new perspective to "Like Mother, Like Daughter".

Wanting A Good Man

This was inspired by Greg Cross (a Facebook friend). It was so good I have to share:

Ladies! You pray that you want God to bless you with a God-Fearing Man but yet, you disrespect him by not allowing to lead the household & fight for control.

Ladies! You pray to God to give you a husband & someone you can have a future with, but still chasing after men who has no interest in you and/or you chasing after men who are players, thugs, cheaters, liars, dogs, & etc also along with them mistreating you, they mistreat you & you continue to see them as solid men.

Ladies! You pray for a good man, but still you put a good man on the backburner or in the friend zone because you are afraid of trying something that will benefit your future.

Ladies! You pray for a good man, but you walk around as if you do not need one telling yourself you do not need a man, & that you can do bad all by yourself. I got my own what do I NEED A MAN FOR?

Ladies! You pray for a good man but yet & still you do not believe in Black Fathers, nor will you allow yourself to let the Black Fathers be parents because you feel that you are the "Mother & Father".

Ladies! You pray for a good man but somehow you always have something negative to say about good men or men in general. Telling people that "Men ain't shit, It's some weak ass niggas out here, They can't handle a real strong woman like me(Black women say this alot) & etc.

Ladies! You pray for all these things & still have not gotten or have found a man to call your husband. Why is that? It's because due to you wanting to be the masculine one, trying to dominate everything, feeling that you are in control, telling men off when they try to help you, disrespecting the arrangement for marriage that God directed to be, chasing after men that are no good, blaming every man that you get with or left you because of your personal problems, having no respect for black fathers is the reason why you are out here still looking. UNTIL! you can get over the mental incapacity & the insecurities & disrespect that you have, & allowing what it was intended to be for women to be second in command & man first, & realizing that being submissive is not being controlled, but respecting the Godly arrangement, then you will have a husband.

My interpretation: To sum up what Greg stated, until ladies present themselves as relationship material, they have NO RIGHT to pray for a God-fearing man. A God-fearing man will never check for a woman that's not of sound moral character.

Prison=Badge Of Honor?

Since when did going to prison become a badge of honor? These dudes talking about I did 10 years in the pen for such & such crime, etc. These same guys cry about how they can't get a job, the white man is holding them down, etc. It never ends with these guys. Yes, we all have made/make mistakes but you learn from it the FIRST time. Even then, think about the repercussions before you go out and do something stupid. Is it worth it?

A Good Thing

To men who say it's hard to find a good woman:

I think it's mostly in two things: (1) Do you have a healthy perception of yourself because you will attract what you are and (2) Do you have a healthy perception of others because you will most often see what you expect to see.

There are millions of good single women out there. Literally. Focus on getting healthy through Christ first and good women will almost magically appear before your eyes.

While it's somewhat valid that a good woman is hard to find, women are having the same issue with finding a suitable man to call her soulmate. Men and women are in the same boat so both need to tighten up on this bickering.

Men: Shedding Tears For Women's Approval

Contrary to what many women say, they DO NOT respect or desire a man that shows emotion (cries). She may not say it, but deep down women want a thoroughbred man; one that knows how to be strong even when he's being hit with trial after trial in rapid succession. Being emotional is part of a woman's genetic makeup. Men are raised to be tough, hard, not let stuff get to them. Any man that cries in front of a woman is doing so to play up to her emotions. Women are suckers for emotional men.

CT School Massacre

In light of the CT school massacre, I'd like to send my condolences to all families affected by this horrible tragedy. May God comfort all hurting families in this time of bereavement (which he will). I may catch heat for what I'm about to say next but oh well, it needs to be said. When you take God out of schools, this is what happens. Until America gets back in line with God, we will continue having senseless tragedies like this. One Nation Under God? I can't tell. I'm almost ashamed to say this but it needs to be said: This is the devil's world and we're living in it. For instance, the Bible mentions the "wicked system of things" belonging to Satan the Devil.

The Most Insecure Women On The Planet!

Black women aren't only insecure, women in general are insecure. I will admit that Tommy makes valid points but it's mostly ranting & raving from his end. Tommy Sotomayor is an outspoken media personality who has pages on twitter, facebook and YouTube. I've never heard of him until now and this video caught my eye which is why I decided to share it. The rest of the video does the talking for me so I won't comment further.

Making A Way

Please learn this men & women. Putting the wrong person on your team is bound to create issues. You're trying to go somewhere and have something in life and the person your with wants to drag you down. It's a waste of time to have someone in your life that doesn't want better for you or themselves; might as well continue living single like you've been doing if that man/woman isn't going to improve your life. Nobody (myself included) has time for dead weight. What do you do when dead weight holds you down? You get rid of it. Some people are just that, dead weight. They are content with mediocrity and want to keep you at their level.

Make Up Your Mind/Bonus Material

Via Jeffrey Green (Facebook friend)-Women want a man to take care of them, yet they want to remain independent. That's like a man wanting a Wife that will understand he is still screwing other women. 

