Man Still Paying Child Support 25 Years After Childs Death

 

You know, this is sad. 25 years after the child's death and the baby's dad is STILL paying child support. If the child's dead, then who's the money going to? The mother. Going further, I have to wonder while the child was alive, what was the mother doing with the child support money. I hope she wasn't spending the child's money on herself; I hope she was using the money to care for the child at the time (s)he was living. It's common for single mothers to use their child's support money to pamper themselves. It's too much like right for the mother to give back all the money she received. That would mean no more shopping sprees, no more eating out at Red Lobster among other things. I'm very sure she's STILL receiving the support to this day. Why would she give it back? Free money for her to do as she pleases, right? If someone's benefitting off another's mistake, they're not going to acknowledge the error and make amends. No, they're going to continue milking the system. I support men taking care of their children's financial needs, but this is uncalled for; so ridiculous! Like someone said, after it was found out, no one did anything to stop the process and give that man his money back. These women see their child as a check, and nothing more. Few women fight to have an upstanding father in the home with them, raising them properly, while loving and caring for them at the same time. But, MANY of them will fight for them to pay, while ducking and dodging full ownership of the mistakes they've made in choosing to get pregnant quite possibly at the wrong time and by the wrong person(s).

Single Until Grown

For any woman that's been through a divorce and had children by her ex, much focus is put on raising the child(ren), and rightfully so. Some single mothers would rather raise their children first before jumping into the dating pool, which makes sense. Coming out of a relationship where you've invested years with a person, that's not one you get over quickfast. I was watching a talk show and it gave some real advice. Listen to your children!!! If your child has negative feelings about a person, don't make them be around that person. As a matter of fact, you might not need to be around that person either. It's said that much abuse can be avoided by just listening to your children and their instincts. What fools an adult may not fool a child. Use your instincts! Some single mothers don't have that discernment. Many single moms are hard up to have a man in their home that they don't research him. For all she knows, he could be a sex offender. Some men believe that the way to a woman's heart is through her children. If a man is asking personal questions about a single mom's kids, that's red-flag all day. One of my Facebook friends brought up a great point: She stated "The child(ren)'s father would have to meet any man she's interested in." I like that approach because no man will try anything in the presence of another man, not unless he wants a boot to his behind. By the time the child meets the significant other, strong feelings have already been established. Then a womas has to decide-WHEN do they meet the kids? Some say wait. Others say right away. Women don't want to look like they are parading a bunch of men in front of their children looking for "the one". I think in many cases, it's best if a single mother focuses on raising her children before she gets back in the dating scene. She may be older, but at least her children will be grown and on their own so she and her new man can live out the rest of their years in bliss.