Jan 4, 2013

The Importance Of Marriage

Why is marriage important? I've thought about this for the longest and have come up with a variety of answers. Aside from the financial & legal benefits, is there any benefit to marriage? Sure, you have companionship and someone to be there for you in the good & bad times but most people can't give concrete information as to why marriage is important. I was having great conversation with a Facebook friend and she informed me that those who are likely to be selected for upper management are married folks. In their eyes, married people are more responsible & stable so they can handle the responsibilities of being in an upper management position. I don't think it's fair to assume that married people are better suited for upper management because you have single people who have their stuff together. If anything, I think single people would be better suited for upper management because singles don't have any demands on their time, and they are able to devote most of their day to their position. When you're married, you have to balance work & family. A single person doesn't have to worry about it because their main focus is the job. Granted, singles have a life outside the job (as they should) but overall, they don't have any responsibility to others like a married person. Your spouse is going to want you to spend more time with them and your job may require you to put in extra time towards a project and that's where it gets tricky. To say that married people are better suited for upper management is ridiculous; like to say that married couples are more responsible & stable than singles. Besides, how many married couples are TRULY happy? There are some couples that front like their happy but deep down, they are beating down the door to get out of their situation. Singles don't have to deal with the ups & downs of married life (spouse acting stupid, kids health issues, etc.).  Here are some statistics according to http://www.divorcestatistics.org
Marriage Divorce statistics (in percent)
First Marriage 45% to 50% marriages end in divorce
Second Marriage 60% to 67% marriages end in divorce
Third Marriage 70% to 73% marriages end in divorce

Looking at those statistics, they confirm my belief that marriage is dead. The more you get married, the higher the likelihood of divorce. Many times, people who don't have the willpower to make the first marriage work normally don't have the willpower to make any subsequent marriages work. I'm willing to bet that these are the big reasons why some first time marriages fail and most 2nd and 3rd marriages fail even more: They weren't over their first marriage and rushed into the second.
Didn't learn from their first marriage and repeated the same mistakes.
Blending families can be the hardest job as a parent, and it puts tremendous strain on a couple.
Some people realize they lived through one divorce and aren't so afraid on another.

Last but not least, most people are afraid to be alone, which could be a major factor as to why some people want to be married.



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