Honorable Mention: Give me one good non-selfish reason why a single man with NO children over 35 should want to marry a woman with children and raise them as his own? 

Bonus Material

It takes two to tango, but someone doesn't have to dance.

Nip It In The Bud

You're not supposed to have issues early on in marriage. If you're having problems before and during the engagement, they will likely get worse over the course of your marriage.

Ending A Relationship

At what point do you end a relationship? People who ask this question already know the answer. I have 3 giveaways of when it's time to exit stage left: 1. When you've done all you can to salvage it. In that case, let him/her go. No sense in looking crazy. 2. When you have to ask that question, it's that time. 3. The point of no return. For many people, the point of no return comes sooner rather than later.

Short & Sweet

Shout Out to all the parents who let their kid(s) rip & run in public, then catch feelings when other adults check their kid(s). Well, if you did your job as a parent, no one else would have to. That Part.

This Is The Mess I Don't Like

According to many black women, black men are deadbeats, down low, losers, thugs, lazy, uneducated, etc.What does that make her if she laying down with these men? We all make mistakes yes, but to make the same mistake over and over again; something's wrong.  These same women are having babies by these men and have the nerve to pass over stand-up brothers. When these women are done wrong, they want to look for a good man all of a sudden but by that time, that stand-up guy has moved on to a woman that will appreciate him for who he is, not what he has. 

5 Random Thoughts

1. Everybody has their cup out but didn't chip in. Simply put, you have your hand out but aren't willing to contribute to the outcome.

2. Are women trading their cooch on the New York Stock Exchange? You would think so with how they value it. "I have that good good to make a man never stray"

3. Chris Bosh scored a major victory in his custody battle with his baby mama. This cat claims Texas as an official residence instead of Florida because if he claimed Florida, he would have to fork out $30K a month for the next 15 years for his kid's child support.

4.I'm tired of men and women thinking they are entitled to this, that and the third. Get up, get out and make your own way in this world. You can legitimately need help but no one will give you a helping hand. At least when you make it, you can say you did it on your own.

5. Look out for #1 because no one else will (except God).

The Friend Zone

A woman puts a man in the friend zone, gets with Mr.Wrong and he dogs her out all kinds of crazy, comes to her senses and tries to look up Mr.Friend Zone only to realize he's moved on with someone else. This woman doesn't realize she's prepared him for the next woman. She's looking crazy because she missed out on what could be a beautiful relationship. The issue I see with women who put men in the friend zone is some women want to keep him as a back-up. When their current relationship isn't so hot, she comes to him for advice on their relationship. Her male friend knows the ins & outs of their relationship and this could be his chance to move in for the kill (there are some men who sit on the sidelines waiting for a chance to get in the game). Putting a man in the friend zone could be good or bad, depending on how you look at it. If a man gets in the friend zone, it's because she wasn't attracted to him in the first place, and if the other guy dogs her out, she just wants the other guy to comfort her and rebuild her ego. They also get put in the friend zone as a safety net or emergency jump off, typically the dude in the friend zone is the one they depend on, can call up and cry on their shoulder, will get out the bed and drive across town to see about you; he knows all your issues and gives you good advice, and comes through for you; hes reliable. Now if that doesn't sound like a good man for her, I don't know what does. She doesn't have to be attracted to him, but he displays the other attributes that make him a great catch. These attributes are the same ones women seek in a potential mate. Mr. Friend Zone could be the best thing for her but she would never know because she put him in just that, the FRIEND ZONE.

Ne-Yo - Let Me Love You (Until You Learn To Love Yourself)

Is he being realistic? Is Ne-Yo misleading people to think this will happen? I didn't watch the video. I have been hearing the song on the radio and the gag reflex got started up. Drivel I tell ya!!! This is 2012 and I really don't think anyone is going to attempt to heal someone who is broken no matter how in love they are with them or what they see as potential in a mate. Let's be honest, no one is patient enough to fix a damaged person. If someone's damaged, no amount of love can bring him/her back unless they get the help they need to become whole again. It takes a special person to work with a damaged person, to the point of wanting to build a relationship with them. Honestly I couldn't do it BUT...if I feel she was worth it, I possibly could. She would have to show serious growth because I don't have time to go back & forth. We're all broken to a degree; question is who's healing themselves enough that you want to help? Unfortunately, not many people are into healing themselves because they're on some "this is how I was when you met me so stop trying to fix me" craziness. For the people who depend on others to fix them: It's not their job to fix you. You should fix yourself. Why depend on someone to do for you what you CAN & SHOULD do for yourself? There's more pride in getting where you want to be on your own than depending on someone because in a way, you can say you did that. I feel like this, a man can love a woman all he wants but if she doesn't love herself, it's useless.

