This photo makes me sick because this man is trying too hard to get a greeting from this woman with an attitude. If you speak to her, and she won't speak back...keep it moving. Thank goodness I'm not hard up for a woman speaking to me. If she speaks to me, I speak back and keep moving. If not, oh well. Maybe she's got a lot on her mind, maybe she doesn't feel like talking, or as this picture states: Some black men have made her mad, and she's taking it out on him. I don't have time to force a greeting out of a woman, or anyone for that matter. 9 times out of 10, I'm going on about my day so I'll do a quick hi and ride out. It's not that serious for a man to go out of his way to make a woman acknowledge him. This picture goes into simp territory.
Contrary to what this picture states, many men DON'T want to "holla", they just want to speak to a woman and keep going. It's considered rude to ignore someone's greeting to you, so maybe he has a point. The "I Love You" comment was a bit much because they don't know each other, so why would he tell her he loves her? I love you is what couples tell each other and their children, extended & immediate family, etc. The thirst is critical for this man because there's no telling the lengths he will go to get her to acknowledge his greeting. These men need to tighten up, and stop fishing for greetings from women. A man's day should not be dictated by a woman's greeting. If she wants to act stupid, that's her problem. You cannot make others' problems, your problems.
As far as I'm concerned, she could be turned off by his constant attempts at getting her to speak. Most women will speak when spoken to. In the event that someone doesn't speak, chalk it up to them having a lot on their mind. I think of this man as someone who likes to make a woman happy. He wants to know what's on her mind, and won't stop until she opens up.
I think the pic is a bit of an exaggeration because a man has said this to a woman....never! It was probably written by a woman. I think the deeper meaning behind the post is saying that black men want to be understanding and supportive of black women. You are correct that sometimes women do not speak because they are preoccupied with their own thoughts or perhaps she is just having a bad moment. Some women have had a bad experience as a result of speaking to a strange man and they no longer speak. And some are just biatches. I wrote a blog piece about this very issue and while many men may not want to really holla, I am willing to bet that an attractive woman gets more "hellos" in a give day than a not so attractive woman. Nothing is wrong with making a woman happy. I think most men do want to make their woman happy and sometimes that does mean getting her to share what's on her mind. A man can do this and not come across as a "simp". It's a delicate balance. You have to know how to have a commanding presence yet not be a pushover. Oh, and by the way, you can have love for a fellow man/woman. I don't think he's speaking of the kind of love you have for your family, children or spouse.
ReplyDeleteExcellent response violet. Who really has time to dwell over not being spoken to? Really. At least he gave her the time of the day, which is more than most men would've done.
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