Strawberry Letter: Menage A Trois

Menage A Trois
 
First off, I want to say that this guy is full of crap. One, he says he hasn't responded to the texts the married women sent him, but that's a lie because somehow (according to him) they have a threesome. Two, he doesn't respect marriage or his friendships to understand that sleeping with married women (even if they throw it to you) is a major violation. I suggest he watches The Best Man with Morris Chestnut & Taye Diggs. Midway through the movie as Harper (Taye) promotes his book, Lance (Morris Chestnut) reads about how Harper and Mia slept together in college, then beats Harper down. That's what's going to happen to this dude if he doesn't man up and tell the truth. I don't get some of these weaksauce dudes because they were man enough to sleep with married women, but they're scared to come clean. Men don't respect that. All 3 of them deserve to be single, and karma is coming for all of them. As for the married women, Those Ho's Ain't Got No Manners. I wonder if their husbands know their so-called "queens" have been thotting it up with other men, and if so, what are they going to do about it?
What He Needs To Do:
1) Block the friend’s wife from FB
2) Delete and block her number
3) MOVE out of town and go into witness protection because WHEN (not IF) the 2 guys find out, you will be murked.

*Special emphasis put on #3 because dudes have gotten killed behind messing with married women.

Greenleaf

I just watched Greenleaf - We Shall See Him As He Is on the Watch OWN app!https://t.co/299AbUkdFJ

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) June 26, 2016

Oprah has another hit under her belt with Greenleaf. Greenleaf is the Christian Empire because it chronicles the lives of a powerful megachurch pastoral family in Memphis. Each episode is wonderfully written and juicy, which is what I like about the show. If you're familiar with Tyler Perry, you'll understand that Lynn Whitfield & Lamman Rucker have appeared in many TP films. What I like about Greenleaf is the show exposes the undercover deception that exists in many megachurch pastoral families. The church isn't immune to the same sin that runs amok in the world. Just like you have influential people messing around on their spouses, this show has the same thing: A deacon messing around on his wife with a side woman. That's not all. The premise of this show is that ministers aren't exempt from the same temptations that others face, but what counts is how they deal with that temptation. Do they rise above or succumb? Even better is that Oprah showcases her acting skills, and she's doing her thing on the big screen. I hope this show lasts for several seasons.

Speak Up

Believers must stop worrying about being judged by the world for not co-signing sin. Jesus took no shorts regarding his feelings on sin.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) June 28, 2016

Every time a believer speaks out against sin, it's expected for them to be called bigoted because they won't co-sign sin. Well, I'll be bigoted because I won't co-sign sin. That's the difference between me and many other believers. While some believers are concerned with secular acceptance, I'm not. As a believer, Christians are called to speak out against sin. To me, a believer who doesn't stand against sin co-signs it. I'd rather be judged by the world instead of God because God's judgment carries greater weight since it's eternal. Jesus took no shorts regarding his feelings on sin; he hates it, period. Since God hates sin, believers are called to have the same attitude.

The Ministry According To Me

Every preacher is not a reacher. Some preachers take God's tithe & offering and use it for their personal gain.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) June 25, 2016

Independent ministers have more freedom to preach God's word the way it was intended: Uncompromising truth.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) June 25, 2016

When...

When your mouth runs like water, it causes a flood. In other words, know when to speak, and when to remain silent.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) June 17, 2016

When God gives you dreams, it's not for you to run your mouth to everyone (loved ones included) about them. Not everyone will support you.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) June 17, 2016

Too Friendly For Your Own Good

Some of you dudes are too cool with everybody. You got 4 different circles you run in. I don't want to be cool with EVERYBODY, just a few.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) June 20, 2016

