Letter:
Dear Steve and Shirley, this letter is deep, because its true. My husband of 25 years came home at 5am on Christmas Eve, which was unusual for him to come home at that time. I was up waiting when he arrived and he stated he must talk to me because he is "No longer in love with me." I sat in shock and listened and said, "Okay." I left the room and he left the house. He came home on Christmas morning. I was up waiting and he said he'd cheated and we have had a 25 year run and again, he's no longer IN love, but after 25 years, he "loved" me. Again in shock, I said, "Okay". Upon finding out that he was no longer in love with me, I set out to make plans to leave him and our home, realizing this was over. I have moved out and I'm taking one day at a time to heal. Now 3 weeks later, he is calling my cell phone crying, saying he didn't mean what he said and he was depressed and had a break down. He said the cheating was due to him drinking alcohol and it happened 3 years ago. As you can tell from my demeanor, we have had disturbing conversations before - "blame it on the alcohol." Morning crew, can you blame me for moving on and ending this menage trio with my husband, alcohol and myself?
When I read today's Strawberry Letter, this song came to mind. Why is it that when someone cheats, they always blame it on the alcohol? If anyone has an answer for me, please let me and the rest of the world know. True, alcohol does play a factor in infidelity because it lowers your judgment, so that's why someone should NOT indulge in alcohol. People are going to do what they want, so let them *shrug*. Reading situations like this just confirms that some people don't KNOW their partner like they think. It's easy to tell someone what they want to hear when getting to know them. Once a couple gets married, that's when true colors show.
It's important to KNOW your (wo)man. Even in knowing your partner, you can't be with them 24 hours a day. You don't know what your spouse is doing when they're not with you. All you can do is trust them to do right by you. It's amazing that intoxication reveals a person's true colors. If she has one iota of sense, she will NOT entertain the thought of taking him back. He cheated! That's all the proof she needs to keep moving forward. Everyone screws up, I understand that. You can forgive a person and not keep them around, because in taking them back, the next opportunity to cheat that arises, they're going to jump on that.
He calls her on the phone crying and begging for her to take him back. Textbook move: A man that's cheated on his woman pulls that emotional card every time. Why wouldn't his woman take him back? Some women are suckers for emotional men, and men play on that. There's one issue: Many men manipulate women with those same tears just to get back on her good side. Once he's on her good side, the next opportunity that arises for him to cheat, he takes it. I want to congratulate her on moving on from this guy. He already cheated on her once, and she's not about to give him the green light to do it again.
