If you've been watching Atlanta Housewives then you know about the Kandi & Todd situation. In a nutshell, Kandi is letting Mama Joyce run her relationship. She talks crazy to Todd and Kandi doesn't defend her man. First off, if a parent is talking crazy to someone's (wo)man, it's the fiancee's duty to defend their mate. I commend Todd for staying around for as long as he has, because not too many men would tolerate disrespect. A man will not stay with a woman that allows her parents to disrespect him, and she doesn't check them. I'm not saying disrespect your parents, but put them in their place with love. Mama Joyce has issues, for real. Supposedly, Mama Joyce is worried about Kandi's money.
The reason Mama Joyce meddles in Kandi's relationship is because she feels Todd is trying to come up off Kandi. Kandi made it clear that she has no problem, because she has love for her man. If you love your (wo)man, you'll fight for them. You won't let ANYONE (parents included) talk crazy to your mate because you respect them that much. Todd has his own money, so why would he want Kandi's? That's crazy to me. If Todd was trying to live off Kandi, he wouldn't have nothing for himself. Todd would be spending Kandi's money (hint hint Peter and Greg). Todd said it himself that he's not impressed by Kandi's money.
How much can a man take? There comes a time where a man must make a decision whether to stay and endure the WORSE of an engagement relationship, or cut losses. If a woman refuses to check her parents, he's within his right to do so. Problem is, the (wo)man will get upset at him/her for talking loud to the parents. Maybe (s)he wouldn't have to check your parents if you would. According to some women, a man is weak if he runs from conflict. The same women who say a man is weak if he runs from this conflict, are the same ones that want him to deal with all of her mess. What these women DON'T tell you is that she won't tolerate HIS mess.
A strong man knows when to hold, and when to fold. A weak man will ALWAYS...always tolerate disrespect from a woman that's supposed to honor him, because he "loves her". Ok, let me know how that works out for you. Thank God I have sense enough to duck out if I sense a potential issue.
