Apr 2, 2012

Relationship Accountability

Accountability is a part of life, whether we like it or not. We're accountable to God, above all else but we're also accountable to certain people in our lives. Employees are accountable to management, husbands accountable to wives and vice versa. As much as we'd like no accountability in this world, it wasn't designed that way. When you're in a relationship, you have to sacrifice a certain amount of freedom or otherwise the relationship won't succeed. The problem with relationships is that couples want the freedom to rip & run like there's no tomorrow. They don't want to settle down because that means having enough respect for their mate to cease detrimental behaviors. I understand not wanting a controlling man/woman but if you care for someone like you say, you will respect them enough to cease & desist on detrimental behaviors. If that person leaves you because you lay down the law, they did you a favor. They showed you their true colors so you're better off without them. Case in point: A husband comes home at 2am during the week and his wife interrogates him on his whereabouts: Is that her right? It depends on the reason. If he legitmately had to work, yes but he should call to inform the misses that he will be home late. This way, she won't worry. If he comes home at 2am during the week because he was hanging with the fellas, then yes she does have a right to question him. There's nothing for one to do in a city that warrants staying out into the wee hours of the morning. Relationships involve give & take. There are couples that don't check in with each other because they don't see a need. As long as they come home to each other, that's all that matters. Those kind of relationships are based on trust, which I can respect. If you trust your man/woman to come home to you then what's the point of checking in?

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  1. For me, it was never about checking in per se. It was about knowing that he was ok. That was paramount to me. It is a cruel thing to make someone you say you love live in temporary fear for your safety. Each relationship will be different. I for one am not going to be in a relationship until I want to be accountable to that person. I want them to know I'm fine, if I'm going to be late, or that things changed some; whatever the case may be.

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    2. I can respect that. When a woman requests her man's whereabouts, it's because she's concerned for his welfare; it may not be from a controlling aspect. The same applies for a man wanting to be sure his woman is alright.

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