Dec 31, 2014

Anti-Black (wo)men


Black men and women have always been at odds, but social media has brought the discord to the forefront. You can be on Twitter and see disparaging comments about black men from black women and vice versa. Truthfully, it doesn't make sense because when it comes down to it, black men and women are in the same boat. Black women have issues just like black men, so it's stupid for both sides to shade each other. Instead of warring with each other, black men and women need to be trying to come together to battle the ills in the black community. I used to be in a lot of Relationship Talk groups on, and they started off with real talk, then degenerated into anti-black (wo)men rhetoric. I had to get out of those groups because I felt myself getting caught up in that mess, and I can't be around foolishness of any kind. I was friends with a certain Facebooker (she's not worthy of mentioning) who although has some good discussions that I've took part in, recently the last few posts have been about how black men & women are no good; some black women are looking for a man who makes $150K a year with a nice car, 6-pack, etc. The men were no better because they were feeding into the nonsense by saying all black women are good for is booty and their cooking prowess (or lack thereof). My thing is both sides look like clowns when they disparage each other on social media.
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Dec 30, 2014

Inspiration

Here's a collection of inspiring tweets to encourage someone. I may not know who needs encouragement, but I'm confident these tweets will inspire readers to keep pushing.



















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Dec 29, 2014

Gratitude & Patience


Two things define you: Your patience when you have nothing and gratitude when you have everything. I'm a big believer in this statement because it holds a lot of weight. It's easy to be thankful when everything's sweet, and things are going your way. You're shining on your job, business is prospering, debt free, etc. By all accounts, you're on point and with good reason. You've worked hard to get where you're at & given what you've gone through, you're not ashamed to testify where you've come from. You're very humble because you know what you've gone through to get where you are, and you never feel a need to brag about how many homes & cars you have. You meet people who are less fortunate and you're compelled to bless them in any way you see fit. That's all part of being grateful for having everything because as soon as you get blessed, you try and bless others.
What do you do when you have next to nothing and you're busting your butt to make it to the top, but it seems like every door is slammed shut? You're tired of struggling, and you want more in life but it's not the right time. You have two choices: 1.You can keep fighting for that dream, and move heaven & eart to make it happen or 2. You can give up, and never see that dream manifest. Many people go with #2 because they're so weary from fighting that they feel that goal is not meant for them to achieve, so they quit. However, there's that select few who choose to make it happen by any means necessary; even if that means trimming the fat from their lives (removing dead weight in the form of naysayers). They've got laser-like focus that nothing will stop them from getting what they desire in life. As stated in the tweet, you're defined by two things, which one will define YOU?
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Dec 26, 2014

Words Of Wisdom

Here's a collection of inspirational tweets:




















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Dec 25, 2014

Oh Hi, I Only Exist When You Need Something


People are funny. Not in a kee kee ha ha kind of funny, but the shaking your head, are you serious kind of way. When you forget about someone, you completely write them off, or so you should. Forgetting about someone involves NOT asking them for any favors because you forgot about them. Let me give a couple of examples:

1. You and a close friend have a falling out and part on bad terms. Months or years later, your friend loses their job and needs you as a reference. You remember how they did you, so you tell them no. Your rationale for telling them no is that they cut you off, and now they need something from you.
2. Growing up, your parents mistreated you throughout your life and surprisingly, you didn't let it bother you. It was your parents who treated you like you weren't wanted. Outsiders treated you better than your own parents. You took that pain and turned it into motivation to better yourself. Put yourself through undergraduate and graduate school and landed a great job, debt free. You're successful by society's standards. Years later, your parents fall deathly ill and the rest of the family doesn't bother to visit them. The family gets in your ear about how you shouldn't visit them because they tell you "remember how they treated you back in the day, now they expect you to be there for them" You don't go because you know it's gonna be more of the same nonsense. You made a choice to cut toxic people out of your life and you're better for it.

