You have women who can't get committment from their men to save their lives, and she pulls this. The next time I read a Facebook post about how men have committment issues, I'm showcasing this Strawberry Letter along with my response. People must realize that women & men have committment issues. Let the world tell it; men are afraid of committment. Looking at this letter, I can't tell because if all the men she's dated were so "good", why is she shook by marriage? Lots of reasons: She's not ready for marriage, she's afraid of failing as a wife, she has some maturing to do, etc. Marriage is nothing to be played with. You're making vows to that (wo)man and God to be there for each other in sickness & health, rich & poor, etc. Best case scenario, she's not ready for marriage and decides to take time to figure out who she is and what she wants. She won't be a statistic as an unwed mother because she followed her discernment. She won't waste years with someone who's not right for her.
Worst case scenario, she gets married and has children with the wrong person. Years later, she realizes she married the wrong man. The end result is a lengthy custody battle, divorce & alimony, child support payments, etc. Most of all, she'd be another baby mama & there's far too many OOW mothers in the black community. She wants marriage & children, but when the opportunity presents itself, she chickens out and calls the wedding off two days before the ceremony. I don't blame her parents and friends for being agitated towards her, because I'm sure they've told her many times to make up her mind. She needs to make up her mind: Either she's about that married life, or she's not. No sense in wasting her & the other men's time. If she had good discernment, she would know who's the right man for her and she'd have no hesitation about marriage. She must be a top-notch woman if she's been engaged 18 times. Some women are lucky to make it to engagement. My hope is that she learns to be sure of her desire for marriage.
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