Jan 1, 2015

New Year, Same You


Today's message is timely because it's January 1, 2015. Around this time, you'll hear people on & offline saying New Year, New Me. The premise behind New Year, New Me is to get rid of the old and ring in a new year on a fresh note. Honestly, I've never felt the need to utter New Year, New Me because it's cliche. Some people utter that phrase because it sounds good, but some of them probably won't put any action behind it. Motivational tweets are fine & good, but if they don't have action behind them, then it's useless. I'm a work in progress all year, not just on January 1st (insert year). I live each day striving to do better, so that at the end of the year I'll have no regrets about what I should've, could've or would've done. Each new year is a chance to set new goals and implement the game plan. When I hear New Year, New Me it's like people making New Year's Resolutions. You have 3 types of NYR (New Year's Resolution) makers: 1. Those who make resolutions and see them through to the end. 2. People who make resolutions and abandon them within the first few weeks or months. 3. Those who make resolutions just to hear themselves. Most people will fall into one of these categories. I've noticed that some people don't have to say New Year, New Me because they have nothing to prove to anyone. They're too busy living that statement. In conclusion, if you're going to say New Year, New Me, please put some action behind that phrase. Otherwise, it's cliche. Be Blessed & Happy New Year.
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Dec 31, 2014

Anti-Black (wo)men


Black men and women have always been at odds, but social media has brought the discord to the forefront. You can be on Twitter and see disparaging comments about black men from black women and vice versa. Truthfully, it doesn't make sense because when it comes down to it, black men and women are in the same boat. Black women have issues just like black men, so it's stupid for both sides to shade each other. Instead of warring with each other, black men and women need to be trying to come together to battle the ills in the black community. I used to be in a lot of Relationship Talk groups on, and they started off with real talk, then degenerated into anti-black (wo)men rhetoric. I had to get out of those groups because I felt myself getting caught up in that mess, and I can't be around foolishness of any kind. I was friends with a certain Facebooker (she's not worthy of mentioning) who although has some good discussions that I've took part in, recently the last few posts have been about how black men & women are no good; some black women are looking for a man who makes $150K a year with a nice car, 6-pack, etc. The men were no better because they were feeding into the nonsense by saying all black women are good for is booty and their cooking prowess (or lack thereof). My thing is both sides look like clowns when they disparage each other on social media.
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Dec 30, 2014

Inspiration

Here's a collection of inspiring tweets to encourage someone. I may not know who needs encouragement, but I'm confident these tweets will inspire readers to keep pushing.



















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Dec 29, 2014

Gratitude & Patience


Two things define you: Your patience when you have nothing and gratitude when you have everything. I'm a big believer in this statement because it holds a lot of weight. It's easy to be thankful when everything's sweet, and things are going your way. You're shining on your job, business is prospering, debt free, etc. By all accounts, you're on point and with good reason. You've worked hard to get where you're at & given what you've gone through, you're not ashamed to testify where you've come from. You're very humble because you know what you've gone through to get where you are, and you never feel a need to brag about how many homes & cars you have. You meet people who are less fortunate and you're compelled to bless them in any way you see fit. That's all part of being grateful for having everything because as soon as you get blessed, you try and bless others.
What do you do when you have next to nothing and you're busting your butt to make it to the top, but it seems like every door is slammed shut? You're tired of struggling, and you want more in life but it's not the right time. You have two choices: 1.You can keep fighting for that dream, and move heaven & eart to make it happen or 2. You can give up, and never see that dream manifest. Many people go with #2 because they're so weary from fighting that they feel that goal is not meant for them to achieve, so they quit. However, there's that select few who choose to make it happen by any means necessary; even if that means trimming the fat from their lives (removing dead weight in the form of naysayers). They've got laser-like focus that nothing will stop them from getting what they desire in life. As stated in the tweet, you're defined by two things, which one will define YOU?
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Dec 26, 2014

Words Of Wisdom

Here's a collection of inspirational tweets:




















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Dec 25, 2014

Oh Hi, I Only Exist When You Need Something


People are funny. Not in a kee kee ha ha kind of funny, but the shaking your head, are you serious kind of way. When you forget about someone, you completely write them off, or so you should. Forgetting about someone involves NOT asking them for any favors because you forgot about them. Let me give a couple of examples:

1. You and a close friend have a falling out and part on bad terms. Months or years later, your friend loses their job and needs you as a reference. You remember how they did you, so you tell them no. Your rationale for telling them no is that they cut you off, and now they need something from you.
2. Growing up, your parents mistreated you throughout your life and surprisingly, you didn't let it bother you. It was your parents who treated you like you weren't wanted. Outsiders treated you better than your own parents. You took that pain and turned it into motivation to better yourself. Put yourself through undergraduate and graduate school and landed a great job, debt free. You're successful by society's standards. Years later, your parents fall deathly ill and the rest of the family doesn't bother to visit them. The family gets in your ear about how you shouldn't visit them because they tell you "remember how they treated you back in the day, now they expect you to be there for them" You don't go because you know it's gonna be more of the same nonsense. You made a choice to cut toxic people out of your life and you're better for it.

If you're going to forget someone, forget them completely. Don't forget about someone, then go back to them for what you may need in the future. That's foolish, and makes you look crazy.
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Dec 24, 2014

Fighting Temptation


What seems simple to most people is difficult for others for some reason. If you're in a relationship with someone, be exclusive to them. Having a mistress/side man is not a good look for you or the other person because you're leading them on. Side pieces and mistresses are exactly why many people are hesitant to enter committed relationships because having someone on the side signals greed. You're not satisfied with one good (wo)man because you think your side piece may give you what your spouse is lacking, so in your mind you get the best of both worlds by getting 2 for 1. The downside is having to juggle spending time with your main spouse and your extra. When it comes to relationships, men & women are greedy. It's not enough to be faithful to one (wo)man, folks got to be married and cheat on the side. If you know you're not faithful, don't waste your time and someone else's double dipping. That's how folks end up on Cheaters or First 48.
In today's world & with today's generation, with so many temptations & women who don't mind being mistresses & men with the "Wife & a GF on the side" mentality, who would want to be married to anyone these days? Marriage is a joke to some people because nobody takes it seriously; so I can't blame anyone when they say they'd rather not make that commitment. When someone decides to use wisdom NOT to get married, here come comments like "you're scared of committment, something is wrong with you, etc." If committment means having to question your partner's faithfulness, I want no part of that. The marriage community can have that For Better Or Worse mindset. Myself, and other likeminded folks can swerve on all that drama (swerve means to sidestep, avoid pitfalls, etc.). Life is too short to worry about someone stepping out on you. It's better to be single and have no worries, then get married to someone and you have to question their loyalty.
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