Jan 6, 2014

Daddy's Girl

 
I'm going to offend some folks, but I don't care who slighted. Just like women don't mess with mama's boys, we men don't/shouldn't seek out Daddy's Girls. Think about it: A woman runs to daddy as soon as she gets in a bind, because she knows Daddy will bail her out. How many fathers you know teach their girls to stand on their own? Very few, if any. Fathers pamper their daughters, and she grows up seeking a man just like Daddy. The whole Daddy's Girl mantra is not a good look, AT ALL. If mama's boys are frowned upon, Daddy's Girls should be frowned on as well. What's the first thing that comes to mind when you hear Daddy's Girl? A woman that's close to her father. She measures her husband based on the bar set by her father. If her father is honest, hardworking/ambitious, God fearing, that's who she wants in her husband. Let me expose the double standard: A woman living with her parents is going through a bad time, but a man living with his parents is considered a bum. Why is that? Men are expected to be able to survive on their own, we're not supposed to ask for help. If a man needs help, it's a last resort. He will exhaust all options before he finally asks for help. Women need a little more help being independent, which is why they're usually the last to move on their own. Should I choose parenthood, my job is to raise responsible children. My daughter wouldn't get any special treatment. I'd show her how a man should treat her based on affection shown to mom, & raise her to be independent so she wouldn't have to come to me for everything. My daughter wouldn't be thinking about boyfriends, she would be about her education. Should she find a suitable man, I meet him first to see what he's about. Out of all these skeezers, what makes my daughter special? Understand this, he hurts her, I hurt him. My princess will understand what it takes to keep a man happy. In my view, some Daddy's Girls are dependent on dad. If dad cuts her off financially, she beomces desprate to make it. She's never had to earn her way in life, because everyhing she ever wanted & needed was given to her by Daddy. Here's the Irony: Mama's boy is frowned upon because many mothers equip their sons with skills to be HER man. That's no different than a Daddy's Girl because he's teaching her how to be HIS man. If a man's getting to know his woman, he wants to be #1 in her life. With dad in the picture, that's going to be difficult because he's competing with her father to win her heart. I can understand why many men don't want Daddy's Girls, because she expects her man to be just like daddy. I will say this: A woman who grew up with her father knows how to relate to men. She recognizes a good man because that's what she saw growing up. A woman growing up without a dad may not know how to deal with men because she's never had that influence. She carries on being disrespectful towards men, until one claps back and checks her. There's pros & cons to dating a Daddy's Girl.


Wednesday Measage: Be Careful How You Treat God’s People

  We're living in times where reaping what you sow is coming faster than ever. You better be careful of how you treat God's people!!