Watered Down Truth

The truth doesn't have to conform to us, we have to conform to the truth; no matter what form it comes. Truth is designed to open our eyes to another perspective, another way of life. The problem is when people try to put their own "truth" over what's already been established. When you sugarcoat the truth, you are taking away its effect because you think it may hurt. Yes, the truth hurts but that's what it's supposed to do: cut deep so you can get it together. The truth gets right to the point whereas constructive criticism is given to help you improve. There are times where constructive criticism is needed and there are times where you just need to tell it like it is (with respect and love, of course). When I was coming up, my parents cut no corners. They told me the truth and although it hurt at times, it was done from a place of love. This approach helped me become the man I am today and has saved me unnecessary turmoil. I'm starting to believe that truth is repulsive to many people; they want candycoated excursions instead of raw truth delivered with respect. Now, you can tell it like it is without being rude and by doing so, the other person is more apt to receive it better. If you're telling the truth and being a jerk in the process, that person will either turn a blind eye to you or retaliate. Nobody likes to be talked down to. Many times, people will lie to spare someone's feelings because they don't want to hurt that person. In a way, that's commendable BUT...they will be disappointed that someone didn't care enough to tell them the real. I will say this, some women feel that a man who tells the woman the truth about herself hates women, is gay or she comes up with insane deflection rhetoric to take the focus off of what she needs to fix. Some men deflect too, but not to the degree of women.

Due Diligence

Nojma Reflects

When a man is looking at potential wife, he is interested in how she "works her mind" above anything else. While he understands that in her womb is where his legacy will be cultivated, he also understands that in her MIND is where his legacy will be conceived. A wise man would never trust his seed with a foolish woman, because he knows that to secure a studious woman is to secure his future. Brothers when you place your seed in the womb of an unqualified woman.....what you are really doing is condemning your legacy. Really study a woman before you allow her to carry your future.

My View: As usual, I agree with Nojma on this one. A real man looks deeper within a woman if he wants to build something with her. It takes a lot for a man to trust his woman but when he does, you know it's real. A wise man wouldn't trust his seed with a foul woman because you know why? Giving your best to the wrong person creates nothing but problems. This is why baby mamas are so prevalent in society because some men  are concerned with "hitting it" rather than spending time getting to know a woman. This is my approach for a relationship, get to KNOW her before going further. If I'm going to have children with her, I want to know she's going to be the best mother possible to my children. In order to do that, I must do my due diligence. If more men did their homework on the women they meet, there wouldn't be failed relationships and single parent families. It takes two parents in order to raise a productive, well-adjusted child.