Valuing Your Mate

A man cannot be serious about valuing a woman if he doesn't care about what she values, and vice versa.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) June 12, 2015

 Ask anyone who's found their mate how they found him/her, and they'll tell you the following: They valued what's important to them. It's simple logic: In order to find your mate, not only do you have to know yourself and what you're looking for, but you also have to value what's important to them. For example: If a woman values her relationship with Jesus, and she's looking for a good man, it would behoove him to have a solid relationship with God, and by that I mean: Consistent prayer life, active in church, faithful in giving, godly character, etc. Of course, the woman will be the person she wants, because otherwise she would look crazy desiring something that she doesn't have. From a man's point of view: A lot of men are looking for a good woman to build with, someone who would be a great mother to his children, so it would behoove her to exemplify a nurturing spirit. I don't mean doing wifely duties while courting, I'm talking about observing her interact with her young nieces and nephews. How a woman interacts with young children will say a lot about her ability to care for children of her own. The fact is if someone wants to find their dream (wo)man, it would be wise if they pay attention to him/her. Get to know him or her, find out what (s)he likes, what makes him/her happy, what are their dreams, etc. Now, this won't work unless someone is really into a person. You're only wasting your time and theirs if you're faking like you're feeling someone, when you're really not. While you're toying with someone, you and him/her could be moving onto someone who's really interested in you, and isn't afraid to show it.