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Nov 19, 2013
Nov 18, 2013
Marathon Marriage
When I think of a marathon marriage, I think of a marriage that has lasted 70+ years. Those are the cream of the crop marriages; those marriages have weathered storms that would wipe most couples off the map. What makes a marathon marriage is a couple that honors the vows they made to God, and each other. There aren't too many marriages that last 70+ years, and there aren't supposed to be. It's awesome that some couples are married for 50 years, 60 years even. It's another ball game when you remain married to the same person for 70+ years. Just like the top 1% of income earners control over 90% of current affairs, marathon marrieds are in a class of their own. Herbert & Zelmyra Fisher went down in history as holding the record for longest married couple. They were married for 86 years before Mr. Fisher passed in February at 104. He is survived by his wife Zelmyra, who is 101. I look at couples who have been married for 70+ years, and think of their undying committment to each other. No matter how much they pissed each other off, they handled that and got back on good terms. They didn't let small matters screw up their committment to each other. There are going to be more than enough rough patches in a couple who's been married for 70+ years, I know. What matters is the level of committment. I think when a person decides on marriage, they have to be able to overlook small stuff. They must accept that their partner will say & do things to piss them off (and vice versa), but if it can be worked through, by all means go for it. A lot goes into a marathon marriage. You can't marry anybody and expect to be married for 70 years, not unless you've done due diligence on that (wo)man. People show you their true colors over time, but they always show you their good side in the early relationship stages. Nobody wants to run off a great catch. For me, I would rather a woman be straight with me about her character. Tell me what your flaws are, and I'll decide if I can work with them. Everyone has the potential for a marathon marriage, but that requires discipline, committment, and compromise. Sadly, some people will never have a marathon marriage because they are too prideful to let the small stuff go. Look at the couples who have been married for 70 years or more...Only God can keep a marriage together for that length of time. You can't do that on your own.
Nov 15, 2013
Sacrifice
I want to talk to you today about Sacrifice. What is Sacrifice? My definition of sacrifice is putting yourself on the backburner for another person. Before we were born, our parents had ambitions of a better life. They had us, and had to sacrifice their dreams to take care of us. It takes a special person to sacrifice because you don't know when the time will come for them to sacrifice for you, or whether they will return the favor. As much as I hate saying this, I have to be honest: You're going to sacrifice at some point in life. At work, you have plans of hanging out with co-workers after your shift ends, but your boss mandates OT for the entire department because a deadline must be met by Monday at noon. Your boss has his staff work all weekend to meet the deadline. You can't refuse mandatory overtime or you'll face disciplinary action. In marriage, sacrifice is mandatory if kids come into the picture. Your days of having fun are long gone because raising children requires a lot of time. You're investing in your children so they grow up to be productive members of society. Gone are the days of staying out until midnight on a weekday, or until 2am on the weekends. A husband wants a new yacht, but his wife wants a luxury vacation to San Trope. 9 times out of 10, the husband has to sacrifice his yacht to take his wife on a vacation. No matter what, you're going to sacrifice in life. It's part of co-existing with your fellow man. The only way you won't sacrifice is if you live life as a loner, and even then you'll still sacrifice for the greater good. If you're in a relationship with someone and you're doing all the sacrifice, you need to re-evaluate that relationship. A relationship involves BOTH contributing 100%. There will be times when one person is giving more than the other, but if you're the one always sacrificing for your spouse, you need to evaluate what's in it for you. I'm all for sacrifice if it's for my greater good. If the sacrifice isn't benefitting me, then I won't do it. Even if I do sacrifice for the greater good, chances are I will expect sacrifice in return. It's the right thing to do.
Nov 14, 2013
Money=Immunity
Men with money get away with a lot more in a relationship than broke men. Think about it: A man with money can cheat on his lady, do all kinds of lowdown things to her and she'll take him back because women are looking for security. If a man is taking good care of his woman, she's going to overlook a lot she wouldn't normally overlook. Read what 3 facebookers had to say on this issue:
From Kala Brown: Expectations don't change but expectations are always met. With that being said, if your dude was financially set; Took care of you, would you overlook certain things that you normally wouldn't?
Twanna Gill Nope. Because taking care of me means taking care of all of me. So making deposits in my bank account & withdrawals from my heart isn't going to work for me.
