Aug 17, 2012

Double Standards In Breaking Up

There's no doubt in my mind that double standards exist in relationships. If a woman initiates the breakup, people sympathize with her and say she wasn't given enough attention, he wasn't right for her, etc. If a man initiates the break up, he's made out to be the bad guy: He cheated on, abused her or he couldn't love her unconditionally. The hypocrisy was laid on thick. When a woman breaks up with her man, she's not going to be truthful with her loved ones as to why the relationship went south (unless she's a woman of sound character). You will have women who fabricate bogus stories to save face with her friends and family as to why they are no longer together. These women tell their side, their way as to make themselves feel better but the truth of the matter is, deep down THEY know the real so it's just a facade which means the truth will continue eating away at them. The family co-signs her blindly without getting to the root of the breakup. When a lady leaves her man, in most cases he's able to keep it moving because in his mind there are plenty of fish in the sea. He's not going to care about an explanation as to why they didn't work out. Society has lied to women and told them they mature quicker than men,that's only during adolescent years and deals mostly with physical maturity. Adult women are as equally as immature in relationships as adult men. Women feel that men who initiate breakups are emotionally unavailable, which I disagree because a man with discernment can recognize when a woman isn't right for him. Once he realizes she's not the one, he will break it off and rightfully so. Men and women SHOULD NOT give their all to someone they won't be with long-term. (S)he may be able to love unconditionally but it's not going to happen with the (wo)man (s)he left as they were a temporary stop on the journey to finding their soulmate. Honestly, if a man or woman is that petty to fabricate a story to their friends and family to save face, it's a blessing the union didn't work out. They showed their ex their true colors so why stress over foul people? Double standards exist for every situation: A man sleeps with multiple women, he's a mack. A woman sleeps around, she's a ho. Very few people will admit their role in the relationship going south; it's her/his fault, they didn't do this, that and the third. It says a lot about a person when they admit their role in the relationship going south.

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