I Want To Be Like Nicki Minaj

 

Nojma Reflects

February 19

So...this picture was emailed to me, and supposedly this is supposed to be the "new" Barbie Doll, though at this moment, I don't think that has been confirmed by Mattel. At any rate, the message attached to the email was that, I was the "perfect person" to declare and express my outrage at the depiction of Black Women that is negatively represented by this doll.

Sorry to disappoint you, but I am NOT outraged. A depiction is a "representation" and unfortunately this doll represents how some Black Women see themselves. I can name two public Black Women right off the top of my head, Lil Kim and Nicki Minaj. In fact, Nicki calls her fans Barbz and she calls herself the "Black Barbie Doll" and has taken several pictures wearing a blond weave and blue eyes.

Nicki also has a huge fan base that is not only limited to young girls, but grown women as well. So we have grown women calling themselves Barbz, and are imitating a woman that wants to be known as a plastic mold, hence the fake hair, eyes and things of  that nature.

I can also walk out of my house, into any store, mall or bank or wherever I go and see a Black Woman almost dressed identical to the doll, so why should I be outraged at what is a very accurate representation of some Black Women?

Whenever I write an article, the first and most consistent rebuttal of deflection is "well not all Black Women act like that", and I keep telling you that is irrelevant. There are ENOUGH Black Women that don't recognize the beauty of their skin, regardless of the tone, that don't recognize the beauty of their hair, regardless of the texture, that don't recognize the beauty, power and protection that comes with modesty, that don't appreciate the beauty of their own eyes, so they get blue contacts, or contacts to make their eyes lighter, because we still are digesting the inferiority complex that has been fed to us, and we still suffer from self hatred, so the doll represents an accurate portrayal of the percentage of Black Women that still suffer from all of the above.

If this image upsets you, then instead of looking at the Maker of the doll, maybe you should look at the MUSE.

 

My View: Some people want to emulate their favorite celebrity, but some black women take it TOO FAR. Dressing up to the T like Nicki Minaj, really? Whatever happened to being comfortable in your own skin? Nicki Minaj is just a puppet for the record industry; she's paid to dress like a Barbie just so young girls and grown women can gobble it up. The sad thing is that this doll is more authentic than many real life clowns. It's hilarious some women would want to emulate a doll! That's almost as ridiculous as some men emulating Diddy, Rick Ross, Jay-Z or Michael Jordan. I'm comfortable in my own skin, always have & will be. Don't get me wrong, I admire everyone who has paid their dues to get where they're at in life, but make sure you stay true to who you are. Somewhere down the line, class & style will have to come into play.

Pimp Confessions

It's a true story! What comes to mind first, the church, the women or the men?

*** LADIES BEWARE OF NEW MEN IN CHURCH ***......

CONFESSIONS OF A PIMP

I WAS TALKING ONE DAY TO A OLD SCHOOL PIMP.
HE BEGAN TO TELL ME HOW HE WAS ABLE TO PULL MANY WOMEN RIGHT OUT THE CHURCH AND USE THEM FOR HIS PERSONAL GAIN.
I THOUGH ABOUT ALL THAT HE SAID AND I WANTED TO SHARE THIS WITH MY SISTERS IN THE LORD .
MY SISTERS BE AWARE THERE ARE MANY OTHERS OUT THERE WITH THE SAME MENTALITY AS THIS OLD SCHOOL PIMP.

HERE IN DETAIL IS THE PLAN HE SHARED WITH ME.

I KNEW THAT THE MAJORITY OF WOMEN IN CHURCH WERE THERE BECAUSE THE CHURCH WAS THE LAST RESORT FOR THEM. THEY HAVE BEEN BEAT UP , DOGGED , AND BROKEN BY LIFE AND BY MEN. THE CHURCH IS THE ONLY PLACE OF SAFETY MANY OF THEM KNOW.

KNOWING THIS I WOULD DRIVE AROUND ON SUNDAY MORNINGS LOOKING FOR A CHURCH WITH A SMALL TO MEDIUM SIZED CONGREGATION.

I WOULD WAIT UNTIL I WAS SURE SERVICE HAD ALREADY STARTED, THEN QUIETLY SLIP IN AND SIT AS CLOSE TO THE BACKDOOR AS POSSIBLE.

I WOULD SHOW NO EMOTION BUT WOULD LOOK AS IF I AM INTERESTED IN WHAT THE PREACHER WAS SAYING.