If you're going to forget someone, forget them completely. Don't forget about someone, then go back to them for what you may need in the future. That's foolish, and makes you look crazy.
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Dec 24, 2014

Fighting Temptation


What seems simple to most people is difficult for others for some reason. If you're in a relationship with someone, be exclusive to them. Having a mistress/side man is not a good look for you or the other person because you're leading them on. Side pieces and mistresses are exactly why many people are hesitant to enter committed relationships because having someone on the side signals greed. You're not satisfied with one good (wo)man because you think your side piece may give you what your spouse is lacking, so in your mind you get the best of both worlds by getting 2 for 1. The downside is having to juggle spending time with your main spouse and your extra. When it comes to relationships, men & women are greedy. It's not enough to be faithful to one (wo)man, folks got to be married and cheat on the side. If you know you're not faithful, don't waste your time and someone else's double dipping. That's how folks end up on Cheaters or First 48.
In today's world & with today's generation, with so many temptations & women who don't mind being mistresses & men with the "Wife & a GF on the side" mentality, who would want to be married to anyone these days? Marriage is a joke to some people because nobody takes it seriously; so I can't blame anyone when they say they'd rather not make that commitment. When someone decides to use wisdom NOT to get married, here come comments like "you're scared of committment, something is wrong with you, etc." If committment means having to question your partner's faithfulness, I want no part of that. The marriage community can have that For Better Or Worse mindset. Myself, and other likeminded folks can swerve on all that drama (swerve means to sidestep, avoid pitfalls, etc.). Life is too short to worry about someone stepping out on you. It's better to be single and have no worries, then get married to someone and you have to question their loyalty.
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Dec 23, 2014

Men That Gossip


Once upon a time, men would tell you directly what's up. Good or bad, a man told you to your face what he thought of you and kept it moving. Those times are long gone because you have men gossiping like women about other men. That's not the code because men don't concern themselves with what other men are doing. Men keep it moving; they tend to their own affairs. A man that's on his grind doesn't have time to gossip about others because that sidetracks him from his purpose. I've had dudes gossip about me, but I could care less because I'm not what they speak about, and two, I'm not defined by what others think or feel about me even if they mean well. I appreciate well-meaning people, and those are the ones I rock with. These salt-shaking, gossiping like women dudes I have no respect for, and they have the nerve to call themselves men. If gossiping like a woman is what manhood is about, then society is in trouble. Men need to tighten up & stop gossiping like females because it doesn't look good on them. Don't let a man have the woman every guy wants, because you'll have back-ups getting in her ear about how he ain't nothing, he (the other man) can treat her better than him, etc. Depending on her loyalty, she may or may not be receptive to the gossip. I have little to no respect for men who gossip like women. If you have something to say about a man, bring it directly to him.
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Dec 22, 2014

Looks Aren't Everything


I get it, looks matter to some people. I would be lying if I said looks weren't a factor in my desire of a woman. It's understood that women want security, and men want eye candy; we know this. The problem lies in people who place TOO high a value on looks that they overlook important traits like character, honesty, Godliness, common sense, etc. Unless you're genetically blessed, no one is born looking like Beyonce or Denzel. There's constructive surgery if you want to look like those stars, but they cost major money, and very few folks could afford the kind of reconstructive surgery needed to look attractive. If I met a woman who was a 4 in looks, but made up for it with a good heart/character, great cook, shapely and loved to please her man, that would make her more than beautiful in my eyes. The difference between me & other people is that I value cooperation over eye candy.
To me, her aesthetic appeal is icing on the cake, and we all know that icing is the best part of the cake. People who let bull come out of their mouth like "Those who say looks aren't everything are probably unattractive" are just showing how stupid they sound, and that comment just showed how unattractive they are. You can be fine like Beyonce, but if you esteem yourself above others because you're prettier than them, then YOU are the ugly one. I pity those who marry for looks because as we get older, we're not going to look like we did at 30 or 40 unless some folks have really good genetics, and that's only a small segment of the population who can look younger even though they may be up in age. You want honesty? Here It Is: Shallow people disgust me. You want someone to look like Beyonce or Idris Elba when you're not attractive in someone's eyes. I'm doing research to find out where they do that at.
Why do I pity people who marry for looks? Simple. Looks will fade over time, and what will people have to sustain them in marriage? Are you going to leave an otherwise good (wo)man because (s)he lost that 8-pack, gained weight or she has stretch marks from having children? Sadly, many people do. Those are folks that had no business getting married. Last I checked, the vows mention for better or worse, sickness & health, and so on. I look at a woman's inner beauty rather than her outer appearance. A woman may be considered average-looking by society's standards, but her character, heart, Godly nature, and positive disposition will make her far more beautiful to me.
 So while I understand that looks are a factor in someone's overall attractiveness, they shouldn't be the only factor. The best packages come how you least expect it.

