A man and his woman get into an argument, and she says hurtful things to her man. She's never been the violent type, but this time she slaps him, and tells him to get out. He leaves and she calls her man to apologize for stepping out of character and putting her hands on him. Does he?
A. Accept her apology and go back home?
B. Avoid her calls until he cools off?
C. End the relationship
A. Accept her apology and go back home?
B. Avoid her calls until he cools off?
C. End the relationship
There is no universal answer because each man is different. One man may accept her apology and go back home to his wife, another man may avoid her calls until he's had time to calm down, or the last man would end the relationship. There is no reason for couples to lay hands on each other in anger; that is unforgivable. Yes, rough times will come in marriage, but that doesn't warrant physical abuse. Sure (s)he may apologize for putting hands on you in anger, but who's to say they won't do it again the next time they get angry? You don't know, so it's best to have zero tolerance for ANY abuse in a relationship. Some people are very good at manipulation, they apologize for their transgression just so they can have another opportunity to go upside your head. Why would he avoid her calls until he cools off? By that time, it may be too late to reason with people like her. In matters like this, she just didn't decide to slap him. She's had a lot of built-up anger to let loose on her husband.
Answer C would be a no brainer for me, and let me explain why: I cannot let this slide because who's to say she won't do it again? I'm not about to risk it. Had I gone upside her head, I'd be dead wrong and be in jail. I'll forgive her, but I will never forget. I couldn't look at her the same way. She can apologize all she wants, but the damage was already done. THAT cannot be erased. When someone's angry, you find out their true colors. Nobody gets that angry for no reason; it's a build-up of previous issues . She didn't decide to beat on me for no reason; she's held in a lot over time and it all came to a head when we had an argument. There's no coming back from that episode. She can apologize all she wants, but she would be gone. I have zero tolerance for physical abuse. If I wouldn't let anyone else beat on me, what makes her think I'll let her do the same? No, I'd walk away and work on a divorce. I wouldn't pray about it, nothing. No amount of prayer would restore this incident. In situations like this, you don't know someone until you see them at their worst. Once you've seen them at their worst, what's in their heart will flow out of their mouth.
