Pardon the expletives, I'm just reposting.
Men Of Color
15 hrs ·
SITUATIONSHIP:
Stay in a woman’s life long enough for her to get used to you, and she’ll drop all standards. Ex-boyfriends or random dudes that have kept in contact over the years are the best at pulling off situationships because they sell their dick better than Timeshare companies. Miss Typical will think that her history with a guy protects her from being hurt. You forget to take into account that the reason you broke up with this dude or why you two never became official back then was because there was some incompatibility. You ignore that huge red flag because you are bored and tired of looking for love. You just want a familiar dick that won’t make your sleep number go up, and the ability to chill with someone you don’t have to worry about impressing.
These type of situationships work really well for the first month or two because it is exactly what you say it is. Do you know why this is? Because any man, no matter how fucked up he is, will be on his best behavior to insure that you don’t change your mind about the arrangement. However, after he’s fucked you several times and has gotten comfortable again, he can drop the act and be the asshole he is normally. That means he no longer comes running when you call, he doesn’t pick up on the first ring or respond back to your texts as fast as he used to, and he’s back to lying about where he’s going to be and why he can’t see you. He didn’t change up, he changed back! Every man knows when he’s hooked a woman because her temper becomes short and her behavior out of the ordinary. The moment you argue over something dumb, when you used to laugh it off—hooked. The moment when you call us late at night instead of waiting for our call—hooked. When you start suggesting we go out, when it was only supposed to be a non-serious chill and fuck relationship—hooked.
Miss Typical will drive herself crazy trying to treat a nigga that’s not her boyfriend like he is, and the man will just distance himself more and more because he wasn’t lying when he said he didn’t want anything serious (with her). These things end two ways, either the woman has had enough and cuts him off or the man gets a real girlfriend who forces him to cut her off. Either way, within a year Miss Typical will get a call from that same dude like, “We was having fun, til you started tripping. Let’s hang out like old times.” And then they are on again… repeating that basic ass cycle once more.
