What You Marry Is What You're Into

Everyone has their laundry list of what they want in a potential husband/wife, which is great. We SHOULD have non-negotiable standards for a potential spouse. What happens if someone comes into our lives that doesn't meet ALL of our requirements, but they meet half of them? That depends. Some people will accept their spouse with all their flaws, others will keep it moving. Should one decide to keep it moving because their desired man/woman isn't 100%, that's their decision; they need to realize that they are setting themselves up for a lifetime of loneliness. Now, some people will say "It's better to be alone, than with someone who doesn't bring 100 percent to the relationship." True, for the most part. No one wants to be with someone they aren't compatible with, by right they shouldn't. If I'm bringing 100% to the relationship, then I'm within my right to require the same. My pastor talked about this during Wed. Night Bible study, so that's where this commentary comes from. The meaning of this topic simply means that whatever you marry, that's what you're attracted to. Fellas, if you marry a respectful, educated woman, that's what you're into. The inverse is also true, if a man marries a ratchet woman, that's what he likes. Ladies, if you marry a 6'2 man with an 8-pack, that's what you're into. He's content with his job, and doesn't want to move up. She saw past his shortcomings, and realized he treats her like a queen, so she marries him. She has his children, so she loses her figure-eight shape. He's an upstanding man, so he doesn't have eyes for another woman even though his wife has gained weight over the years. People can have physical preferences in a man/woman, and that's fine. Just realize that over time, she's going to lose her hourglass shape, and he's going to lose his 8 to 12-pack. Very few people keep their figure past high school & college, but if they offer you companionship, loyalty & respect, then you'd be a FOOL to reject him/her. You can always work with them on their shortcomings.