I've read the article where Zoe Saldana's husband took her last name, and one word came to mind: Whipped. First off, a man should never take his wife's last name, and I don't care who likes it. When a man takes his woman's name, she wants control in the relationship. She's saying he's going to carry on her father's legacy, and that's shameful. He might as well turn in his mancard. I'm sorry, but I can't respect a man who takes his wife's last name, no matter how famous she is. If a man is supposed to ask for his woman's hand in marriage & she agrees, then she takes his name; that's tradition. A lot of women want a traditional relationship, but some women co-sign their men taking her name in marriage. There's nothing traditional about a man taking his woman's name in marriage, but let some women tell it: Maybe he's secure, there's nothing wrong with a man taking his woman's name in marriage, and a list of excuses. Here's the thing: A lot of women complain about the lack of so-called "real men", but when they get one, they don't know what to do with him. A real man expects his wife to take his name in marriage, period. If he's a stand-up brother, why wouldn't she want to take his name? She should be honored to be chosen above the rest. He saw something in her that other women didn't have, and that's what made him choose her. For a lot of men, it's a big deal for a man's woman to take his name, and for a man to take his wife's name goes against tradition.
Here's a woman's comment from a Facebook friend's thread discussing this topic:
"Nothing is wrong in the man taking the woman's last name. There are men all over the world who do that. No pussification in that. Some do it as the ultimate gesture of their love. Some do it if there are only girls and no boys to carry on the family name of the woman. I'd be very happy if my husband took my name."
I respect others' views, but I can't get behind this at all. What men does she know that take their woman's last name? I'm sure she knows a few, but they're probably soft. Of course she would be happy if her husband took her name, because even though some women say they want a traditional relationship, they don't. Some women want watered-down men, and they got what they asked for. So ladies, go ahead and co-sign your man taking your name. Understand that in letting him take your name, you have no right to desire a traditional relationship. You gave that up long time ago when he agreed to take your name.
