Aug 20, 2012

Giving Up Too Easy

A man seeks a woman he can make his wife. Before he can make her his wife, this man will do his due dilligence with this woman. He's going to take his time (hopefully) getting to know her in depth; finding out her outlook on life, where she sees herself 5 years from now, etc. As he gets to know her, she may or may not have mutual feelings. If she doesn't, the woman should make it plain to the man that she has no intention of pursuing anything further with him so he can break it off effectively. No sense in leading a man on. Depending on the man, he may or may not give up easy depending on how interested he is in her. If he's not interested in the woman, it won't matter if she breaks it off because one or both parties agree the relationship won't go anywhere beyond casual conversation. Who knows, the couple may make better friends. If he's really interested in pursuing the relationship with her, nothing's going to stand in his way of catching her. She can reject him 100000 times and that's not going to stop him from going after and eventually catching her. This kind of man knows what he wants and what he has to offer and is going to MAKE her feel him. I can't be mad at persistent brothers because they eventually get what they want. To an extent, I do believe some men & women give up too easy when a prospective mate says no. Remember, that man or woman makes up a miniscule number of the 6.3 billion people existing on Planet Earth. When someone says no, another person says yes; that's how I see it. If a man or woman has themselves together and they get rejected, that's their loss because they're missing out on someone special. From a man standpoint, some men don't focus on one woman because even though things are going great with their lady, some men are still looking for someone better. As long as things are going good with me & my lady, there's no reason for me to continue looking because I've already found my prize. Either he wants a relationship with her or not, there's no in between. He already knows where she stands, so he's not going to waste time waiting for her to change her mind. Because all men and women are different, giving up too easy can sometimes be hard to gauge. If I move forward, she could say I'm going too fast and if I step back, she could say I need to step it up. No matter what you do, it will never be enough so the best thing men and women can do is put their best foot forward and if that's not enough, move on. You have some people that make a person jump through several hoops in order to get to know them. I can understand if they've been hurt but if a genuine person WANTS to take away your hurt, let him or her. At least they want to heal you, which is more than what I and other likeminded men would do. A real man doesn't like an argumentative woman. Men prefer the path of least resistance and if he's just meeting a woman and there's an argument or obstacle, that's a red flag. That's a turnoff and will be dealt with by her getting served the walking papers. A man's peace of mind is important to him and any woman who threatens that is out the door. If she considers that giving up too easy, then yes he gave up too easy. He gave up on a lifetime of fussing/fighting and drama. In that case, he made the right decision to serve her the walking papers.

Wednesday Measage: Be Careful How You Treat God’s People

  We're living in times where reaping what you sow is coming faster than ever. You better be careful of how you treat God's people!!