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Dec 19, 2014

Know Your Role: By Ms. Trina BabyTee Rogers

Trina BabyTee Rogers
13 hrs · Edited
I had a rather eye-opening conversation with a young lady whom I met through a good male friend. He asked me to talk to her about her attitude towards men. (For those who know me, I gladly obliged.) She initiated the conversation with the typical anthem of "independent woman", "I don't need a man who can't understand how important I am and value my royal essence by doing what I tell him to do!" (Sigh) I asked her if she is in a relationship now. No? Has she been in a relationship recently? Yes, bad as usual. What was the cause of the breakup? Him. In what way? He couldn't give me what I needed, Which was: Support my needs. Support how? Pay for it. She then proceeded to tell me how she can finance her own lifestyle but a man is SUPPOSED to do it. I asked her what she had accomplished so far, bachelor's degree in accounting, own home, no kids, nice car. I asked her how hard she had to work for those things. She recalled her struggle to work to pay for school, being discriminated against before finally being approved for her home and no one in her family there for her. Listened intently hoping something would click for her but it didn't, so I had to do it for her. I told her I applaud her for her tenacity and determination to achieve those accolades but why would you not give the same effort to a deserving man to have a good relationship? (Silence) Anything worth having is worth working for. You gave so much of yourself to achieve those other things why wouldn't you give that much for man? He isn't the only one who needs to put forth an effort to make it work. What you have accomplished doesn't make you caring, loving, respectful, honest, trustworthy or beautiful inside or out. A college education can't teach you how to love a man. A house doesn't mean you know how to make it a home for a man. A nice car doesn't mean you know how to make a man feel like a man. What you think about yourself is important to you, but it doesn't mean everyone else feel the same way. I would believe you don't need a man if that wasn't the first thing out of your mouth. The attitude and demeanor you display makes you unattractive to men and if you don't change it, you will be alone and end up old and bitter later in life. At this point she became thoroughly upset with me and said I don't know her or nothing about her life. I told her I didn't need to and what I said is completely based off of the information she initially gave me. I concluded with I don't believe you would be this mad if the stuff I said wasn't true. The truth hurts and it's not too late to fix it. You can say you don't need a man, but from your frustration with what I said, you damn sure want one. Just remember, the next one can't be treated like the last one. You had a part in the break up too. Men want women who know their role and can play it well!
‪#‎LIGHTNINGRODSTRIKES‬ 
‪#‎LAIDITALLOUT‬
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Dec 18, 2014

Quick Marriage


 When I hear people say they know if someone's marriage material in 6-12 months, my "Liar" meter goes off immediately because for one thing, you cannot know that fast someone's marriage material. People sound crazy when they make that statement because 6-12 months is the introductory period, that's the time where couples are getting to know each other. You're learning their likes/dislikes, their personality, and their outlook on life. You mean to tell me that you can learn ALL of that information in such a short time? I didn't fall off the turnip truck, I know better. It takes a minimum of 2 years to get to know a person, then shortly after comes engagement, then marriage. After being together for 2 years, then you speed up engagement and marriage because those 2 years of being together, you've established a foundation. A solid foundation ensures future success in relationships. A Facebook friend left an interesting comment that read (I'm going to paraphrase): It's a spiritual thing. If you have a solid prayer life, God can give you confirmation of someone being right for you. That's a real statement because when God gives confirmation of something, you know it's right for you and you won't have to 2nd guess. No sorrow will be added, no strings attached, just straight up confirmation from the Lord. Once you have confirmation, you can move forward with no worries, because you know someone's right for you because you took time to pray, and use discernment. Then & only then, can you speed up the process of marriage.