Secretive Adoption

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2242567/Terry-Achane-Married-fathers-horror-wife-places-baby-adopted-Frei-family-telling-him.html

Shakes Head. This article has me fuming because how could a woman be so foul as to place her child up for adoption without discussing it with her husband? Yes, he was deployed but that gave her no excuse. Stories like this are why custody laws need to be revisited & revised because it seems like a woman can be the most  unfit parent and the courts will always rule in her favor. I guess it pays to be a woman huh? To know you've got the legal system in your back pocket, all she needs is a few well-placed stories and boom, the legal system is stupid enough to fall for her stories. In the story, one couple was having marital problems because Ms. Bland suggested having an abortion and he wouldn't stand for it. Their marriage could not have been that bad to where she wants an abortion; there has to be more to the story. If her husband was opposed to the abortion, that should've been the end of it. Carry the child to term and figure out where to go from there. I guess women feel like they have all say so in what to do with a baby since they're the ones carrying. Last I checked, she couldn't get pregnant by herself (she had help) so she should've discussed this with her husband. The husband's a drill instructor who took a job out of town. Unbeknownst to him, his lady went behind his back and put the child up for adoption. The couple that adopted the child say the adopted baby is theirs and they won't give it up without a fight. Make it so bad, she gave the courts fake contact information so the husband couldn't track her down to inquire about his child's welfare; basically she gave him and the courts the run-around. Stories like this are why men need to be CAREFUL who they lay down with because you don't know. You don't know what that woman's moral character is like because as evidenced in this story, some women are very spiteful and will pull stunts like this. I can only imagine how irate the husband is going to be when he comes back only to find out his child isn't there. If my wife (soon to be ex-wife, after she pulled this) pulled this crap, best believe I would be hot. Little does she know that I would already have a tracking system in place so that I would know where my child is at all times. You can't trust nobody (even your man or wife). I'm glad the father won his case but the longer this drags out, the less time he has with his child. You can't get back time lost with your child. At least he's fighting hard to see his child because in situations like this, most men would feel if the mother wants to be spiteful and keep him from his child(ren), that's her problem and not his. The problem with that logic is this: That child will grow up one day and by the time he comes around, it will be too late because that child will be living their own life. They will get used to not having their dad around to the point of indifference. If he's there, good. If not, oh well. Life Goes On.

Facebook hiatus/Miami vacation

I first joined Facebook on March 21, 2008. Since that time I've been on FB nonstop for 4 years straight. No breaks, nada. I've met wonderful people on Facebook and continue to do so. I've even come across people I used to go to school with. I guess it's true what people say: You come up on familiar faces all the time on Facebook. Last week I decided to take a FB hiatus because as with everything, Facebook can beome very addicting. I'm in Miami, Florida as we speak enjoying this beautiful weather and taking in the city. Facebook is the last thing on my mind if I'm in Miami. Think about it, when you break away from your favorite leisure activities, you have more time to focus on what's important. You can use that time to work on a few of your goals, improve yourself, etc. Makes me wonder why I didn't do this hiatus sooner. Since my time in Miami, I've been all over the city (yes, even the hood side of Miami. The hood has some historical spots and some of the most awesome soul food around). From South Beach to Overtown on up to Opa-Locka/Miami Gardens, I've been all over Miami. I'm digging Miami so much I'm not sure I want to come back to Tallahassee, lol. All good things must come to an end so in a roundabout way, I'm looking forward to coming back to Tallahassee so I can pick up where I left off. Best believe I'm returning to Miami because there's no city like it. The international flavor & cuisine, attractive women, palm trees & blue skies, shopping, nightlife, etc. No wonder people from other cities drive for miles just to come get a taste of MIA. I never knew how rewarding a hiatus can be which makes me wonder why I didn't do it sooner. Everyone needs a break at some point, myself included. What better way to break away from Facebook than a Miami vacation?

A Happy Wife Is A Happy Life?

A Happy Wife Is A Happy Life, True Or False? It depends on the person he's with. It's true if a man's woman is appreciative of him but false if she's not. If a woman is appreciative of how hard her man tries to keep her satisfied, then he will have no problem moving heaven & earth to please her. If a woman nitpicks over everything, then her spouse will not put forth as much effort to keep his woman happy because he knows she won't appreciate it. This phrase is one of those quips women use to get their husbands to do whatever she wants, even when he has good reason to refuse. With most men lacking spine, she gets her way. Honestly, I don't buy that "A Happy Wife Is A Happy Life" statement because a man can do everything in his power to please his wife and it's not enough. She will always have something to say about how this, that and the third could've been done better, she wouldn't have done it this way, etc. If it's that important to you, do it yourself. This is why many men are reluctant to get married, unappreciative women. Can you blame them? Why would any man want to marry someone that won't appreciate him? That's silly. When a woman says A Happy Wife Is A Happy Life, red flags go up for me because that says she wants him to do any and everything to please her without reciprocity. Don't get me wrong, I'm all for moving heaven & earth to keep a woman happy but in doing so, I want to know she will appreciate it. In being appreciative of me going the extra mile for her, I have no problem doing what a good man should, and that's pleasing his lady. What one man won't do, another man will (that goes double for women). A Happy Wife Is A Happy Life is valid if a woman's appreciative of her man keeping her happy, not in the big things but the small things. The phrase is false if no matter what a man does, it's not good enough for her. She finds fault in any & everything and wonders why her man checks out. A man will always go where he's appreciated.