WHEN OFFERING TIME CAME I WOULD UNFOLD MY MONEY AND WALK DOWN THE ISLE MAKING SURE MY $100.00 BILL WAS SEEN .

WHEN CHURCH WAS OVER I WOULD LEAVE IMMEDIATELY WITHOUT SHAKING ANY HANDS, OR SPEAKING TO ANYONE.

THIS ONE TACTIC WOULD AROUSE THE SINGLE WOMEN CURIOSITY.

NOW THEY ARE THINKING " WHO WAS THE GUY THAT CAME IN?"

THE NEXT SUNDAY I WOULD GO BACK AND REPEAT THE SAME ROUTINE BUT WHEN CHURCH IS OVER I HANG AROUND WAITING.

WHAT AM I WAITING FOR, I AM WAITING ON THAT ONE WOMAN WHO WILL START A CONVERSATION AND GIVE ME CERTAIN SIGNS.

WHEN SHE SHAKES MY HAND HOW DOES SHE DO IT? WILL SHE SHAKE MY HAND AND IMMEDIATELY REMOVE HERS...
 

OR

WILL SHE ALLOW ME TO HOLD ON TO HER HAND AND START CONVERSATION?

DOES SHE SMILE WHILE LOOKING ME IN MY EYES?

DOES SHE BAT HER EYELASHES, WHILE SMILING?

DOES SHE CONSTANTLY MOVE , OR FOCUS ON MY EYES AS WE MAKE CASUAL CONVERSATION?

NOW THIS CAN TAKE LESS THAN A MINUTE BUT FROM THAT SMALL MINUTE I CAN TELL IF SHE IS GOOD TO GO.

AFTER CASUAL CONVERSATION I LEAVE MAKING A NOTE OF HOW SHE LOOK AND NEXT WEEK I AM NOW LOOKING FOR HER.

THE NEXT SUNDAY I RETURN, WAIT UNTIL SERVICE IS OVER AND THEN I WALK DIRECTLY TO HER. I MUST MAKE SURE THAT ALL THE OTHER WOMEN SEE THIS . I WANT HER TO FEEL SPECIAL LIKE SHE IS THE ONLY PERSON IN THE WORLD AT THIS MOMENT.

I SHAKE HER HAND, AND HOLD ON TO IT FOR A BRIEF MOMENT. THEN THE COMPLIMENTS COME.
I MUST ASK HER " DID YOU DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT WITH YOUR HAIR, YOU LOOK GREAT TODAY"
HERE IS THE BIG ONE THAT WORKS ALMOST EVERY TIME.

CAN YOU TAKE ME TO MEET PASTOR?

SHE IS NOW COMFORTABLE WITH ME AND SHE IS READY TO TAKE ME TO MEET THE PASTOR OF THE CHURCH.

SHE INTRODUCES ME, AND I COMPLIMENT THE PASTOR ON HOW MUCH HIS SERMONS HAVE HELPED ME.
HE SHAKES MY HAND AND ASKS, "DO YOU HAVE A CHURCH HOME?"
I WILL REPLY WHILE LOOKING AT THE WOMAN............." NO I DON'T BUT I BELIEVE THE LORD HAS DIRECTED ME HERE" I AM SAYING THIS WHILE NEVER TAKING MY EYES OFF HER.

NOW EVERYONE THINKS, HE HAS FALLEN IN LOVE WITH HER......THANK YOU JESUS GOD HAS SENT HER A HUSBAND.

THIS IS ALL PART OF THE PLAN. ITS PART OF THE GAME.

I GET HER PHONE NUMBER, CALL HER UP BECAUSE THERE ARE THINGS ABOUT THE WORD OF GOD I DON'T UNDERSTAND. GET A DINNER DATE TO DISCUSS SCRIPTURE, AND WINE AND DINE HER AND TREAT HER LIKE A QUEEN.

AFTER ABOUT A MONTH OR TWO WE ARE HAVING SEX, YET SHE IS STILL ACTIVE IN THE CHURCH. WE ARE SLEEPING TOGETHER AT HER HOUSE AND SOMETIMES AT MY HOUSE.

I STOP GOING TO CHURCH BUT SEND MY OFFERING AND SOON I WILL CONVINCE HER TO STAY AT HOME WITH ME ONE SUNDAY KNOWING IF SHE MISSES ONE SUNDAY IT WILL BE EASY TO MISS ANOTHER ONE.