We all know people like this: They're cool with everybody. They've got several circles they run in. I understand that some people are outgoing like that, it's nothing for them to make friends, but for people like me: Quantity isn't as important as quality. I'd rather have a small group of core friends (on one hand) than be cool with EVERYBODY. The more friends you have, the harder it is to keep up with those relationships because you're naturally going to gravitate more to some people than others. Going further, it's not possible to have lots of friends because at some point, you'll outgrow some relationships based on life trajectories. Some of your friends will not go where you're going, and you must decide if you can handle being on a different path than your friends.
If you can, by all means hold onto them because you know they'll always support you. If not, sever ties and keep moving. I can be friendly to everyone, but that doesn't mean I want to be friends with everyone. It's levels to friendship. You may fall out with some friends, and you may lose contact with some friends and pick up right where you'all have left off. I'd rather be cool with a few because I've invested time in those few people. When you're cool with everyone, you assume everyone is your friend because they show you a little love, but looks can be deceiving. Some people are good at smiling in your face and cutting your throat. My discernment is too strong to let ANYBODY into my life. If I think you're being phony with me, you're toast with no jelly.

No One Has To Accept You As You Are

The worst thing you can tell a prospective mate is they have to accept you as you are. No, they don't because they can easily pay you dust.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) June 19, 2016

 It irks me when people make this statement because it shows me that some folks are too lazy to correct their bad habits. If you're trying to attract someone, it behooves you to correct those bad habits so you can be more attractive to them. No (wo)man (if they're honest) will commit to someone who doesn't want to change for the better. If a man is investing in a woman, he wants a return on his investment. If a woman isn't committed to growth, then he shouldn't deal with her. I'm not saying change the core of who you are, I'm saying if you're interested in a person and they tell you bad habits they won't overlook in a potential mate: Petty, disrespectful, loud, etc., and you wear those bad habits like a badge of honor, then you don't have the right to get upset if no one wants to deal with you. Let's be 100, who wants a petty, disrespectful, loud (wo)man? Not me, and neither would anyone with a brain. It seems like more and more women are embracing their bad habits and that's sad. I think a (wo)man is stupid for embracing their spouse's bad habits, but that's my opinion. The more I hear people embracing their bad habits, the more grateful I am for being spared of that nonsense. The fact is that no (wo)man has to accept you as you are, because they can easily leave you to the ravens and wolves, and move onto a more suitable mate, one who will add joy instead of discomfort.

Real Talk: If Someone...

People better wise up and see folks for who they really are.

If someone's dirty to another person, they're going to be dirty to you. You really can't trust anyone (except God).

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) June 19, 2016

If someone falls out with another person, they're going to fall out with you.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) June 19, 2016

Golden State vs. Cleveland

By now, everyone knows about Golden State's 73-9 record. I don't see anyone topping 73-9 for a while, except for maybe Golden State themselves. Golden State was down 3-1 against OKC and they battled back to win. Now, they were up 3-1 against Cleveland and due to Draymond Green's suspension, that allowed Cleveland to tie the series at 3-3. Honestly, Golden State should've put Cleveland away in 5 and they probably would have if Green wasn't suspended. The fact is that Golden State has been getting exposed these last 2 games. Cleveland's got momentum going into Game 7 and the pressure is on GS. If Golden State loses Game 7, 73-9 won't mean anything without an NBA title.

FYI: 73-9 won't mean anything without an NBA title.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) June 17, 2016

Throwback Thursday: June 15, 2012

Richard Hudson

June 15, 2012 ·

Thought Of The Day: If you're not in a relationship, you aren't happy. Really? So happiness is based on being involved with someone that may/may not be right for you? I like to see happy couples in love. Yes, they have issues but being committed to each other allows them to work through those problems. Men & Women do not have committment issues, most people aren't worth a committment. Let's be honest folks, men and women have more baggage than ever before and who wants to take on someone as a project? Most people are incapable of loving someone past their mess and in some way, I can't blame them. You have to be patient to love him/her past their baggage in order to get the best of them. If you can't bring your A-game to a relationship, I will not spend time trying to fix a woman. That's not my responsibility. My parents and friends ask me this from time to time and I tell them the same thing: I don't want the trash most women bring: ghetto attitude and loose morals, too busy living the club lifestyle, etc. Men have issues they need to fix as well and probably more. Many people don't know how to be single. They base being whole on having someone in their life but little do some people realize that you have to learn how to be single before you can be in a relationship. If you can't be happy alone, how do you expect to be happy with another person? Wholeness comes from doing soul-searching then working on yourself to where if you decide to start looking, you and her will bring the best out of each other resulting in two whole people. When two people are on the same page & they are complete within themselves, they're a power couple. Many people don't want a relationship because they value their ambition & freedom/independence moreso than companionship. With everything coming together (thanks to my homeboy Jesus) regarding my goals & a better job making good money, the woman who finds me has to be on point and then some. I'm bringing 110% to the table so I'm expecting the best of her, minus the baggage. Character & Personality flaws are non-negotiable with me. I will not deal with attitude & drama, making me pay for another man's mistakes. I am wary of anybody who says "take it or leave it" because that shows they want you to accept their craziness but they won't deal with yours. If someone walks out because you won't bend your dealbreakers, let them go. That's the best thing to happen because that's less drama I, you or anyone has to deal with. Contrary to popular belief, it's possible to find a drama & baggage-free person. It's work but it pays dividends in a happy life together.