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Dec 17, 2014

Taking Your (Wo)man For Granted


A man will not go hard for a woman who takes him for granted, just like a woman won't go hard for a man who takes her for granted. Why should spouses continue showing love to unappreciative mates? Sounds stupid if you ask me because here you are doing this & that to please your spouse, and they take you for granted. It's like they EXPECT you to bless them regularly. People do nice things because they want to, not out of obligation. Some (wo)men don't have to go out of their way for their spouse, but because of their love for him/her, they go as hard for them. I hate to see mates take each other for granted. It's the selfishness that turns me off from relationships as a whole. Honestly, I see why some people become selfish because they're tired of giving to unappreciative people. After being unappreciated for so long, two things happen: 1. You become selfish or 2. You limit your giving. If couples choose to continue doing for each other even if one is being selfish, that's their issue, but it won't be mine because I'm quick to say no, even if the request is reasonable. I don't mind doing for my lady, but she better appreciate it. Just as fast as I bless her, I can easily stop all that. Spouses need to learn how to appreciate each other, because at some point people get tired of being taken advantage of. Once someone reaches their breaking point, nothing you can say will change their mind.

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Dec 16, 2014

A Private Life Is A Great Life


 I don't know about anyone else, but I value my privacy. I've been a private person for as long as I can remember, and I intend on keeping that way. I don't like many people in my business, even if they mean well. Some things I prefer to deal with on my own (with the proper exception of Jesus), and move forward. I believe if you're too open with your affairs, you can have your information used against you. There are some people who are genuinely concerned about your well-being, and there are some who pretend to be concerned just so they can have something to gossip about. How do you tell the difference? It's simple. In general, you can confide in your true friends and know their mouths won't shoot off like a rocket. The gossipers slither in like snakes and fake concern just to get your guard down. Once your guard is down, you start confiding in this person. Next thing you know, your business is all over the city. The person who confided is at fault because (s)he didn't "read" this person like they should have. (S)he should've asked themselves: Is this person going to tell my business? Any doubt of a person's confidentiality should be met with a swift no. That's how you keep yourself from being hurt, by staying low key. I've mentioned this in previous blogs, and I'll say it once more: There is such a thing as being TOO open. When you're too open, you run the risk of being hurt due to sheep in wolves clothing. Not everyone has your best interests at heart.

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Dec 15, 2014

Peter Thomas to Cynthia: REALLY?


Cynthia lost all her heart. She was so gung-ho about cutting Nene off, but she wasn't about that. Nene and Cynthia had a conversation on last night's Atlanta Housewives about their friendship, and Cynthia made the decision to cut Nene off because NeNe called Peter a b****. Cynthia was telling Peter how upset she was that Nene called her husband out of his name, how she was going to give Nene a piece of her mind, and so on. When the time came for Cynthia to confront Nene, Cynthia got that Scooby Doo like she didn't know what's going on. Cynthia was the same woman talking this & that about how Nene's a bad friend, but she threw all her heart out the window when she patched things up with Nene. They have a lot of history together, so in some strange way I can understand why both were hesitant to end their friendship. When you've been friends with someone for so long, you can't just terminate the friendship with the quickness. 
Peter went in on his woman, and with good reason. Cynthia does overlook a lot of Nene's nonsense. I don't know if Cynthia is scared of Nene because of Nene's brash, outspoken personality or what, but Cynthia does need to hold Nene accountable for getting out of order. The irony is that Cynthia went in on Porsha for being tardy, and I mean WENT IN. Porsha has said foul things about Cynthia, and Cynthia had no problem checking Porsha, so why couldn't she check Nene? Nene wouldn't tolerate Cynthia coming at her crazy like that. I can't be mad at Peter because he had a point in what he said. It's easy to say you're going to do this & that, but when it's time to put action behind your words, most people are not about what they speak on. You can talk about cutting someone off, but when the opportunity presents itself, are you going to do it?
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Dec 12, 2014

Freedom Of Religion? Yeah, Right.