SOON THE ABUSE WILL START, AND AFTER THE ABUSE I GET INSIDE HER HEAD. I BREAK HER DOWN MENTALLY UNTIL SHE FEELS THAT SHE IS NOTHING AND UGLY AND WORTHLESS, AND I AM THE ONLY SALVATION FOR HER.

NOW IS THE TIME TO PUT HER TO WORK WHICH IS EASY.

I DRUG HER MAKE HER DEPENDENT ON ME AS THE SUPPLIER OF HER HIGH AND SHE IS NOW ON THE STROLL MAKING DADDY'S MONEY. WHATEVER I PUT INTO THIS INVESTMENT I GET BACK TEN FOLD. EASY MONEY!!

 

 

My View: Some men are predators so if it takes going to church to find their prey, that's what they do. If he had any sense, he would become a pastor; more money and women. He has a flock full of women he can guilt out of money. "Counseling Session" is a fancy way of showing her some attention so he can get up in it.

How To Get A Good Man: Trina Rogers

Trina BabyTee Rogers

How can women be mad at men who treat them like crap when they walk around in life looking and acting like $%#@? They have no respect for themselves, they don't know how to treat a good man, they have more kids than they have bedrooms, they can be heard over the music at a club, they lie, cheat and steal their way through every day of their life but have the nerve to EXPECT God to bless them with a good man. Many of them wouldn't recognize a good man if he came in a FedEx package. Good men are everywhere, but women's definition of one is seriously distorted. A good man isn't defined by money or material things or even looks. Loads of money doesn't make him intelligent, material things won't make him treat you like a Queen, and good looks won't keep him from smacking the mess out of a woman. How they treat themselves is how he will treat her. The characteristics women look for cause them to be blind to the truth and settle for what they have been told will make them happy. Being told, "Get a cute man with money so you won't have to worry about anything!" That kind of thinking has brought us Basketball Wives and Love and Hip Hop, and we see how happy those women are. What women display to the public is what they attract. If she consistently goes to the clubs, half-dressed, can't carry on a decent conversation and offering booty, don't get mad when you go home with the guy looking for nothing more than sex. They will always get back what they put out. When women embrace despicable actions, they can no longer place the blame on men and their reactions. Wanting better is not, I repeat NOT, wanting a man to do all the work in a relationship while she continues to be a trifling, low-life, disrespectful, mattress tester. The men are not the problem. Never have been. Men deserve a woman who knows her place in life, in a relationship, and in the home. If they don't know what their place is, they need to change the environment, friends and especially attitude. When women decide to change the inner mentality, the outward persona becomes captivating, and they open their minds and lives to the best things life has to offer. EVERYTHING THEIR HEARTS DESIRE!

 

My View: Ms. Trina Rogers has mastered the art of how to attract & keep a man. I wish her the best in her relationship because she's a great woman. There aren't too many good ones like Ms. Trina. That being said, many women expect a man to give them the world when they don't have a passport. Most men have no problem pampering a good woman, BUT she must be worthy. A real man will never wine & dine a woman that's not worthy. What sense does it make to give gold to a bronze lady? That's silly. A Tier 1 man will always seek out a Tier 1 woman.



One Mistake=Eternal Punishment

 

Pretty self-explanatory if you ask me. Nobody is perfect except Jesus. The Bible does say let he who is without sin cast the first stone...I thought so *everyone drops stones*. Nobody can say they haven't made one mistake because if they do, their first mistake is lying. We live in an imperfect world, so it's a given you will be hurt (intentionally or unintentionally). You can choose to overlook their mistake or stew over them doing you wrong. I've arrived to a point where I could care less if people hurt me intentionally, because they will be accountable to God at Judgment Day. Besides, they're keeping it moving; not knowing or caring about you being hurt by them. Some people have no conscience so that's why it's easy for them to mistreat people and act any kind of way. If someone is overall good to you and others around them, they do deserve a pass especially if they mean well. With people being flawed, the only person you can depend on is Jesus because unlike people, he will never fail you. He boasts an undefeated record. Everyone would be perfect in an ideal world, but such is not life. Only thing folks can do is focus on the good & not bad. If I've had more good times than bad with a person, I couldn't see myself writing someone off because they made bad choices. I would teach them and ensure that I'll have their back, as they do better next time. The most well-meaning people aren't immune to bad choices; it happens to the best of us.

