May 18, 2015

Growing Apart From Those Who Don't Grow


You will grow apart from those who don't grow. Why is that? Because if you & your associate, friend, acquaintance, significant other, etc are going in opposite directions, there's no chance for a successful relationship. In order to have unity, both parties must be on one accord. That's not to say they will co-sign each other on everything, but their similarities should far outweigh their differences. Trying to grow together with someone you have little in common with is like swimming against the current: You're strong enough to do it, but why would you? You're wasting your energy, and eventually you'll become weary. The older someone gets, the more meaningful their relationships should be. Nobody should waste time trying to grow with those who are growing apart; I know I don't. I used to force some relationships to work because I didn't want to be alone, but as I got older I've learned to embrace my solitude. I don't have many friends, but the ones I do have are true riders. We can go days, weeks or months without talking, and come together like it's nothing. At my current stage, I have no problem growing apart from those who don't grow.
I don't know why some people are scared to grow apart. It's like they're scared to be alone so they force some relationships to work that are temporary. Listen, not everyone is meant to be in your life forever. Some people come into your life for a season & a lifetime. It's important to know the difference, so let me break it down: Seasonal folks are those you hit it off with immediately. You feel like you've known them your whole life, and it's so far so good. You think these people are with you for the long haul until you two discover you're more different than alike. Your outlooks aren't the same, nor is your life trajectory. Through no fault of each other, the relationship comes to an end. Lifetime folks are those people who you hit it off with immediately, but with one difference: These are people who have your back from start to finish. They don't want anything from you, just your friendship & loyalty. You know these people are for you because you can't go a day without chatting with them. You rejoice & grieve with them. You two have the same trajectory & outlook on life. If you're smart, you'll grow together with those who are growing.
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May 17, 2015

Foolish Woman Vs. Wise Woman

Foolish women look at a man's ride; smart women look at a man's drive. If I asked a woman what's the first thing she looks for in a man, she would tell me that he has to have a nice car. In her mind, she can tell a lot about a man by the kind of car he drives. He could be well to do, but he's not into luxury items. Because some women can't see past the outer, they assume he's broke; he has no hustle & won't give him the time of day. The guy with the Rolls Royce would get looks from all the women because to them, the Rolls Royce signals success. Some women like to see tangible evidence of men with their stuff together. Going back to the other guy, he has the same good job as the man with the Rolls Royce, but he believes in living below his means. He feels that he will attract the wrong women if he decides to upgrade, so he dumbs down his prosperity. When you're getting to know someone, you have to give them doses of you because not everyone can handle everything that comes with you. At the same time, if you're blessed, there's nothing wrong with voicing it, as long as it's to inspire someone. Use discernment in who you allow to be in your life, and you should be fine. The wise woman sees a man hustling for a better way and wants to be with him. She believes in him so much that she wants to be instrumental in his success. That's the woman that will sit on the mountain with him because she saw his grind, and elevated it.
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May 16, 2015

Kenya Moore's Fake Marriage


Two weeks ago, Kenya Moore went on Millionaire Matchmaker to find love. All was well, or so we thought. Her so-called boyfriend James Freeman is getting lit up on social media because led Kenya on. First off, these matchmaking shows are booboo because how many folks actually find love? A small percentage. Those matchmaking shows are rigged to where contestants fail at finding true love, so they can get their 15 minutes of fame. My thing is, why lead someone on? If you're married, admit it. The worst thing that could happen is the person leaves you because by right, they shouldn't be involved with a married man. James & Jamie used Kenya because she's a hot commodity. Since she's been an RHOA cast member since Season 5, her name is back in the spotlight, so irrelevant folks are trying to use Kenya to come up. If you're proud of being married, you should have no problem showcasing it to loved ones & friends. Notice how James had NO ring or marriage documents, which leads me to believe this fake marriage was a sham from the jump. I feel bad for Kenya because she was lied to, but obviously she's not bothered by it because according to Ms. Moore, God's got the right person for her. In conclusion: I'm sick of this; Haven't they humiliated this woman enough? What's really the problem they have with her? Nothing but jealousy because this is just too much. They need to leave this woman alone. Don't they see she will not fall nor fail? Damn, let it go because jealousy is an #UGLY trait..My goodness. 
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May 15, 2015