Freedom Of Religion is defined as the freedom to practice one's religion through observation of religious holidays, participation in religious events, etc. If America prides itself on Freedom of Religion, then why do people get offended when Christians exercise their faith? Last time I checked, Freedom Of Religion extended to Christianity so people have no reason to get offended. Hindus, Muslims, and people of other faiths & religions can practice their religion free & clear, but let Christians celebrate Jesus, and it's a problem. It's stupid because if you come to America, you know what you're getting into. What's good for one, should be good for all. For some reason, Christianity has a bulls-eye. Christians can't mention "Jesus" without someone being slighted, yet homosexuals can push their agenda on every sector of society. Bills are being passed forcing schools to teach children about homosexuality.
I'm going to be 100 with what I'm about to say, and I don't care who's slighted. If Hindus, Muslims, and people of other religions can freely practice their religion, Christians should be able to do the same. Who cares if someone's slighted at the name of Jesus? Really, it's time out for Christians cowering at mentioning the name of Jesus. These are the same Christians that are quick to be crude & disrespectful, gossip; basically act no different than the world. America was founded on Christian values, but you'd never know it today because God has been forced out of American culture. Prayer has been taken out of schools, the 10 Commandments can't be publicly displayed, instead of saying Merry Christmas, people say Happy Holidays; and the list goes on. Considering where God has brought me from, I'm going to say Jesus every chance I get, and if someone gets slighted, who gonna check me? Matthew 10:32 MSG tells it like it is: Stand up for me against world opinion, and I'll stand up for you before My Father. If you turn tail and run, do you think I'll cover for you? 
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Dec 11, 2014

Character Over Shape


I know most men look at a woman's looks when getting to know her. Is she cute or average looking? Nothing wrong with that because as much as we don't want to admit it, looks do play a role in someone's attraction to a (wo)man. Personally, I don't place high value on a woman's looks because unlike most men, I look deep within. A woman can be gorgeous, but if her attitude reeks, then that makes her ugly in my eyes. A gorgeous woman is appealing physically, spiritually, and mentally. She's respected by her loved ones, and acquaintances. Given her reputation, if you asked 5 of her closest friends about her character, you would be listening all day because they would rattle off stories of how she has encouraged them in a time of need. Bel Biv Devoe made a song in the 80's called Poison. The concept of that song is you can never trust a shapely woman. She looks good, but looks can be deceiving. 
It's hard for me to be empathetic towards men who get jammed up with the wrong woman. Those men focus more on a woman's curves than what's in her heart. How is her character? How does she treat her loved ones in her life? Does she have common sense? Some men are scared to ask their prospective woman the hard questions because they're so worried about what her mouth does, instead of what her heart does. 
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Dec 10, 2014

Close Proximity


Anyone who knows me knows I'm a big fan of convenience. There's nothing like having what you want & need in close proximity. You won't have to go far because what you need and want is right there. For example, if you have a job then it would make sense to live close to where you work. I'll never understand folks who live on one side of town, and work on the other; that's crazy because your weekly commute time can easily exceed 45 minutes to an hour, especially in major cities and peak traffic. I cannot see living far from where I work because that means daily commutes which will eat up gas to and from work. Taking into consideration that after work, you want to go to Happy Hour at your local club, and unless your club of choice is nearby, that's an extra 15-20 minutes depending on traffic. It's something about working close to where you shop, bank, eat, live, etc that does it for me.
There's a show on HDTV that chronicles young professionals looking for residences close to their jobs. Looking at the prices, I assume these young professionals have good paying jobs because anyone familiar with the real estate market can tell you that the closer you live to shopping, work, nightlife, gym, restaurants, and other attractions, you're going to fork out some coins for convenience. You're getting what you pay for, so if you want convenience, you'll pay top dollar for it. By close proximity, I mean living no more than 5 minutes from your job, bank, restaurants, nightlife, gym, church, recreation and attractions/Points Of Interest. You can live 10 minutes from those things, but the ideal for living in close proximity is 5 minutes. The larger the city, the more opportunities abound for living in close proximity to employment and attractions based on that city's infrastructure.
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Dec 9, 2014