Orlando, FL Massacre

These tweets are dealing with the Pulse nightclub massacre, where 50 GLBT folks were shot down in a hail of bullets.

What's the correlation between Islamic terrorism and calls for gun control reform? SMH.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) June 13, 2016

Christians, stop this nonsense because that's NOT the way to lead GLBT folks to Christ.

Christians who say "God Hates F***" are no better than those who commit hate crimes against LGBT folks.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) June 14, 2016

God had NOTHING to do with the Orlando massacre, so blaming God isn't going to do a bit of good. There's a term called "fallen world".

The LGBT community is throwing shade at Christians saying God caused this tragedy. God had nothing to do with the Orlando massacre.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) June 14, 2016

Talking Too Much

“Keep what you know to yourself, and you will be safe; talk too much, and you are done for.” https://t.co/gj6IiMHOT

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) June 9, 2016

This Bible verse caught my eye because it's common sense advice: Don't tell too much because it can get you in trouble. Sometimes, it's not good to tell what you know because not everyone who listens has good intentions.

Inspiration Monday

People are so desperate for love that they're willing to put up with being treated like💩.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) June 12, 2016

The powers that be will always be threatened by an educated black person with knowledge of self.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) June 10, 2016

“Keep what you know to yourself, and you will be safe; talk too much, and you are done for.” https://t.co/gj6IiMHOTD

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) June 9, 2016

You could go to a new level if you would get free from what everybody thinks & start being true to who God made you to be.

— Gayle Cardenas (@Gayleltu) June 6, 2016

You can't sweeten garbage by putting it in sunshine. It's still going to stink.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) June 6, 2016

4 Years Ago

Classic Post from Yours Truly:

 

Richard Hudson

June 8, 2012 ·

Daily Thought: The family that prays together, stays together. True in most cases but in today's fallen world, families are going to war like the military. You have families that were once close but due to irreconcilable differences, they are no longer on good terms. Some family members have fistfights with each other, dog each other on social media, blog sites, etc. And family is supposed to be the backbone of society? Come on. A real family rides for each other through thick & thin. Yes, they will fight but at the end of the day they stick together. I've been blessed with a wonderful family and we ride for each other even if we dead wrong, but I know others aren't as fortunate so I look at things from both sides. A family that's rooted in God's word that prays together, stays together.

Sinner's Delight

If a sinner doesn't feel convicted about their sin while in God's house, that reflects poorly on the church.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) June 5, 2016

