Today's message is titled Bad Sex=I'm Gone. The above picture was posted in one of my Facebook groups. The responses are varied thus far, and confirmed my view that loyalty is a lost art. If you have someone who's good to you but the sex is bad, why would you leave? That's stupid to leave an otherwise good relationship over sex. The fact that men and women would leave over sex just shows how far we've fallen in society. Last time I checked, there's other ways to connect besides sex. Deep conversations, doing things together you both enjoy, etc. I can't be too upset because everyone's different, so being different involves different outlooks based on personal experiences. For me, I couldn't imagine leaving a good woman over bad sex. If we're compatible in other areas, then I can overlook bad sex; I'm dead serious about that. As a couple gets older, their sex life diminishes.
Many responses signaling departure are coming from women, go figure. Women place more value on sex than men do, and why wouldn't they? For women, sex is about emotional connection. You're connecting in a way that can only be explained through sexual activity. Some men don't value sex as much because some men will sex this & that woman, lay the bill on the table and leave a tip. I can understand why women value sex the way they do, but not to the point where if her man isn't laying it down right, she's gone. Thank God I'm not hard to please like most people. Basically, if a woman does right by me (and I return the favor), it doesn't matter if she's bad at sex; we'll improvise. Besides, as we get older our sex life will probably diminish due to lack of desire. There's more than one way to connect with your spouse, sex doesn't have to be the only option.
I'm going to post a few responses from T Lavon Lawrence:
"There is no RIGHT man - everything within a relationship changes - like the wind and the tide, emotions evolve, attachments rise and fall, perspectives and desires move from one aspect to another. What stokes your flame now will inevitably die out and your furnace will need a different type of fuel. Oh the hypocrisy you're going to demonstrate when things stop working in your female body when the changes hit you - and you turn to your man and he's not feeling you because your 'drives' aren't what they used to be."
"Every woman in here is going to change on her man - nature has made that a guarantee - and when it happens, your body is going to go insane, and your man is going to have to suffer for it. According to this mindset I'm seeing, he's justified in leaving you for another woman whose equipment is still in high-performance working order - no matter how good you treat him."
T Lavon's response show how loyalty is a lost art among some women. According to these two statements, a man would be justified in leaving or cheating on his woman if her equipment malfunctioned. That wouldn't go over well because the minute a similar picture was posted, women would be calling him a dog, sorry, etc. for not staying with his woman through her down time.