Happy King=Flourishing Kingdom


 A lot of folks like to say Happy Wife=Happy Life, or If Mama Isn't Happy, Nobody's Happy. Let me flip the script by saying When The KING is happy, the kingdom flourishes. The man is the head of the house, and as the head he's responsible for directing his family. At times, he must make tough decisions the family won't agree with, and that's ok. As long as his decisions benefit the family, they'll come around eventually. People need to understand the man has a major responsibility as the CEO of the family. He can't think about himself, he has to think about his wife and children before he makes every decision. A responsible leader will solicit input from their subordinates, weigh all options and then move forward. A king has to do what's best for the kingdom, and be strong enough to stand firm even if his subordinates won't agree with his decision. Not all the time are people going to agree with the king, but that's the price a king must be ready to pay. For everybody who co-signs the adage of Happy Wife, Happy Life, If Mom Isn't Happy, Nobody's Happy or any other statement, remember one thing: The King sets the tone for the entire kingdom, and unless he has a capable queen, the kingdom will not flourish like it should. If the kingdom isn't flourishing, what does that signal for the inhabitants? It can't be anything good, I can tell you that right now. Strong kings make kingdoms flourish.
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Dec 8, 2014

No Filter


I can't stand this stupid term. Everybody and their mama is saying "No Filter". Having No Filter is nothing to be proud of because some stuff you say can cause you to look stupid, so maybe people should consider having a filter. When people say No Filter, they have no discretion about what comes out of their mouth or what they do. They don't care what others think or feel, they'll lay it out there with no hesitation. Those people are attention seekers because they're trying to get notoriety by their statements. I'm going to be real, and I don't care who's slighted, I will judge any & everyone who uses this term. I'm shaking my head at them in my mind because if they only knew how dumb they sound, they would probably consider having a "filter". That's the issue with society as a whole, people have gotten comfortable with letting their mouth shoot off like a rocket. It's better to remain silent and be thought a fool, than open your mouth and remove all doubt. I know the First Amendment guarantees free speech, but in a way there's no such thing as free speech, because anything you say can and will be used against you. There's a thing called libel and slander; you can be sued for both offenses and rightfully so. You can't just say whatever you want and not expect repercussions. You tell me, is having no filter something to be proud of? I'll wait.
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Dec 5, 2014

I Want To Be Like You


Today's message is about trying to be like someone else. From an early age, most of us are taught socialization skills. Socialization skills are taught so kids can learn how to relate to others, which I can agree with to an extent, but I have a problem with trying to fit in to the point where you become a cookie-cutter version of someone else. If someone has a Maserati, you go out and get one without realizing the other person probably can afford one. If you see someone dressed to impress, you upgrade your wardrobe to compete with them, and so on. Honestly, it's a bunch of nonsense trying to do what someone else does to make yourself look cool. I would expect this from children & teens because they don't know any better for the most part. Peer acceptance is critical for children & teens because they want to be liked to the point where they end up doing detrimental things.
If a child sees his friends looking crazy, that child tries to emulate their friends because they don't want to be an outcast. If (s)he doesn't go along with their friends, (s)he risks being outed from the group, and their name is dragged through the mud. What do they do? They go along because they value peer acceptance over individuality. There are some children & teens who value their individuality to where they enjoy standing out. They could care less about peer acceptance because those same people they're trying to be like, could care less about them. It's nothing for some people to stand out because in their mind, they're staying true to themselves. Those are the people I respect because they don't need acceptance from the masses. As long as their loved ones value them, that's all the acceptance they need. For me, I'm not trying to be like anyone else. I may be inspired by others, but I'm not going out of my way to emulate them because I wouldn't feel right.
In conclusion, stop trying to fit in when you were born to stand out.
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Dec 4, 2014