Today's topic is called Sinner's Delight with good reason: Too many sinners feel comfortable in their sin while in God's house. When I was coming up, sinners had such a respect for God's house that they were uncomfortable being in the presence of holiness. The preacher wasn't afraid to tell it like it is in their sermon and depending on the sinner, (s)he may (not) be moved to conviction and repentance. Fast forward to today: Some churches are afraid to lose members if they preach the no-nonsense Word Of God. Because of this, ministers water the Word down so sinners will feel comfortable in their sin, therefore they aren't moved to repent. It's not the sinner's fault because sinners will go to churches that don't tell it like it is about sin, therefore that sinner feels comfortable in their sin and they don't see a need to change.  
Upon entering God's house, a sinner should feel so uncomfortable in their sin that they are moved to conviction (that's ONLY if a church is set up by God and upheld by man). When pastor does an altar call, they're the first ones to the altar because the pastor delivered a powerful message about salvation that it shook them to their core, and the sinner realizes they need to get right with God. It's easy to tell if a church is God-ordained instead of man-ordained based on the message contact. If the pastor seeks God before he delivers his sermons, that's a God-ordained church because the pastor speaks what God tells him to speak. A sinner should NEVER feel comfortable in their sin while in God's house, but again because the church has watered down the Gospel, sinners aren't moved to repentance because they know the pastor will indirectly co-sign their sin by preaching fluff messages.

One Is Enough

A man should have ONE woman he would give his life for. Something's wrong if a man has met several women he's loved more than himself.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) June 4, 2016

A man should have ONE woman he would give his life for. Something's wrong if a man has met several women he's loved more than himself. Why? Because it's not possible for anyone to have dated several (wo)men they would give their life for. Every person you court should have a redeeming quality that stands about them. This makes it easier for you to pick the right person because everyone is not the same. If every (wo)man a person meets has the same wonderful characteristics as the other person, how are you able to figure out who's right for you? You can't because you don't have a barometer to help you. When I hear people compare their current mates to their ex, it's usually from a standpoint of how wonderful their ex was to them.

Hypothetically, let's say I meet several women that have everything I'm looking for in a woman: Smart, articulate, not ghetto/ratchet, Godly, loves to cook, work out junkie, driven, etc. In theory, it would be a good problem to have because all these women have what I'm looking for, but...I look deeper. I'm looking for something in each woman that makes her unique. I would have to go to God for guidance on picking the right person who could be the helpmate for me. On the surface, these women would be what I'm looking for, but what if I pick one lady that looks good on the surface, but as I'm with her, she starts to show her true nature? Her character flaws come out and I'm at fault because I didn't do the proper due diligence. It's not her fault because she was playing the part of my representative; she was being who I wanted her to be.

When a person says they've met several (wo)men they've loved more than themselves, I'm thinking to myself they have poor selection ability because it's not possible to meet several potential mates you have loved more than yourself. There will be things you don't like about a potential spouse, just like they will see things in you that they may not like.

Save The Best For Last

If a couple is giving each other marriage benefits, what's to look forward to on wedding day? Some things should be withheld until marriage.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) June 3, 2016

Thursday Tweet Salad

You guys know how this goes, so let's get right into it.

66 murders in Chicago for the month of May. Honestly, Chicagoans should be used to the violence by now.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) June 2, 2016

Life isn't a video game; there are no do-overs so it's important to make the most of each day.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) May 29, 2016

Protect your peace by any means necessary.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) May 28, 2016

Rely on what God says instead of what others say.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) May 28, 2016

If whatever you're wishing for is meant to happen, God will see to it that it comes to pass.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) May 28, 2016

Not Everyone Can Be Saved

You can't save someone who doesn't want to be saved.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) May 28, 2016

One thing that irks me is people who try hard to save those who don't want to be saved. I'm thinking to myself, why are you putting yourself through any unnecessary pain by continuing to rescue someone who doesn't want rescuing? This applies to those in abusive relationships, and those who are going down a dangerous road. The only person who can save someone is Jesus, and even Jesus gives us enough opportunities to turn to him before we reach the point of no return. I get that everyone is under the assumption that everyone wants saving, but there are people who enjoy being in bondage. I know that's crazy, but it's true. Project Pat (former 3-6 Mafia/Hypnotize Minds rapper) came out with a song in '99 called "Don't Save Her". Pat's song concept was talking about how dudes try to reform women who enjoy being whores. He thinks that if he treats her right, she'll become loyal to him. Eventually, the person (or people) will resist your superhero efforts so much that you'll come to think that maybe they didn't want saving after all. People must want help, you can't force it on them. Whether it's saving inner-city kids from inevitable death that comes from being involved in the gangster lifestyle, to someone in an abusive relationship. The choice to accept rescue must be on them.