I was having a conversation with a Facebook friend, and we got to discussing relationships. One of the topics was why men tend to shift blame onto women when the relationship goes sour. Both points were made from my end and hers, and it was a good convo. One thing I can't stand is a man who blames women for his downfall. Most challenges we face in life, are of our own accord. When someone tells us to go left, we go right & vice versa. The only exception is the Adam & Eve story in the Bible, where Adam and Eve were given dominion over the entire Garden. They could eat from any tree except the Knowledge of Good & Evil. Eve allowed the serpent to deceive her into eating the apple. They tried to play it off, but God knew what they did. Adam tried to blame Eve for making him eat the forbidden fruit. I'm paraphrasing what Adam told God, when he asked why did you eat the fruit. Adam: God, that woman you gave to me, she took the first bite, and I did too. Eve got the worst of the punishment. Adam wasn't off the hook either, because God came down on him. This story is testament to how some men act like they're powerless when it comes to women. They can't do such & such because of a woman, they need a woman's permission to be the man in a relationship. That's hilarious to me, because if I'm involved with a woman, I'm going to be the man with(out) her. I refuse to ask for my lady's permission to "be the man"; what do I look like? Last time I checked, I'm grown. I would hope she doesn't ask for my permission to be the woman. The next one is a gray area: Women say they want a man who's honest, but when he keeps it real with her, she can't accept it. He has a valid point when he tells her "Don't ask for the real, if you can't accept it". Their relationship is built on a lie, and it's nothing but turmoil. Ok...the smart person would tell the truth regardless of whether their mate accepts or not. It's no sweat off his/her back, because (s)he knows the truth, (s)he's just trying to help you out, by trying to enlighten you. If you don't want the truth, that's on you. A man who keeps it real with his woman would tell her: I'm going to be honest, regardless of whether you accept the truth or not. If you want to bounce, go right ahead. I refuse to lie to you to spare your feelings (you can do this without being a jerk). I just can't stand men who feel like they can't do/be anything without a woman's permission. You don't see women looking to men for approval. I rest my case.
Sep 2, 2013
Aug 30, 2013
Confused: By Lotus (How To Be A Woman)
How to Be a Woman
August 28 via mobile
CONFUSED
Ladies,
Don't blame him because you confuse no good men with quality men and jokers with Kings and peons with men of nobility.
Don't blame him because you confuse simps with strong men and little boys with grown men.
Don't blame him because you confuse disrespect with reverence and sex with love and contempt with admiration.
Because neglect is not concern, indifference is not compassion and disregard is not respect.
You must take responsibility for your choices. You will never be able to identify the exceptional if you can't even recognize the inferior. Confusion is for commoners. Clarification is for Queens.
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Ladies,
Don't blame him because you confuse no good men with quality men and jokers with Kings and peons with men of nobility.
Don't blame him because you confuse simps with strong men and little boys with grown men.
Don't blame him because you confuse disrespect with reverence and sex with love and contempt with admiration.
Because neglect is not concern, indifference is not compassion and disregard is not respect.
You must take responsibility for your choices. You will never be able to identify the exceptional if you can't even recognize the inferior. Confusion is for commoners. Clarification is for Queens.
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Aug 29, 2013
Keep Pressing In: By Tanya Ware
In Scripture, there was a lady who had been sick with a bleeding disorder for twelve years. She went to the best doctors, received the finest treatment, but her health continued to decline. One day, she got word that Jesus was coming through her town. When she heard that, something came alive on the inside. She had so much coming against her, but she didn’t focus on that; she knew it was her time for healing. Instead of giving up, she fought her way through the crowds and touched the edge of Jesus’ robe. When she did, immediately she was made whole.
I wonder how many other people were there like her in that same type of situation. They were sick. They were discouraged. They had trouble. But they just watched Jesus pass by. They let excuses keep them from their miracle. Friend, don’t let that be you. Don’t let your circumstances keep you from reaching out to Jesus. It doesn’t matter what’s happened in your past, just keep moving forward. God has destiny moments in store for you. Keep pressing in, keep believing, keep praying and, like this woman, reach out to Him. Know that He is faithful, and He will meet your faith with His power.
I wonder how many other people were there like her in that same type of situation. They were sick. They were discouraged. They had trouble. But they just watched Jesus pass by. They let excuses keep them from their miracle. Friend, don’t let that be you. Don’t let your circumstances keep you from reaching out to Jesus. It doesn’t matter what’s happened in your past, just keep moving forward. God has destiny moments in store for you. Keep pressing in, keep believing, keep praying and, like this woman, reach out to Him. Know that He is faithful, and He will meet your faith with His power.
Aug 28, 2013
Men Could Care Less: By Lotus
Ladies,
Most men really don't care how many degrees you have. It does make you valuable to your employer, not as much to your man. If you don't know your role and can't play your position, he couldn't care less. If you're constantly throwing up your degrees in the face of every man you meet, is there any wonder you're single? If submission is brought up, there are women that love to counter and call it slavery. Yet, they have no problem being a "slave" to that career but can't submit to their man. If you are lacking the necessary prowess to be a good mother and wife, how valuable are you in your marriage and/or relationship? Men are interested in what kind of partner you will be. They want to know if you are a nurturing woman capable of embracing your role as the first teacher of the children and capable of properly caring for them. They are interested in knowing if you can take a house and make it into a home. And they need to understand that you can feed their soul with love and nourish their body with a meal. For some, an appraisal is long overdue, because you may not be as valuable as you think you are. The "depreciated value" just might shock you.