God's In Control: On My Terms


The general consensus among the Christian community is that God's in control, regardless of the circumstances. When things work in our favor, God's in control. When things don't work our way, God's in control, but he has his own reasons for things not working out in your favor. All you can do is keep your faith and prayer life strong, and trust God. That's the hardest thing for anyone to do is trust God, even if we think we can figure things out.You know what: People believe God's in control, as long as God did what they asked him to. The minute God does something higher than us, we want to blame God or try and fix it ourselves. Many Christians don't know how to say "You know what Lord, I give this to you. I can't fix this situation, and I'm not going to try. Your ways are higher than mine." It baffles me that people want God to be in control on their terms.
Why do folks want God to be in control on their terms? Because people want to control God. They want to be able to dictate how God plans their life. If God has them go one way, and (s)he goes the other, they want God to co-sign. If God co-signs, then it means that God is in control. If God was in control on people's terms, God would be nothing more than a puppet; you pull its strings and it moves however you desire. What people fail to realize is that God Is Sovereign, meaning that his ways and thoughts are higher than ours. It's easy to say God's In Control, as long as God's answering every prayer. Are these same people going to believe that God's in control based on rampant injustice in this country? Believe it or not, God's in control even if we may not understad what, why, when, or how.
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Dec 3, 2014

Read vs. "Read"


 There is a difference between Read and "Read". Reading is studying material from a textbook or other source in order to obtain knowledge and understanding. "Reading" is an attack on one's credibility, and it also means to tell someone about themselves. My problem with this "reading" phenomenon is that everybody claims to be an expert at "reading" folks. It seems like everyone is quick to tell someone about themselves, but they forget one thing: The same people claiming to "read" folks are also being read themselves. No one is above being read. It's almost like pointing fingers: There's always 3 fingers pointing right back at you, so why do it? There will be times where you need to tell people about themselves, but make sure you're clear before you try to read someone. There's nothing worse than reading someone with your own skeletons. For example, the Atlanta Housewives. You have a group of outspoken, strong black women who are quick to "read" someone. Being that Nene, Phaedra, Cynthia, Kenya and Kandi have been around each other for a while, they know each other very well. They've gotten into it with each other, and each cast member has told things in confidence that were later used against them. That's why you can't tell people your business because as the adage goes in criminal justice: Anything you say, can & will be used against you. Here's an idea: While people are so busy trying to read others, perhaps they should READ themselves. The world will be a better place for it.
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Dec 1, 2014

Low Key

Living low key keeps you out of so much drama because no one can tie your name to any mess. "Richard knows what happened, he was there." Unless it involves my loved ones, I live as low key as possible because not only does it benefit me, but my loved ones as well. My loved ones do not partake in my issue(s) unless I request their assistance, but even then I can take care of most things on my own. I've been following the drama on Atlanta Housewives for a while, and the term "low key" comes to mind. The ladies fake & front like they're so close, when we all know that's a lie. For a group of women to be so close, they're constantly at each other's throats. Then again, it's said that many women can't get along with each other, so I'm not surprised. If a person's low key, they don't have to worry about this nonsense because they can sit back and observe. If someone's about drama,  swerve on them! There's one problem with being low-key, some people will mistake that as being stuck-up, when that's not the case. I like to think most people have a low tolerance for drama, and act accordingly. If you don't like something, why place yourself in that environment? Makes no sense at all. If living low key makes one seem arrogant, that's fine. Wear that with pride because that means you're doing something right. It's better to live low key and drama free, than be social and get jammed up.
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