Sep 13, 2012

Relationship Entitlement

When two people come together, it's a given they have expectations for each other. The man has guidelines for his woman and the woman for her man. A relationship won't last unless there's clear guidelines about what will & won't work. My issue is when people throw out the statement "What you won't do, someone else will" because I think of a spoiled brat that threatens to leave if (s)he doesn't get their way. In a relationship, if someone does for you it's because they WANT to, not because they HAVE to; let's make that clear. While men & women are guilty of this statement, it's usually women who say this from an entitlement standpoint. I can understand being entitled to love & respect, faithfulness and honesty because those should be expected from a prospective partner. To say "what you won't do for me, someone else will" from an entitlement standpoint like someone has to do this, that and the third for you while you bring nothing to the table is grounds for dismissal, at least for me. Nobody is obligated to go hard for you. If they do, it's because they care enough for you to give you the best of them. The only time that statement should apply is if you have non-negotiable basic requirements. I've noticed that people who throw out the "what you won't do for me, someone else will" statement are those who want to take without giving. Those kind of women are invisible because why give your best to someone you may not be feeling? That doesn't make sense to me because if I care for someone, it's easier for me to go hard for them because I want to see them happy. That's a red flag that someone's a user because if they expect you to give your all to them and they're not reciprocating, you shouldn't waste another nanosecond on them because they showed you what they're about offtop. It's almost as ridiculous as people who say "I'm not settling for chicken dinner when I deserve prime rib". Again, people who say that typically won't bring anything to the table and are invisible. I, and other likeminded people will not allow ourselves to be used. I can understand being entitled to whatever you desire IF you are bringing something to the table, but to dictate that a man should cater to a woman is nonsense. When you're in a relationship with someone, they should give you what you NEED, not WANT. Anything extra they give you is out of the goodness of their heart, not obligation. The sooner people learn this, the better.

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