I'm Bossy-Kelis

 

Back in '06, Kelis dropped the song "I'm Bossy" The theme is to empower women to be more assertive. Many women carry that over into their relationships with men, and wonder why they can't keep one. Unless the man is a simp (there are weak men who actually like bossy women), no real man wants a bossy woman. Men are strong-willed and tough, and if you put a bossy woman into the mix, there will be friction because both man and woman will want their way. There can never be two chiefs in a relationship because of the inevitable conflict. It's somewhat acceptable for a man to be bossy because men are authoritative by nature, but for a woman to be bossy...that's not hot. I'm not saying she has to be a doormat (most women wouldn't go for that), but there's a fine line between assertive and demanding.

Ever since "I'm Bossy" came out, women have eaten this song up like a buffet. Regular women from time to time scream I'm Bossy. I don't have time to deal with a bossy woman because no matter what I do for her, it may never be good enough. A bossy woman will have a man jump through many hoops just because. No one has time for that. If a man wants a bossy woman, that's his perogative; he needs to understand that he can't complain about her being unreasonable because he chose her. Obviously, he liked her bossy nature if he slept with her. One thing's certain, I wish I would be interested in a bossy woman. I don't have to worry about that because I'm more laid-back so it's natural for me to want a laid-back woman.

I don't understand how some men LIKE bossy women, that has never clicked with me. Maybe he likes a bossy woman in the bedroom, but I digress. The only men who like domineering women are simps, and we all know simp men have no backbone. If simps want bossy women, they can have them.

 

 

You're That Chick

You're That Chick: Destroying a family because you can't get your own man, knowing good and well he's not leaving his wife. You're just a side piece to him.

You're That Chick: Sleeping her way to the top because she can't get there on talent and hard work.

You're That Chick: First one to say she doesn't like drama, but always in the midst of it.

You're That Chick: Telling a man what his role is, but when he tells a woman what her role is, it's a problem.

You're That Chick: Posting all your drama on Facebook, then get upset when people judge you.

You're That Chick: Complains about thirsty men in her inbox, but her pics have her bent over with her butt tooted in the air. She brought that on herself.

You're That Chick: Being combative with men, but want to cower when he puts you in your place, and dares you to move.

You're That Chick: Faithfully tuning into Scandal Thursday evening, but don't know how to cook.

You're That Chick: Teaching your son how to "beat it up". I believe that's called incest. Ewwww.

You're That Chick who thinks it's cute to have your little girl cussing up a storm. No, it's not. I'm sick of seeing these videos of little ghetto children cursing like grown folks. That's not hot, and never was.

You're That Chick who thinks she can raise a boy into a man. Look at all these effeminate young men, and I ask how's that working out for you?

You're That Chick who would rather spend $500 on weave than your child(ren).

 

*If all of these make a woman "that chick" then she needs to do some serious soul-searching. Being "that chick" is nothing to be proud of.

Powerful Revelation About Prayer

This was posted on Kala Brown's wall. It's long, but worth the read. Read On:

 

Last week, I had a conversation with my brother Ivan Christopher about prayer. He happened to mention that someone recently told him that they would pray for him, and he asked them not to. When I asked why he refused the prayer, Ivan said, "Because I don't know the spirit from which that man prays. And, he might be sending me negative energy without me knowing it."

This ...is very interesting. The power of prayer comes not from the conscious section of the mind, but the subconscious. In many people, the two are not in alignment. For example, a person whose idea of GOD and prayer are based on suffering and struggle, might make a prayer as follows:

"Dear God, please help (insert name here). I know he has been struggling with debt, and is in a bad place. He is dealing with problems and issues that he needs to overcome, please help him. I know we are not worthy. But, please help him get out of his struggle. Please help him get away from the pain. Please help him get out of poverty...."

This prayer may have good conscious intentions. But, the subconscious mind (which is responsible for sending out the energy of prayer) does not process negation. In other words, it feeds off of the imagery that the person praying is painting. So, the above prayer is more than likely generating the energy of struggle, debt, bad placement, problems, issues, pain, and poverty. When this energy is focused on another, it is working to activate that energy in that person's life. And, the stronger the emotion (energy motion) is from the person praying, the more powerful the energy.

The best prayers come from a space of power and faith. So, if you're going to pray for someone, be sure that you are sending that type of energy out. Try something like:

"In the Name of (insert your label for GOD here), I command that a spirit of triumph comes over (insert name here)! I send powerful vibrations of wealth and success in his direction! Send this brother the power of wisdom and discernment, so that he can overcome anything in his path! We are made in YOUR Image and Likeness, thus are endowed with the power to create! Help this brother to utilize YOUR Creative Force to better his life. I know he can overcome anything. I know he has the power to achieve great wealth..."

That is virtually the same prayer. But, the polarity is much different. So, before you let a person pray for you, be sure that the energy that (s)he is sending to you will be positive, productive, and empowering. And, if you pray for another, you be sure to to the same. Otherwise, you just may be unconsciously helping to keep a person in the same space that you are trying to pray them out of. ~Wize Shabazz

 

Great Read, and puts prayer in perspective. While people who pray for you mean well, it's important to be in the right mindframe before you agree to let someone pray for you (and you pray for someone).