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Most men really don't care how many degrees you have. It does make you valuable to your employer, not as much to your man. If you don't know your role and can't play your position, he couldn't care less. If you're constantly throwing up your degrees in the face of every man you meet, is there any wonder you're single? If submission is brought up, there are women that love to counter and call it slavery. Yet, they have no problem being a "slave" to that career but can't submit to their man. If you are lacking the necessary prowess to be a good mother and wife, how valuable are you in your marriage and/or relationship? Men are interested in what kind of partner you will be. They want to know if you are a nurturing woman capable of embracing your role as the first teacher of the children and capable of properly caring for them. They are interested in knowing if you can take a house and make it into a home. And they need to understand that you can feed their soul with love and nourish their body with a meal. For some, an appraisal is long overdue, because you may not be as valuable as you think you are. The "depreciated value" just might shock you.
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My $.02: It's one thing to be proud of your education, but to rub it in a man's face is lame. Some women have a Master's Degree, but they can't cook. They have a Ph.D in Bioscience, but they don't know what it takes to keep a man. Where they do that at?
Aug 27, 2013
Janet Jackson-What Have You Done For Me Lately?
20 hours ago
So many of us as women sound like that classic Janet Jackson joint "What have you done for me lately?".....when the question can be asked what have we as Black Women done for the Black Man LATELY?
When was the last time we showed him support and encouragement?
When was the last time you even OPENED your MOUTH to speak to one as he passed by?
When was the last time the man in your life could see that you love him through your ACTIONS; not from what you profess with your mouth?
When was the last time you asked a Black Man his dreams, and goals, and was prepared to bring them into fruition?
When was the last time you laced your voice with caring instead of contempt?
When was the last time the man in your life ate a meal that didn't come out of a box?
Here is how reciprocity works....whatever you WANT....you must be first willing to GIVE.
And for all those women that say I promote doing "too much" for the Black Man...you will always
When was the last time we showed him support and encouragement?
When was the last time you even OPENED your MOUTH to speak to one as he passed by?
When was the last time the man in your life could see that you love him through your ACTIONS; not from what you profess with your mouth?
When was the last time you asked a Black Man his dreams, and goals, and was prepared to bring them into fruition?
When was the last time you laced your voice with caring instead of contempt?
When was the last time the man in your life ate a meal that didn't come out of a box?
Here is how reciprocity works....whatever you WANT....you must be first willing to GIVE.
And for all those women that say I promote doing "too much" for the Black Man...you will always
find your man "never doing enough" for you...because he doesn't have the MOTIVATION to do so.
The last sentence says it all: If a woman finds her man not doing enough for her, he lost his motivation. One can only guess why.
Aug 26, 2013
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Don't people understand the concept of family anymore? Families putting each other on blast on national TV for fame/fortune. Makes no sense.— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) August 25, 2013
This goes against what I stand for as a Christian: It's the devil's world, and we just live in it.— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) August 25, 2013
#ICanHonestlySay that America IS NOT a Christian nation. Look at the nonsense going on, and get back with me.
— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) August 25, 2013
A man must understand himself before he can understand a woman.— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) August 24, 2013The most important lesson a father can teach his daughter, is to never let a man call her the B-word for ANY reason.
— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) August 20, 2013
You can have an easy relationship if you select a likeminded person. You will have rough times, but you'll get through them faster.— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) August 24, 2013
Some women are waiting on their Boaz, but they settle for Jo Jo with 5 kids, and no job. Epic Fail— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) August 21, 2013
Women want their man to open up, but she's not ready for what he has to say.— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) August 22, 2013
There cannot be two chiefs in a relationship, for there will be conflict. Someone must be the chief, and the other person must be the indian— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) August 16, 2013
Every man who speaks to a woman isn't checking for her, so ladies stop with the attitude. Besides, it's not his fault you failed at life.— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) August 16, 2013
Samson was tue biggest simp in the Bible. He allowed Delilah to seduce him into telling her the secret of his strength, and he was done for.— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) August 18, 2013
There are saints, and snakes in church. Many times, the snakes outweigh the saints.— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) August 19, 2013
The most important lesson a father can teach his daughter, is to never let a man call her the B-word for ANY reason — Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) August 20, 2013
There's nothing open after dark but legs and Waffle House.— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) August 2, 2013
Stop Being Thirsty: By Trina Rogers
Stop looking so Thirsty. Stop looking so EASY. Stop looking so trashy and find some class about what you do. Let someone WANT YOU, instead of acting like you need them all the time. Let someone meet your standard instead of you lowering yours to meet theirs all the time. Don't allow your loneliness to make you think that every smile someone gives you means that they want you. Never let your thirst... cause your perception to mislabel someone's intention. Learn how to take a compliment without creating SOMETHING in your mind that doesn't exist. Every compliment someone gives you shouldn't make you fall in love with that person. Stop making yourself so available. There's nothing special about being easy access, so stop advertising yourself as wholesale when your value should be something that can't be bought. Everybody doesn't deserve you, so stop giving your heart, your body, your mind, to any and everybody. Just because they tell you the right things doesn't make them the right one. Just because the first date went right doesn't make them wifey/husband material. Stop searching for it, and let God bring it to you. Acting DESPERATE for attention is not attractive. Not respecting yourself for attention is not attractive. Begging to be noticed is not attractive. Insecure people do that. Insecure people want attention, secure people demand respect. Insecure people brag and show off, secure people are humble. Insecure people PRETEND to be perfect, secure people embrace their flaws. There's beauty in confidence, but confidence isn't about showing off what you got, it's more about being secure in what you lack. Thirsty people are addicted to attention and will do anything to get it. DON'T LET THAT BE YOU!!!!
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