 

The Mess I Don't Like

Greg Cross: One thing I cannot stand about my race, is the fact that no matter how screwed up we are, those with common sense & does not want to join the ignorant clan better not say nothing! The sad part is, that blacks are quick to ridicule other blacks for wanting to act like civilians calling them sellouts, Uncle Toms, wannabe whites, & so many other stupid mess to the point to where I want to tell those lames to SHUT UP! You want to continue acting like a slave, be my guest. But if you want to live like a civilian & have the lifestyle of a free man, then stop ridiculing blacks who want more for themselves.

Let me get this straight, civilized blacks aren't supposed to say nothing when they see the ignorant clan running amok? That's flaw. While I do believe that people have free will to do as they please, I also feel that the actions of a few dictate how the majority is viewed. It's not right, but that's what happens. Some blacks are quick to clown other blacks that want better for themselves, and won't go along with the pattern of self-destruction. I've heard it all before: Sell out, Uncle Tom, white, etc. The funny thing is, the sensible blacks that were ridiculed for doing good in school and staying out of trouble have the last laugh because THEY go on doing big things in life. They're enjoying life while the blacks who ridiculed them aren't about nothing. Many of those blacks are dropouts, in trouble with the law and complaining about not being able to find work because nobody will hire them. Newsflash Genius: If you did the work and stayed out of trouble, you could've joined the ranks of law-abiding, productive blacks but noooo...you wanted to rip & run the streets, tell education to go to hell and sass your parents and other elders. I shouldn't be surprised because Isaiah 5:20 states "Woe to those who call evil good & good evil." When you take a stand against foolery, you should expect opposition from those who want to keep ratchetness alive. When someone is used to getting their way, they can't handle another person standing up to them. It's best to check nonsense before it festers. When some blacks choose to engage in ignorant, buffoonish behavior, it makes the entire race look bad. There's a saying that I live by: One person can & will mess it up for everybody.

Men Need Encouragement, Too

The inspiration from this blog came from a Facebook friend Tee Wallbanger. He asked the following question in No Nonsense (which is a group of likeminded individuals that take a stand against ratchet ideologies & mindsets):

What could be done to motivate and encourage more black males to be more upstanding, righteous, Godly, militant for justice, intelligence, logic & peace that have succumb to being feminist slaves & supporters, simps, P-thugs(thugs for vagina), and P-hounds and bred to be so for generations.... Without having them stifled, debilitated, discharged or shut down when they think about all of the pretty & attractive female sexual attention, activity & possibilities of sex with such females they will be missing out on if they try to stay the course, and the ridicule, bullying, violence & alienation they would have to endure from their own family/relatives & people?

 

My Response: Great question. It starts with security. A man that's secure in his manhood doesn't have to engage in wreckless behavior to prove he's a "real" man. He's an upstanding brother so that's good enough for him. Men taking a stand for righteousness regardless of who's slighted and last but not least, STOP SIMPING. Stop powdering every woman's behind for no reason. It's not a good look. In the process of repairing, one must realize the error of their ways, so they will not continue being spanked by life.



Black Christians Can Do No Wrong!

 

This is one of the reasons why atheists have a good argument against Christians. At least an atheist makes it clear that they don't believe in God, whereas some Christians, it's unclear why they believe in God. if you are not living a righteous life, then the word "hypocrite" should not be in your vocabulary. To call someone a hypocrite when you know you are not living up to God's standards makes the namer, not the named, the hypocrite. Only righteous people can rightly use the word hypocrite. Only Jesus called others hypocrites, not even his enemies called him a hypocrite. Never fear being called a hypocrite by the wicked. To set someone on fire is callous, cruel and I bet you that if you would do that to them or attempt, they die from fright. Remember, people who inflict pain cannot take it. Here's where Tommy starts preaching: How can you love GOD WHEN YOU AIN'T FAITHFUL TO HIM BUT EXPECT YOUR BOYFRIEND TO BE FAITHFUL TO YOU! That's malarky to me. Most, if not everything Tommy has stated about black Christians is spot on: Quick to hoop & holler for the Lord, but disrespect someone and cuss them out if they call you on your hypocrisy. You're proving them right! Christians are flawed, YES, but at what point do you (wo)man up and make the proper adjustment(s)? Many Black Christians hide behind "Only God Can Judge Me" or "All have sinned and fallen short of God's glory". It's true, BUT...that doesn't absolve you of simple respect for others and yourself. When you do wrong, don't throw God in the mix and expect to have others co-sign your foolishness.