Never Trust A Man

Tina Campbell, one half of the group Mary Mary experienced infidelity from  her husband Teddy. Last night's episode was about Teddy cheating on Tina. What wasn't shown on TV was her kicking him out when he first revealed his infidelity to her. Anyway, they had a long discussion as to what drove him to cheat. They are currently working through this issue because Tina expressed her committment to For Better Or Worse. Tina's husband creeping showed that you can never trust a man. No matter how faithful a woman is to her man, it must be in him not to violate her trust. Once a man cheats on his woman, that's it. She will never be able to look at him the same again, and she shouldn't.

Why should a woman look at her man in a good light after he violated her trust? That's silly to me and is a cardinal reason why men repeatedly cheat on their women, because they know she will always take him back. I respect Tina's decision to forgive her husband, and try to work through it. I guess some people do take For Better or Worse seriously. If that were me, I would forgive her for cheating, but I couldn't look at her the same way. If I'm with a woman, I want to trust her to come home to me daily (and vice versa). Trust is very important to me, and if I can't trust her, I'm not checking for her. I hope they can work through their marital issues, because they make a great couple.

Tina's marital woes have shown that you can't trust a man. A couple can't be together 24-7 because of work committments. One can only hope that the time a couple is apart, they're honoring their vows. A man doesn't know what his woman is doing outside of his presence unless she tells him, and a woman doesn't know her man's daily routine unless he clues her in. Communication and honesty should be at the forefront of every couple's relationship.

On The Fringe

When butterflies hatch at Frederick Meijer Gardens in Grand Rapids Michigan, they do so in an indoor tropical paradise perfectly suited to meet their every need. The temperature & humidity are perfect. The food is a perfect balance of calories and nutrition to keep them healthy, no need to go elsewhere. Yet, some butterflies see the bright blue sky outside the conservatory and spend their days fluttering near the glass ceiling far away from the plentiful food supply. I want to say to those butterflies, "Don't you know everything you need is inside? The outside is cold and harsh, and you will die within minutes if you get what you are longing to have." I wonder if that's the message God has for me. So I ask myself, Do I look longingly at things that would harm me? Do I use my energy to gain what I need and shouldn't have? Do I ignore God's plentiful provision because I imagine that something just beyond my reach is better? Do I spend time on the fringes of faith? God supplies all our needs from his riches (Phil. 4:19). So instead of striving for what I don't have, I pray that I open my heart to gracefully receive everything I've already been given by him.

Bumper Cars

Life is a lot like "bumper cars" at an amusement park. You get in your car, knowing that you will get hit...you just don't know how hard. When you get hit, you step on the gas pedal, chase the one who has hit you, and hope to bump that person harder than they have bumped you. That may be a fun strategy for bumper cars, but it's a terrible strategy for life. When you get bumped in life, bumping back only escalates matters and in the end everyone suffers damage. Jesus had a better strategy: Forgive those who have bumped us. Like Peter, we may wonder how many times we have to forgive. When Peter asked Jesus, "Up to seven times?" Jesus answered "Up to seventy times seven" In other words, there are no limits to grace.

We should always extend a spirit of forgiveness. Why? In the story of the forgiving master, Jesus explained that we forgive not because our offenders deserve it, but because we've been forgiven. He says, "I forgave you...because you begged me. Should you not also have had compassion on your fellow servant, just as I had pity on you?" Since we are among those who've been forgiven much, let's stop the damage and share that blessing with others.

Spending $8,000 On Booty

What man in his right mind would spend $8,000 on booty at the strip club? If you're Apollo Nida (Phaedra's husband on Atlanta Housewives), that's what you would do. When Kenya Moore made that statement, it reminded me of how messed up some people's priorities are. Spending $8,000 on booty is nothing to write home about; it's booty for goodness sake! If you're me, you're going to take that $8,000 and invest it or tithe 30%. I can't see myself going to a strip club, let alone spend thousands of dollars at one. Not everyone has good financial sense, and I'm ok with that. I'm sorry, but I laughed so hard inside when Apollo said he spent $8,000 at the strip club on booty. That's the dumbest thing ANYONE could do; then again, I don't put nothing past anyone.

No booty is worth $8,000; I'm being real with you. Here's my thing: What's the appeal about strip clubs? You pay to look at some woman gyrate on stage, and possibly give you a lap dance. I'm not understanding the appeal because I've never been to a strip joint, nor do I have the desire. Don't patrons realize these girls gyrate on men every night? At some strip clubs, you can even touch or sex the stripper in the VIP room. With so many diseases running around, the last thing people need is worries of catching something. I still can't get over how Apollo, or any man for that matter can drop 8 stacks on booty. LOL...hilarious. Some of these men are bananas. If I'm going to spend $8,000 on something, it better be worthwhile.

I could do a lot with $8,000: Put it into my account, invest it, give a generous donation to a charity I support, etc. Never would I spend 8 stacks on a body part. That's silly to me that anyone would throw money away on foolishness, but it happens. When the time comes to really need money, you don't have it because you spent it on booty.