Twanna Gill's response was spot on because she's an excellent example of how some women can't be bought. All the money and goodness a man lavishes won't cut it. Many women are making their own money, so they aren't phased by financially secure men. That may work on younger women, but not seasoned women like Twanna. Even if a man's broke & trifling, some women are so desperate for a man that she'll put up with anything if he's laying it down right. No matter how stand-up a woman may be, she's just as susceptible to having this kind of game ran on her. This is why discernment is key. Many men understand women are checking for established men, and some men play on this.
Richard Hudson Many women echo Twanna's sentiment, but sing a different tune with a few well-placed emotions. "Baby I'm sorry, I'll do better. Let me take you out tonight" Woman: Awww...ok hun, I forgive you.
Nov 13, 2013
Random Thought
Have you ever noticed that people tend to act differently around those they think can do something for them — people who appear to have status, wealth or influence in life? I believe that the way we treat people is a test. At times, God will bring people across your path that may seem insignificant. They may not appear to be able to do anything for you, but in reality, they are divinely linked to your destiny. They hold the key to your promotion and increase. Will you treat them with respect and honor even if you think they can’t do anything for you? The truth is, the people that we’re playing up to or trying to win their favor may be the ones that will open a door for us. But, they don’t hold the key to your destiny. Promotion doesn’t come from them. Promotion comes from God. And God will use the most unlikely people to open doors of opportunity for you — a hotel bellman, a maid, an intern, or an unpopular kid at school. Let’s pass the test and treat everyone like Jesus put them in our path because He probably did. I have to keep this in mind with how I treat people, because I don't want to miss my blessing. The Bible does mention entertaining angels in disguise. People expect influential people to open doors for us, and God does use influential people to open doors; More times than not, God uses people that society deems insignificant to give us promotion & increase. Remember, God is watching and promotion comes from Him.
Nov 12, 2013
True Or False?
True Or False: If a woman doesn't trust her man when he's given her no reason to doubt him, she's not to be trusted.
Here are the responses to the question I posed on Facebook:
Destiny Bennett-Whiteside Some people are insecure from past experiences or sometimes from watching the ones around them
Richard Hudson I say True and False. Think about it: A woman who suspects her man of doing dirt could be the one doing her own dirt. She doesn't want the heat on her so she does everything to deflect onto him. False, because even the most stand-up men & women are prone to infidelity.
Maurice Wilkerson True with some women not all. some women might be hiding something and is afraid to tell but it depends on what it is.
Richard Hudson That's the thing: Leave your baggage at the terminal before boarding another relationship. Matter of fact, throw the baggage as far as east is from west.
Twanna Gill sometimes you don't even realize you are carrying excess luggage Richard Hudson and then there is some stuff that will simply always be a part of you....
Richard Hudson So she's going to make the next man pay for the sins of the ex? That's bonkers. It happens, but it's bonkers. I feel what everyone is saying though. We all have baggage to some degree.
Twanna Gill yeah, I think we all do to a certain degree. There is a fine line between learning from your past and making someone else pay for it...
Destiny Bennett-Whiteside This applies to men that don't trust their woman for no reason too right ??
April McLemore That was my next question Destiny Bennett-Whiteside.....I learned why he was questioning me when I was traveling for business or if I didn't answer because there was no reception in the mall....lol cause his ass was doing dirt...smh
Anthony Archie I feel since a woman base everything on what a man do, it do make men not trust them especially if they think he can't be trusted and she might not have a reason. Probably her own guilty conscious
Maurice Wilkerson if a woman feels that she cant trust me and i havent given her no reasons then go on are leave. i dont have the time for insecure women .come upfront or dont come at all.
Toni AdvocatingforJustice Whitley False: Trust, just like most things in life, have to be earned. There are going to be various levels of insecurities from both men and women. Just bc she does not trust you does not imply that she is cheating, there are other factors that have to be taken into consideration to make that determination.
Thomas Stafford yea some people might not trust because trust all ready have been broking before you lets face it people get hurt and some time never grow from it
Shai's Genjutsu She has issues then if she's giving him a hard time without a good reason. I wouldn't stay if I was him. No use in jumping through hoops when I'm not trusted anyways. I'd urge her to figure out what's going on with her and heal first before ever attempting another relationship.
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