140 Characters Of Realness
















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May 14, 2015

Pressure Busts Pipes

When you're a private person, you should be cautious of who you open up to, because what you say can & will be used against you. The issue is when someone genuine comes along who wants to put you at ease, and you refuse to open up because you think they can't handle the results. That pressure builds up for so long until that pipe bursts, meaning you finally open up because they aren't going to let it go.
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May 12, 2015

A Rose Is Still A Rose: Wonderful Watson


       
"A rose is still a rose." This was the response of a young lady in reference to a discussion regarding the loss of virginity correlated with public perception. I found her comment interesting because in her mind, her worth to her future husband will not be affected because of her sexual encounters prior to marriage.
I reminded her of this indisputable fact. Fresh roses are preferred over wilted ones. Compare the reactions of people who receive fresh roses compared to people who receive wilted ones. Yes, a rose is still a rose regardless of its condition.
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May 11, 2015

Real Housewives Of Atlanta: Game Recognize Game




Last night on Pt. 3 of RHOA Reunion, Nene breaks out the fake tears. I'm not trying to be cold, but Nene is full of crap, and let me explain why: Since Nene first joined RHOA, she bullied just about everyone of her cast mates except for a couple: Sheree and Claudia Jordan. Nene has gotten into it with Kim, Phaedra, Kandi, Cynthia, Kenya, Sheree, and Claudia Jordan. Sheesh! She's gotten into it with everyone of her co-stars. Common sense tells me that if someone is always getting into it with various people, the problem lies with THAT PERSON. The common denominator in all of Nene's conflicts have been HER. Why? She calls herself HBIC, Rich *&%$#, and many other monikers. In other words, she's smelling herself. When the 3-part RHOA reunion took place, every one of the cast mates let loose on Nene; they held nothing back & rightfully so. Nene has hurt alienated a lot of people with her nasty treatment towards them, until: She plays the victim. That's right, Nene broke out the fake tears on RHOA Reunion Pt. 3.

Nene started talking about her parents, and how they mistreated her when she was younger. Basically, using the "I've been through a lot" card to justify her bad attitude towards the rest of the cast. Phaedra & Porsha were the first ones to console her because after all, they co-sign everything Nene says; they're her puppets. When Nene says jump, Porsha & Phaedra ask how high? During the RHOA Reunion Pt. 3, Nene was lit up on social media. My Twitter feed was blowing up with comments about how Nene is full of crap, she deserves a Grammy for her great acting (fake tears), and so on. Nene needs to cut the crap with those fake tears. She'll be back to acting a black fool next season. She isn't slick. When Kenya & Nene had their fallout, Kenya's aunt schooled her on forgiveness, and I have to admit it: Kenya, Cynthia and Claudia showed much class when they consoled Nene, even though she's treated them horribly. There's a reason why Kenya, Claudia & Cynthia are called Team Pretty, because of their character and obvious looks.
Claudia, Cynthia & Kenya didn't have to console Nene after how she did them, but I respect them for being the better people. Most people would be like "Big deal if Nene's crying, she deserves to feel every bit of guilt for her mistreatment of others." Sometimes, those feelings are justified; other times, you have to be the BETTER person, even if someone is acting a fool. I doubt Nene is going to turn over a new leaf because if she's been brash & rude since Season 1, why change now? It's working for her, so she might as well stay true to herself. When she broke down on national TV, I wasn't buying it. Why? Because when someone shows you their true nature, believe them. Yes, God can change a person's heart, but they have to let him.

Personal traumas do not give folks a green light to hurt people. Yes, hurt people hurt people, but that's still no excuse. Deal with your pain and move on. Once again, Nene needs to cut the crap.
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