Mar 19, 2013

Why Do Men Delay Marriage?

Why Do Men Delay Marriage?

Studies show men delay marriage because women provide domestic comforts without men having to make real commitments.

1. They can get sex without marriage more easily than in times past.

2. They can enjoy the benefits of having a wife without the commitment of marriage.

3. They want to avoid divorce and its financial risks.

4. They want to wait until they are older to have children.

5. They fear that marriage will require too many changes and compromises.

6. They are waiting for the perfect soul mate and she hasn't appeared yet.

7. They face few social pressures to marry.

8. They are reluctant to marry a woman who already has children.

9. They want to own a house before they get a wife.

10. They want to enjoy single life for as long as possible.

The source is Wedded Bliss
 
MY VIEW: All of these are spot on as to why men delay marriage or don't marry at all. Let's be honest, there isn't much benefit to a man getting married that he cannot get outside the marriage. Some men used to get married for sexual reasons, but they can get that elsewhere or they could already be sexing their woman, so what's the point of marriage? 3 and 5 are on point because with the divorce rate being 50% for first marriages, why become a statistic if you don't have to? That's silly. 70% of divorces are filed by women, so that tells you women don't value marriage either. Going through a divorce, alimony and child support laws are slighted towards the woman, so 9 times out of 10, the courts rule in favor of the woman. She gets half of everything even though she came into the relationship with nothing. More and more men are detouring some women, meaning they get to know her, and red flags about her character cause him to pump his brakes to go elsewhere. Marriage DOES require compromise & change, something many men refuse to do. Some men want it to be all about them, but it's not, nor should it be. I will admit that some men do more than their fair share of compromise, because a woman's favorite phrase is "A happy wife, is a happy life" That seems to work every time a man puts his foot down. Over time, he begins to feel used and on a fateful day, he lets her have it because he's tired of doing all the work, he's tired of going above and beyond for someone who won't reciprocate. Having said all that, men are realizing that in the long run, marriage doesn't benefit them because the selection of quality women is poo. Many men think like this: If the bad outweighs the good, why get married when you will have more headaches than sunny days? A man's peace of mind is valuable to him (as it should be), and no woman is going to threaten that.


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