Jul 18, 2012

Relationship Pride

The #1 reason why most relationships fail is pride. Both parties are too busy trying to be right instead of understanding the other person's viewpoint. There is a time to confront and a time to fall back. You can't be in battle/CIA mode all the time because it gets old. People want the freedom to be themselves without having to walk on eggshells. Some things people need to be called on but if it's not that serious, let it go. When two people come together as one, they bring their own outlook(s) into the relationship. They won't agree 24-7 but a couple should have some mutual understanding of what they will & won't tolerate. This keeps order in the relationship so it won't degenerate into a free-for-all. Nobody wants to be with someone that feels like they always have to get the last word, can never admit fault. They would leave him/her and so would I. I've got pride just as much as the next person but I know when to fall back, especially if I have a strong case and the person refuses to hear my side. Nothing much you can do except state your case and move on. Why waste time trying to plead your side to a person that's set in their ways? That energy would be better spent towards a noble cause. Pride is also a major factor in relationship disagreements because the man has his agenda for how the relationship should work and the woman has hers. Both should be able to have a civil discussion about expectations and if an agreement can't be reached, maybe it's best if the couple split because there's bound to be constant friction. Is it too much to overlook an offense if it's not hurting the relationship? I don't think so. Don't sweat the small stuff if it's not going to endanger the relationship. I also feel if you don't tighten up on small issues, they can become big issues that are too much to handle.

Wednesday Measage: Be Careful How You Treat God’s People

  We're living in times where reaping what you sow is coming faster than ever. You better be careful of how you treat God's people!!